Friends - weeds III

   Now another question I want to ask: who is guilty if in a garden there are many weeds – the weeds or the gardener?

    You can understand what I mean. You are guilty and only you are to blame for growing weeds in your spiritual garden. Not the weeds. They live so as their nature is, maybe they will change also in the future. You who should care for your own personal qualities. You are who should pay attention and keep clean your lake of Soul. You are responsible only for growing weeds in your Spirit garden, so do not complain! Don’t blame the weeds. Just remove them, you`ll do much favor for both of you.

   The weeds will be happy to go to another garden, as this is their role –if they continue on the same path.

Be grateful for your own garden and don’t worry about gardens of others. This is another important thing. Don’t look to your friends gardens saying –what nice flowers, I don’t have this…if you want, you can have much more. People, as plants grow from inside –out. From roots to the branches and blooms. We have our seasons – spring of inspiration, free energy flow and joy, summer of peace, love exchanging, connections, autumn of peace, tranquility, memories, melancholy, letting go of past, winter of wisdom, realizing, understanding, feeling the life mission, preparing for the new blooms; Let your flowers grow in freedom and love.

Don’t be sad for the weeds, don’t be sad for the thorns. They always will be there, but when you cleanse space from them –all space will become much beautiful.

And I don’t say weeds are only “people”. Actually with this words I can seem much rude and overbearing. I mean the true – negative and dark qualities of people. That can include also your own qualities! So look well what is needed to be removed?

Don’t be sad for anyone, who left your life. He never meant to stay in it. As we are travelers and we also not meant to stay in this earth plane. We can be left by multiple ways. The fear to be “alone” and “left” is one of the basic fears in human nature. Baby and child is afraid to be alone –left from his mother and father. Husband is afraid to left by his wife; mother is afraid to be left by his child; friend is afraid to be left by another friend; lover to be left by his lover; daughter to be left by his mother…so many connection and sadness. Only because we didn’t understand, we don’t belong to anyone here, nor anyone belong to us. We have this relation given as lessons, given as priority, like student books; they come and go. Even strongest relationship wont stand the storm of time and death. Parting can be –emotional, physical and in all levels. We need to accept that so we can leave in peace. When you experience and overcome the saddest event, being left by someone close to you, then you become stronger and out of fear to lose.

Remember – as I said before – you cant lose something, which never belong to you.

That’s why, dont be sad for any friend, lover, friend-weed who left your life in any way (except taken to the next angel realms). Be content, you were saved from bad spirits, bad events, consequences in the future by this shift. You were saved from being fake and dishonest, and from many more negative qualities. Everything has a reason, but not everyone sees it – similar to what Confucius said about “beauty”.

Only time can reveal our blooms, and time can reveal our weeds – the same as blooms and weeds of others.  

The last thing I want to say: do not share with someone, who doesn’t share to you back. Then you`ll lose much from your good qualities, and this sharing will be already waste of time; the same –don’t trust someone, who distrust you, don’t give love to someone who dislikes you (envy you), don’t throw not only your pearls, but also your crystals, your quartz, your roses to someone who wont appreciate them and trample them.

Again Confucius: “Respect yourself and others will respect you”. The same is valid about love.

(* next entry I`ll concentrate on what signs to look for finding the real Love –mate? Is your current relationship example of real love-relation?) 

Abide in divine Light!

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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Friends -weeds -II

    Out of these cases of friends-weeds –there are more; As you may know, all people develop spiritually in different times, so they are on different levels of their evolution, as well as have different soul-connections. So we can have in one life stage people, who are close to us, because our vibrations are matching in that particular time. After years –or months – these people will change their position for us (it will be from both sides), and we may feel them no longer the same as before, we`ll feel the following: lack of sharing, lack of compassion, lack of free expression, lack of love, lack of forgiveness, lack of interest, finally –lack of time spend together. First sign is that we don’t spend time together with them so often as before, second is that we don’t miss this time, and they too.

Nothing is wrong in that.

Here is why: we all seem to stick and cling to one friend-connection or any relationship –as long as we can, even forever, without considering the changes of our life, mind, energy, and so on. We think we should” be friends forever, and if we are not we “betray” another. Its simply not truth.

    We also think that our love partner should be one forever, friend should be forever –its wrong. Life is an endless flow and change. As Lao Tzu says : “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them, that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward…” we need to accept changes and love them. The worse thing to do is to stick to temporary things –people, connections, objects, properties, so on. The best thing is to go with the flow and enjoy the changes. That doesn’t mean you are not true to yourself! As we said before, your best friend is yourself –so you want to learn all good qualities from spirit and masters, to become higher in spirit. But its useless to cling to something, someone who is imperfect apriori, who has his own path and levels to pass.

