Monogamy and Synchronizing in partnership -III

      So the socially approved monogamous model of stable, life-long relationship is not suitable or even has unhealthy aspects, due to deeper need of the soul for expansion and spiritual development – which comes from multiple relationships. Even so, the person will have again special lessons to learn and to develop to some point, but it wont bring the inner change, or inner spiritual power, if it stays in a life-long relationship. This is the same as all kind of changes, which people try to RESIST. Another thing I want to say is, resistance of change (or fear of change and from that personal growth), is also the basis of the stable long-term relationship (marriage). Fear of change and feeling insecure and unstable, which is the one of the basic social fear in “modern society”.

That’s how by beings in this modern socially approved stable family core, people start to find ways to “escape” the social matrix (including escape the lows and values) by many ways. That suppressed spiritual or any kind of development and change will appear as :

1. inner conflict, not knowing who you are and what is your mission, obesity, depression, sleep disorder and disorder of Thyroid (throat charka);

2. Conflict with others – being selfish and acting mostly from point of personal ego, relying only on personal power, and imposing your own views on others (believing just your way of life is the “right one”)

3. Conflict with the inner values – that may be visible in adultery, deception, telling lies, hiding the truth, not sharing, being attracted to lust and increased sexual desires (to your partners or others), or opposite feeling of lack of sexual desire. 

     These all are results from monogamous life long relationship, which is in fact a stamp of society on the individual life. This kind of monogamous model of relationship becomes a stereotype, which brings social stability and permanent resistance in the matrix.

By making stable family core people cant easily escape the matrix, because they will be caught in social work, situations and material world issues, which works like spider web around. (that’s how social media – facebook mechanism looks like). This is the productive way to keep the society and average individual ignorant, or to control and manipulate his desires and needs. Also that can control the image and concepts of good and bad, and values.

That’s how all society is sure that being in life-long partnership (marriage) is good and being in multiple relationships is “bad”, which is very far from truth (universal truth).

      The way people synchronize together in the relationships is significant to understand the principle of monogamy and serial monogamy.  People in time of spiritual evolving, value the concept of one-and only partner and relationship, because they feel it`s connected to devotion. They way person is devoted to one partner can be seen in concept of monotheistic religions and oneness of God. Strangely in Islam the monotheistic concept is well working with early polygamy practices (or historical religious polygamy, which is related only to men). Even so contemporary Islamic societies don’t view polygamy as socially approved, but still as approved by religious leaders and Shariah. But this practice shows one very real and row condition that existed. 

     Devotion to one partner can be very mischievous, because how many people don’t actually “commit adultery in their heart?” (as Jesus says…) How many people in reality do not desire another partner, a different partner, don’t feel unstable, threatened, and how many do not stay within the life-long partnership only because they fear change or avoid being alone, financially unstable or fear social judgment, or afraid being alone parents, sacrifice their real desire for what they believe is good for children? Please observe well, try to answer by yourself.

    Or how many partners changed, or have different spiritual vibration, or become a different person. Or how many in a life-long relationship keep the same feeling of love, passion and support? Or how many stay inside relationship, because “there is no better choice”, or because they are used to each others qualities, or because of endless compromises of Self.

Is that the real value of life-long relationship?  No, that’s the social matrix of life-long relationship – spider web.

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X Obligations : IX. Spirit

9. Obligation to your Spirit. (spirit and soul are different!) 

The difference between them – spirit is connected with your higher level charkas and your aura means Third eye and Sahasrara (Crown chakra situated on the top of your head) They are like doors to the higher levels of Consciousness,Mindfulness, visions, knowing and intuition. 

Soul is connected with Anahata and astral body. So they are not equal. Your spirit is also sacred, but if Soul is only for yourself and creating pleasure, spirit has other ways, and awaken by different elements. (but also as all things in our body they are totally connected and flowing to each other) That means you cant have emotional problem (of Soul) which to not to affect on your Spirit, and opposite –you cant have spiritual problem, not to affect on your emotions and heart. 

