Friends -weeds I

    In the second part of my essay about friendship, i`ll discuss one very different aspect of friendship, which though is very important. In the previous text I showed what are the perfect qualities of true friend and of soul-mate, dividing them in trines (love –forgiveness –support), and comparing them with the blooms of a spring tree.

   Now I`ll turn attention to the opposite aspect, as we know all has two sides –light and dark, Ying and Yang. This topic may be endless, but here I would like to point out the basic elements. We all know what true friendship should be, that it needs divine qualities like trustfulness, honesty, openness, sharing, love, forgiveness, support, freedom of expression. But I want to ask you: do you have a friend, who you are doubtful? You are not quite sure, if he is so good friend of you, some hidden things stay between you (behind you), some unclear feelings, some masks, showing, some using the right moment? Maybe yes? And do you have a friend, who is no longer your friend? Because of 100 reasons – dishonesty, betrayal, boredom, tiredness? Did you have a friend, who you considered as a close one, and share so many things together, but strangely you feel like energetically drained, tired and need much rest to recharge after you stay with him some of time?

    If answer is yes in one of these questions, you `ll be interested to know more. This kind of people, who are considered as “friends” from many of us, can be so many categories and cases like stars in galaxy. As I want to make things short here will just say –these people I call expressively with the nice name (angels revealed) friends-weeds. Take care of that the following aspects – friends weeds cant be your soul-mates in your all life; they have high level of selfishness, many of them are feeling like sun- self-centered and want attention of everyone around them; they are not ready for help in any moment, many times such people can be energy vampires who fin very easy ways to drain your energy, while sending you toxic impulses. (Yes, I consider here that we all have separate energy Source of light, no one can steal from our source! But not everyone are very aware of their own path of energy impulses and state of aura, and very few people are expert in energy matters and defense).

Be sure of one – unlike people-thorns –who are directly and unhidden evil, negative and full of thorns against anyone – who you can see and avoid well, friends –weeds are another category. They`ll always be very kind and soft with you, they are perfectly simulating good qualities like honesty, love, respect, empathy, trust…That`s why they are “weeds”. They are simulating to be “real flowers” in your garden, but what you can see is they never bloom. In such way you can recognize real weeds from flowers – they do not have petals and blossoms. They can grow bigger and bigger, feeding from the energy of your garden and care! That’s why weeds are even more dangerous than thorns. They can act and give you a good illusion about their function. With one word – they are fake. Friends- weeds or fake friends will wear mask most of the time and you wont be able to see in their heart. You ll share and share many things, while they ll share very few surface stories. They wont be people of spiritual connection, and you will have feeling (use your Third eye here) that something is wrong, hidden, not as you wish to be. If you have this inner feeling, this is the first alarm someone is a weed. First of all try to look to him and answer yourself simple questions:

- when is the last time this friend shared something good with you? what was that thing?

-  When is the last time he shared something negative with you? how he did that and what was the thing?

-  What did you feel after his sharing? What was your inner emotion and reaction? Did you feel sad, happy, painful?

-  When was the last time you enjoyed happy moment together?

-  When was last time you shared your pain and sadness with this friend? Did you have his support? How did you feel after?

These questions will show you clearly what kind of person is your friend. If he is weed, mostly you ll not have sharing many happy moments together, you ll have strange feeling of “uncleanness” because of his energy that has dark tentacles to your field. Specially if you feel sad and didn’t want to share with him your feelings, that can be also sign, you don’t feel free with this person. Weeds are not easy to be discovered always! Specially if you have big garden (spiritual garden), you`ll need time to find them. But if you already have few friends, it will be easier for you to detect the weeds. 

(* Continue to the second part - )

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