Marriage and separation -III

~ when to stay in union of love? ~

As this article has to prioritize the spiritual views and gives "angelic answers" on my questions, I have to say more: Separation in any love and marriage relationship is needed and obligatory in all cases if we feel “braking of the union”, and of losing completely some important feelings: love, forgiveness, compassion, respect, sharing, understanding, tolerance, gentleness. In some cases this can be also feeling of passion and sexual desire, even though this feeling will gradually decrease and become slow.

    Most of all never stay in any union without feeling of love (and being loved). Another most important feelings are trust, honesty and respect. Any spouse (as I stated in article about love-relationships) – needs to have deeper knowledge and understanding about the values, spiritual views, and insights of his partner. He should be filled with acceptance, or in case of negative habit of his partner, he is obliged to help and show him the way. This guidance and support are very significant for any relationship. No everyone in moments of negative feelings, depression or fear, is aware of his own mistakes and disadvantages. That’s why is important in such moments to feel supported from someone, who will be honest and in the same time gentle. Rude behavior or harsh offensive language are not help in such situation. Human needs exactly opposite to understand the truth – kindness and love. No one would admit his “bad habit” in front of shouting bad words partner. (For example if you are smoker or drink more than usual alcohol regularly, your partner is the one to advice you, to support you and stand with you in positive way, so you can quit that habit.) Of course – here I don’t mention people who are together on basis of “bad habits” who are together inside the “trap”, but in this case one of them could change his way realizing his mistake, and help his beloved to do the same.

III. Marriage in the earth`s future ~

Anyone should understand – separation is immanent and obligatory in case of lost love, distrust, any kind of fear and unforgiveness. Your heart can forgive all, but when you are free, out of the prison of your own fears, prejudices and social chains. That` s why let your soul be free and taste happiness of life, never stay in a marriage or relationship, without your higher Self willing and without love, trust, gentleness and respect. In fact all these feelings are connected and mixed within Love (as universal feeling).

     In the future order and societies, all will be organized in very different manner. Divorce and separation will not bring any stress, broken hearts, and fears. They will be quite normal and usual things, which are even rooted in the system of society. Not everyone of course will use divorce, but it wont be final “act” nearly to social stamp of injustice. It will be normal and friendly process of continuing the way you choose, of respecting the changes in others and your freedom.

Marriage in the future order on earth will be quite different. It will be real union of souls, and the couple will involve in sacred ritual and ceremony for the wedding. Then they will have again appointed time to be together (which is not equal to whole life), but like one year. After that period the couple comes together again to the special person (who will have function of shaman) and they will have to follow some requirements, if they want to stay together. That means marriage not only wont be “forever” and until the end of life, but it will be quite special ritual for union of two souls. If the couple wants to stay together, then they will do so, by following the rules of the shaman” of ceremony. After the year (or the appointed period of marriage) the person gives them special test and ask them questions to view how much they are fitting in the puzzle of marriage, and if their love continue to be strong, how much they are close together, if they know each other positive and negative sides. Finally he asks them if they are willing to continue the sacred marriage. If they want, the a special ceremony (not show but sacred ritual they make in private), is repeated again. Another period of marriage will be appointed (which is made by the shaman). So each period the sacred marriage will be renewed with ritual, or broken, by willing of the couple. Separation can also be possible with the decision of shaman, who will have exact reasons for that – they don’t include any outer obstacles like children, or finances, because in future order there wont be such issues and society wont be build on bank system, and money.

That’s how we see, issue of “separation” and marriage is free from dramatic obstacles or circumstances in the new society. Separation even will be quite usual, normal and part of the individual process of growth. No one will be suffering, or having emotional trauma, because both sides will be free to choose –to continue the marriage union, or to brake it. Of course there will be cases in which the two partners don’t have one and the same feelings or agreement. One may still love his spouse, but if another doesn’t, they cant have real harmony together. That’s how the future order gives priority to freedom, as well as developing spiritual growth and understanding about feelings of another.

      There also can be cases, when the couple decides to separate for period of time, but after that they want to be together again. Their desire will be respected, but in future society will be strict rules about marriage, just because it wont be “just a document sign”, but a sacred ritual. That rules, quite different from what we see today, will have impact in growing population, people to stay in love within the periods of marriage, and more marriages to be performed. Even so, the marriage ceremony wont be so easy as now. It will take time and special preparation. Certain activities will be made. Marriage will look like initiation in special spiritual order. Not like just spontaneous decision from two sides.