Spirit is the questions: what is meaning of life? why am I here? And why am I now? What is the universe and how the life exists? What is God and where is he? How to connect with God and how with angels? Do I believe in something? / God? What is ultimate reason for existence of universe? What is my mission here? (just when u start to ask these question –not answer –u`ll be much closer and on your spiritual path. Some people do not start asking, but they also have little sparkles of wondering.) By asking these questions you start wondering and researching all that topics, so the ultimate goal of you and all universe should be “ to expand". That means to achieve higher and higher and higher (without end) levels of personal development. This is what we seek. 

Now – what is Spirit and what is Personal growth ? And how can we achieve it? Spirit is the fine substance covering our body in aural field. Spirit is connected with all aural body elements, specially with a soul. The word root comes from Latin “Spiritus” means “breath”. So it refers to the elements of high consciousness, and high awareness of Personality. (while the root of soul is “anima” (meaning “to breath”, “air”, “life”) Because both are integrally connected there are many confusions between then in historical terms. There are many things to be discussed here, but on the whole, spirit is a fine matter, which exists, develops and grows parallel of the existence of Body. Spirit exists like “sparkle” and fire in all living things, as well as all Elements (I ll discuss that in separate writing) That exactly Spirit is the fine ethereal connection between the visible and invisible matter, and the sparkle to God, it opens the gates of Higher Awareness and understanding the deep underlying meaning of universe. Spirit gives you knowledge of another kind, and higher vibration in the field. It has colors –Indigo-Violet- Crystal white. (while soul – as connected with Astral body is more connected with body with fine treat of light, its like your astral twin. 

Another important difference – while the Soul is Individual and has features of you (as your Astral twin), the Spirit is out of Ego and transcendental for everyone, its like high vibration energy and wind for the universe, and its force of moving. (if soul is a lake, spirit is like river, or waves; if the soul is air, Spirit is the wind – the force that is moving). Spirit is out of Ego, and not in “feeling” but in “seeing” and understanding God. It`s like northern lights, and has reflection of your soul (Astral body).

If soul is subjected to time, and rebirth, it is eternal. The Spirit is like shining of energy fields which is presented with Personal Growth. Its eternal ,but not individual (even it has imprint of your soul). Now further relations to understand better the difference between the two – Soul is static and unchanging (means the experiences and surroundings change for it); Spirit is also eternal, but it is always in motion, dynamic, swirling and moving in direction of Expansion. Soul has silver connection with the material body more, Spirit is opened and connected to the eternal source of energy : God. Every human and living creature possess soul, which reflects individual characteristics of the human. Spirit is like a very pure flame of violet and crystal light, and it`s developed more in old souls (means in people who had many past lives behind). Soul is connected with the matter, even its very fine and invisible for eyes, spirit is connected with the universe, its energy dwells in high levels, and metaphysical substances. All spirits are connected as a net to the Source of energy. (which wont discuss now). 

The most important to remember is – Spirit is a Higher Consciousness, knowing and seeing, and feeling on this level. It`s connected both – with the soul (astral body) and with the Divine source of universe. It has stages of growing and development (but cant have transgression), as its not familiar to it. When you once know the power of Spirit and its flame, you are always connected with it. On higher stage and with practice, you ll be able to: listen to angels and fine energy creatures. Communicate with them, see them and feel them. Listen to others people thoughts, feel them and see their “aura”, and their astral bodies. Here the telepathy is developed well. With that abilities you`ll be able to understand many things about the truth in universe, to answer questions and feel the reality from another side. So what is obligation when u reach to this level? 

1. All above obligations should be reached and present in human life, in order to reach to Spiritual growth. 2. The drive for achieving should exist – means desire and passion to grow in spirit. 3. He should have daily practices in meditation and prayers. (normally for such people not less than 2 hours). 

4. He should listen and communicate to his angels guardians or “teachers” or if he cant he could write a diary of his thoughts, his dreams, and write on topic of spirit generally.

5. he should without a doubt avoid connecting with very lower levels of souls, and keep expanding his knowledge by knowing more people who can be Teachers of students for him. The process of study and spiritual growth is endless. Even so some creatures escape and broke the physical cycle of rebirth –death- rebirth, they will continue to develop in higher levels with help of other creatures and angels.

Most important is to know, that everyone who you meet in your life path, can be your teacher of student (no matter in good or in bad way). The high spirit cant be received by just viewing and stagnancy, but only with daring and will to move ahead and motion from inside –to outside. This action is not more than all what we mention above.