The truth about Romantic Obsession and Longing (channeled message) ♥ part 3

 

This article is channeled message with the help of my angels and archangel Sandalphon about Obsession, longing and love. To understand the whole picture please read part 1 and part 2 first. 

                               ♥ Is obsession love?

This is very important question, which I can answer only as: yes and no. There are different kind of obsessions, most of them include deep feelings, emotions and love. Most obsessions can be mistaken for deep love, as they have many common elements. The problem is that obsession is more relevant to addiction and longing than to love. But that does not mean you can`t be obsessed and love in the same time. (Here comes the different between being “in love”, or sexually attracted by someone, and loving someone).

   🍦 You can read the article about addiction here...

  Obsession is complex feeling that can be triggered by emotional and psychological factors, trauma from the past (and past lives), and karmic relationships, emotional wounds and sub-conscious fears.

Also, obsession is related to intense thoughts and projections of emotions to you and from you to another person. The intensity creates energy vortex or spiral which can make it very hard to let go. 

    The feeling of obsession is related to desire to dominate and be close to (so you can be fulfilled), while love seeks more freedom, and need for reciprocity. In this way obsession is more equivalent to the masculine energy and men as they expand by dominion. (women expand by nurturing).

Obsession can have sense of restrained devotion”, being in love regardless of the object feelings or taboo, being fully committed to this person.

             Other important facts about this feeling:

1. it can increase and spiral by memories in your mind, by places and objects belonging to the other person. The person who is obsessed remembers everything related to his object of desire.

2. Obsession can be linked to feeling of lost love, trauma in love, or inability to be in a relationship. That creates level of distrust in yourself and your ability to be with person you want. That s why your mind will create loops with imagination and fantasies about the person you desire. (including sexual fantasies).

There can be mixed feelings to the object, as obsession and love are complex. For example, if you were in need of older brother in your childhood, who could take care of your, defend you and love you unconditionally, this feeling can be projected onto someone who fulfill these qualities, but then in your mind (subconscious) you mix the love to your imaginary brother” with romantic love. So, your object of obsession can be someone who is in state of taboo, but has the qualities of that “brother” you were in need in the past.

In a way, obsession can feel more like love, or more like addiction -depending on past experiences and trauma of the person.

                           ♥ Obsession, illusion and taboo

The feeling of obsession can be illusionary at its core, as its strong principles are longing for someone who is prohibited, impossible for you. It holds the patters of karmic loop and karmic lessons in relationship, and it always wants to reveal something about you and your mind. But obsession is not equal to illusion! Just it can have elements of illusion or delusion, as part of being in state of "hypnosis". 

    Obsession is also not random, but always related to something that you lack in your love, or something you have deep longing for.

The feelings of longing, desire, need, pain, lust, need for closeness, will be mixed with sense of guilt and shame (as person will wonder why he feels this to the forbidden object).

You need to pay attention to your heart and Sacral chakra -orange, as there can be energy cords from the other person.

Constant feeling of obsession will form an energy bond in the second chakra, which can become even a vortex of light, connecting you.

In this case you need to be careful about the object of obsession as the bond will take time to be removed (or it can stay constantly or for a long time).

Thank you for tuning in! 🍒

Nina Nour Bluebell ©

medium, psychic, healer

Tarot reader 

April 2026 ©

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The truth about Romantic Obsession and Longing ♥ (channeled message) part 1

 

This article is a channeled message with the help of my guides and angels and archangel Sandalphon on the deep and controversial topic of obsession ,from angelic perspective. Note that this is not related to psychology, but it can include elements of it. 

                  ♥ What is romantic obsession?

Here I will observe the basic elements of obsession and how it can be defined, although there is not one way of interpretation.

Obsession is a strong feeling of longing and desire to be closer to someone, or “possess” someone who is in a way restricted, far from you, or taboo. The feeling of longing and desire for someone who is impossible to have is called “limerance” as term in psychology.

You believe this person, who I will call “object of desire” or obsession, can`t be completely yours.

Here are some very specific details about obsession *

- The feeling of longing in obsession seems constant, it can increase or decrease in intensity and may go in spirals.

- The feeling of obsession is not fading even without connection to the object of desire

- You have fantasies and day dreaming about the person which gives you pleasure

Romantic obsession can feel strong exactly because its permanent, unwilling to remove from the object of desire and adds fantasies about him.

