Friends -weeds -II

    Out of these cases of friends-weeds –there are more; As you may know, all people develop spiritually in different times, so they are on different levels of their evolution, as well as have different soul-connections. So we can have in one life stage people, who are close to us, because our vibrations are matching in that particular time. After years –or months – these people will change their position for us (it will be from both sides), and we may feel them no longer the same as before, we`ll feel the following: lack of sharing, lack of compassion, lack of free expression, lack of love, lack of forgiveness, lack of interest, finally –lack of time spend together. First sign is that we don’t spend time together with them so often as before, second is that we don’t miss this time, and they too.

Nothing is wrong in that.

Here is why: we all seem to stick and cling to one friend-connection or any relationship –as long as we can, even forever, without considering the changes of our life, mind, energy, and so on. We think we should” be friends forever, and if we are not we “betray” another. Its simply not truth.

    We also think that our love partner should be one forever, friend should be forever –its wrong. Life is an endless flow and change. As Lao Tzu says : “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them, that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward…” we need to accept changes and love them. The worse thing to do is to stick to temporary things –people, connections, objects, properties, so on. The best thing is to go with the flow and enjoy the changes. That doesn’t mean you are not true to yourself! As we said before, your best friend is yourself –so you want to learn all good qualities from spirit and masters, to become higher in spirit. But its useless to cling to something, someone who is imperfect apriori, who has his own path and levels to pass.

You are here not just to enjoy, but to study lessons. These lessons are best learn from others and in connection with others. Some people though have more lessons from spirits and god, but they are rarely in society today. By learning lessons, you are growing more and more; you reveal your weakness and become stronger. This is the way –of pitfalls and falls. In this regard friends-weeds wont be with you all the time. They were maybe flowers, who turned to weeds, or wilted in your garden.

What advise I can give : be good gardener of your garden, sprinkle the flowers, grow the trees, remove weeds!

There is no need to pretend or play “fake” friendships when you feel your connection is gone –wilted long time ago. Or you are happy, sharing joy, sadness, love, compassion, helping to grow the good in each other, or not. You cant be not only friend to everyone and liked by everyone, but also cant be forever friends with your own friend circle. We all have different ways. That doesn’t mean we should consider someone as “enemy”, or behave bad with him, when we feel we are not in the same relations anymore. Not at all. We just have to be kind and honest, thankful for his lessons and love given, for all good and bad, and not consider him as a friend. Just be connected, if you would like; but if your ways and life paths are separated, if your energies don’t match, the connection will fail already. Don’t keep yourself in fake relations, just because you want to prove something, or to be “kind”, or to be “like before”. People are moving, and flowers are growing too. If you do not remove the weeds from it, the new flowers wont have place to be planted. And the existing ones will also be out of energy soon! Be careful, look well. 

* Continue to the part III 

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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