That cant be reality of course with the spiritual development of humanity in present. People on earth need first to go through spiritual evolution. Then all things will change, not just the marriage ceremony, but the style of life and values of person. 

Thank you for reading the last part of my thoughts about marriage and separation, feel free to like and share it, or put a comment below! Stay blessed. 

nina Lea-nour *

angel`S medium 

@ 2018

Friends -weeds I

    In the second part of my essay about friendship, i`ll discuss one very different aspect of friendship, which though is very important. In the previous text I showed what are the perfect qualities of true friend and of soul-mate, dividing them in trines (love –forgiveness –support), and comparing them with the blooms of a spring tree.

   Now I`ll turn attention to the opposite aspect, as we know all has two sides –light and dark, Ying and Yang. This topic may be endless, but here I would like to point out the basic elements. We all know what true friendship should be, that it needs divine qualities like trustfulness, honesty, openness, sharing, love, forgiveness, support, freedom of expression. But I want to ask you: do you have a friend, who you are doubtful? You are not quite sure, if he is so good friend of you, some hidden things stay between you (behind you), some unclear feelings, some masks, showing, some using the right moment? Maybe yes? And do you have a friend, who is no longer your friend? Because of 100 reasons – dishonesty, betrayal, boredom, tiredness? Did you have a friend, who you considered as a close one, and share so many things together, but strangely you feel like energetically drained, tired and need much rest to recharge after you stay with him some of time?

    If answer is yes in one of these questions, you `ll be interested to know more. This kind of people, who are considered as “friends” from many of us, can be so many categories and cases like stars in galaxy. As I want to make things short here will just say –these people I call expressively with the nice name (angels revealed) friends-weeds. Take care of that the following aspects – friends weeds cant be your soul-mates in your all life; they have high level of selfishness, many of them are feeling like sun- self-centered and want attention of everyone around them; they are not ready for help in any moment, many times such people can be energy vampires who fin very easy ways to drain your energy, while sending you toxic impulses. (Yes, I consider here that we all have separate energy Source of light, no one can steal from our source! But not everyone are very aware of their own path of energy impulses and state of aura, and very few people are expert in energy matters and defense).

Be sure of one – unlike people-thorns –who are directly and unhidden evil, negative and full of thorns against anyone – who you can see and avoid well, friends –weeds are another category. They`ll always be very kind and soft with you, they are perfectly simulating good qualities like honesty, love, respect, empathy, trust…That`s why they are “weeds”. They are simulating to be “real flowers” in your garden, but what you can see is they never bloom. In such way you can recognize real weeds from flowers – they do not have petals and blossoms. They can grow bigger and bigger, feeding from the energy of your garden and care! That’s why weeds are even more dangerous than thorns. They can act and give you a good illusion about their function. With one word – they are fake. Friends- weeds or fake friends will wear mask most of the time and you wont be able to see in their heart. You ll share and share many things, while they ll share very few surface stories. They wont be people of spiritual connection, and you will have feeling (use your Third eye here) that something is wrong, hidden, not as you wish to be. If you have this inner feeling, this is the first alarm someone is a weed. First of all try to look to him and answer yourself simple questions:

- when is the last time this friend shared something good with you? what was that thing?

-  When is the last time he shared something negative with you? how he did that and what was the thing?

-  What did you feel after his sharing? What was your inner emotion and reaction? Did you feel sad, happy, painful?

-  When was the last time you enjoyed happy moment together?

-  When was last time you shared your pain and sadness with this friend? Did you have his support? How did you feel after?

These questions will show you clearly what kind of person is your friend. If he is weed, mostly you ll not have sharing many happy moments together, you ll have strange feeling of “uncleanness” because of his energy that has dark tentacles to your field. Specially if you feel sad and didn’t want to share with him your feelings, that can be also sign, you don’t feel free with this person. Weeds are not easy to be discovered always! Specially if you have big garden (spiritual garden), you`ll need time to find them. But if you already have few friends, it will be easier for you to detect the weeds. 

(* Continue to the second part - )

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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