Moreover, there can be an emotional trap in obsession, because the desire will increase by the impossibility to be with the person. That creates emotional craving and loop.

                        ♥  What is at the core of obsession?

At the core of almost all obsessions to a person is unfulfilled soul realization, desire for expansion, a childhood emotional trauma and/ or past life relationship which was not closed, past life that you have experienced strong bond, intense love and emotions.

Obsession is linked but not entirely, to the painful experiences in your relationships, dissatisfaction and something missing. This is longing to be expanded and fulfilled with the object of desire, as he possess something that you desperately need (at this time).

If you find out that a person has the qualities and gives you feelings that you were needing (consciously or sub-consciously), then you imagine that only this person can fullfill the need. From this moment your mind is able to create energetic cords with the mind of the other person. In this way you will be connected more strongly with your mind, and could have even telepathy and empathy for each other.

(That means you can feel what he feels too, as you become a mirror of each other. If he is in pain or feels desire, longing, need to be with you, you will feel it. But the time frame here can be different. )

There are different kind of romantic obsessions – the most important to understand is that they can be reciprocated (mirrored back), or not.

When you feel obsession for someone who you know is in a state of taboo or restriction, this makes the obsession “isolated” and spiralling within itself.

Any obsession can be connected with feelings of emotional attachment, addiction, memories and fantasies, sensual fantasies, desire for closeness, which can trigger fetishism or masochistic tendencies in the person at one point. 

  Obsession is triggered by the position of the object as “taboo”, forbidden, unreachable, in state of impossibility, or being behind the closed door. This is quite important to understand.

The person who is obsessed is almost in painful bliss, blindness or romantic hypnosis, which he likes and indulges in.

Pay attention that the fact someone is obsessed doesnt mean he is not also deeply in love or hasnt romantic feelings. Just at some point the inense feeling of longing when they dont reach fulfillment (permission), or remain hidden, then obsession is created. 

(Example of such kind of obsessions can be: student and teacher, member of the family, like cousin, anyone who is social or family taboo, colleague, person who is married…)

When this obsession become constant the person feels like he can`t live without the state of hypnosis, as it opens the door for pleasure on emotional and then physical level. This pleasure is like a loop of addiction to someone, but it is felt like energy dissonance which pulls you in direction to something in order to fill in a space of void within yourself. 

Please continue to read part 2 here > 

Nina Nour Bluebell ©

medium, psychic, healer

April 2026 

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Attachment (addiction, obsession) from Energy perspective (channeled) -I

 

In this article I channel message from Archangel Jeremiel about attachments and energy cords and what do we need to know about them. (Part I) ★

              What is attachment?

Attachment is energy formation of specific cords and connections between two people, between people and places or between people and objects. (for example money and food, or person and his home, person and another person). 

We attach to other people, places, objects or believes almost always because they give us feeling of safety, security, nurturing, comfort, or as a form of resistance and escape from a painful situation.

   ★ Attachment is formed only to our image of specific person, place and not to the real authentic person. That happens because with the time we build a program” in our mind to work with this concrete image. (Therefore we could say that attachment is programmed, but not existing on a soul level).

Attachment can give us sense of emptiness or feeling of missing something or someone, but not for the wholeness of it, but for special parts of it that give us the sense of comfort, safety, nurturing or escape. That`s what makes attachments partial and not whole.

In other words, this person, (place or believe) of attachment is programmed to fill in an “energetic gap” within us. This gap can exist on emotional, mental, spiritual level. Most of the attachments are formed as energy cords from our emotional body to the emotional body of another.

So, the deeper cause of attachment is found in the emotional field and state of emotions, (which is even more complex because it includes past lives and childhood emotions).

From energy perspective, there are healthy and unhealthy (draining) attachments. All of them work in the same way as program to fill in certain energy gap” within.

Unhealthy attachment is the one that creates negative energy cords and programs which take away energy flow, or damage our sense of self-esteem and personal power.

Some common things related to attachments are – putting expectations on someone or something, need to control others, judgement and self-judgement. These energy cords can form only in your etheric body with your physical chakras – and especially with Root, Sacral, Solar Plexus, Throat, Heart.