You are here not just to enjoy, but to study lessons. These lessons are best learn from others and in connection with others. Some people though have more lessons from spirits and god, but they are rarely in society today. By learning lessons, you are growing more and more; you reveal your weakness and become stronger. This is the way –of pitfalls and falls. In this regard friends-weeds wont be with you all the time. They were maybe flowers, who turned to weeds, or wilted in your garden.

What advise I can give : be good gardener of your garden, sprinkle the flowers, grow the trees, remove weeds!

There is no need to pretend or play “fake” friendships when you feel your connection is gone –wilted long time ago. Or you are happy, sharing joy, sadness, love, compassion, helping to grow the good in each other, or not. You cant be not only friend to everyone and liked by everyone, but also cant be forever friends with your own friend circle. We all have different ways. That doesn’t mean we should consider someone as “enemy”, or behave bad with him, when we feel we are not in the same relations anymore. Not at all. We just have to be kind and honest, thankful for his lessons and love given, for all good and bad, and not consider him as a friend. Just be connected, if you would like; but if your ways and life paths are separated, if your energies don’t match, the connection will fail already. Don’t keep yourself in fake relations, just because you want to prove something, or to be “kind”, or to be “like before”. People are moving, and flowers are growing too. If you do not remove the weeds from it, the new flowers wont have place to be planted. And the existing ones will also be out of energy soon! Be careful, look well. 

* Continue to the part III 

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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Friends -weeds I

    In the second part of my essay about friendship, i`ll discuss one very different aspect of friendship, which though is very important. In the previous text I showed what are the perfect qualities of true friend and of soul-mate, dividing them in trines (love –forgiveness –support), and comparing them with the blooms of a spring tree.

   Now I`ll turn attention to the opposite aspect, as we know all has two sides –light and dark, Ying and Yang. This topic may be endless, but here I would like to point out the basic elements. We all know what true friendship should be, that it needs divine qualities like trustfulness, honesty, openness, sharing, love, forgiveness, support, freedom of expression. But I want to ask you: do you have a friend, who you are doubtful? You are not quite sure, if he is so good friend of you, some hidden things stay between you (behind you), some unclear feelings, some masks, showing, some using the right moment? Maybe yes? And do you have a friend, who is no longer your friend? Because of 100 reasons – dishonesty, betrayal, boredom, tiredness? Did you have a friend, who you considered as a close one, and share so many things together, but strangely you feel like energetically drained, tired and need much rest to recharge after you stay with him some of time?

    If answer is yes in one of these questions, you `ll be interested to know more. This kind of people, who are considered as “friends” from many of us, can be so many categories and cases like stars in galaxy. As I want to make things short here will just say –these people I call expressively with the nice name (angels revealed) friends-weeds. Take care of that the following aspects – friends weeds cant be your soul-mates in your all life; they have high level of selfishness, many of them are feeling like sun- self-centered and want attention of everyone around them; they are not ready for help in any moment, many times such people can be energy vampires who fin very easy ways to drain your energy, while sending you toxic impulses. (Yes, I consider here that we all have separate energy Source of light, no one can steal from our source! But not everyone are very aware of their own path of energy impulses and state of aura, and very few people are expert in energy matters and defense).

Be sure of one – unlike people-thorns –who are directly and unhidden evil, negative and full of thorns against anyone – who you can see and avoid well, friends –weeds are another category. They`ll always be very kind and soft with you, they are perfectly simulating good qualities like honesty, love, respect, empathy, trust…That`s why they are “weeds”. They are simulating to be “real flowers” in your garden, but what you can see is they never bloom. In such way you can recognize real weeds from flowers – they do not have petals and blossoms. They can grow bigger and bigger, feeding from the energy of your garden and care! That’s why weeds are even more dangerous than thorns. They can act and give you a good illusion about their function. With one word – they are fake. Friends- weeds or fake friends will wear mask most of the time and you wont be able to see in their heart. You ll share and share many things, while they ll share very few surface stories. They wont be people of spiritual connection, and you will have feeling (use your Third eye here) that something is wrong, hidden, not as you wish to be. If you have this inner feeling, this is the first alarm someone is a weed. First of all try to look to him and answer yourself simple questions:

- when is the last time this friend shared something good with you? what was that thing?

-  When is the last time he shared something negative with you? how he did that and what was the thing?

-  What did you feel after his sharing? What was your inner emotion and reaction? Did you feel sad, happy, painful?

-  When was the last time you enjoyed happy moment together?

-  When was last time you shared your pain and sadness with this friend? Did you have his support? How did you feel after?

These questions will show you clearly what kind of person is your friend. If he is weed, mostly you ll not have sharing many happy moments together, you ll have strange feeling of “uncleanness” because of his energy that has dark tentacles to your field. Specially if you feel sad and didn’t want to share with him your feelings, that can be also sign, you don’t feel free with this person. Weeds are not easy to be discovered always! Specially if you have big garden (spiritual garden), you`ll need time to find them. But if you already have few friends, it will be easier for you to detect the weeds. 

(* Continue to the second part - )

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