Attachment can happen through dark energy cords, which function to drain energy from the auric field of someone; also through entities, viruses (which are form of entity).

When you are attached to someone you connect with him with “energy imprint” – that means he leaves special energetic imprint (signature) in your field, and usually you have also your energy signature in his field.

That signature can look in different way, it can be certain colour, vibration, pattern or texture. (for example it can be like energy chains, or stars or triangles or waves). The signature makes your attachment positive or negative (unhealthy).

Negative attachments can vary in size of the energy cord – the more time you are connected to a person (object) the stronger this energy signature is, and the thicker the cord will be.

When you have unhealthy attachment, you will feel more negative emotions, which drain from your sense of empowerment. If this is to a person, you can notice how you feel during and after the time you spend with this person? What is your emotional and mental state? What do you feel while you are with him? Do you feel tired, exhausted or feeling headache, anxiety or strange sadness after that? (The same questions you can ask if you have attachment to certain food, object, place or activity).

Negative attachment will always have negative emotional expression later like: anxiety, tiredness, depression, anger, drain, sickness, frustration, body discomfort.

You just need to clarify what exactly is the source that drains your energy and why do you give him the power.

The strong forms of attachment which makes you feel “insatiable” with the time are called addiction” or obsession.

Obsessions are always unhealthy attachments and they have not easy way out, only by cutting completely the access to the object (person, food…) of the obsession.

Obsession always gives your power away to the person (object) you are obsessed with.

For example – obsession to food – it will have control over you, of you are obsessed with “dark movies”, chemicals, cigarettes, alcohol, sex, the desire to have them is stronger than your own inner power, so they have complete control over you.

But on a soul level you always have the divine power and you can not be controlled.

Thank you for tuning in! 🍨

🟌 Continue to part 2 here.... 

Nina Nour Bluebell  ©

medium, crystal light healer

March 2025

Link between Emotional attachment, addictions, Sacral chakra imbalances and Mother relationship

 In this short article I`ll give you information and details about what is emotional attachment and how it can affect your emotional body and life.  

Emotional attachment is a vital part of life lessons (and karmic relationships) of every human on earth. In this planetary level we experience love mostly through emotional attachment. This attachment is related on an energy level to our Second chakra (Sacral) and emotional body; on a physical level it is related to our reproductive system, sexuality, feeling of pleasure, self-acceptance and self-respect. So, people who have damaged self-acceptance or self-respect will have blocked emotions and will be prone to addictions.  

Emotional attachment is a double edge sword, and we need to understand that. Because this attachment is connected to many aspects like vulnerability, fear of commitment, fear of abandonment, fear of loss of someone, feelings like anger and jealousy, inability to let go. All of them are on the flipside of emotional attachment. 

(Also, it is important to say that these fears may be very subconscious, so we they are buried within).  

  

People who are emotionally attached and have blocked emotional flow (or suppressed emotions), can be easily affected by illnesses or imbalance in their sexual and reproductive organs. Moreover, they are prone to all kind of addictions – like food and sugar addiction, meat, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs or supplements, coffee. The reason why this happens on energy level is because the addiction acts as a substitute of the real missing emotion. For example, if a person has lack of emotional sharing, gentleness, intimacy or sexual connection in a relationship, that can result in his addiction to any substance – sugar craving, bread, alcohol or cigarettes or certain types of movies. Of course that will additionally affect his health, creating an energy Loop in his Sacral chakra and ties to his emotional body. They are substitutes for his genuine emotional needs and sexual expression. This model is quite common today (but it is not the only model of addictions).  

How can someone overcome addiction? ❂

There is no one sided single answer to this question. In most cases, if your addiction (food, alcohol...) is related to suppressed emotions, the first thing you need to do is cleanse and detox your emotional body.  

There are many methods how to do that, you can see my article on the emotional body cleansing here...> 

As the mind and emotions are interconnected (as all things in the human body) - all things that affect your emotions will affect your mind as well (and vice versa).  

What you need in the long term is to practice emotional detachment.  

When you are emotionally detached you are not exposed so much to the energies or emotions of others. You can be more in your own power and control, and your emotional body will be cleaner.  

How to practice emotional detachment?  ❂

One of the ways is to be in control of your own feelings and emotions. (which in reality is a very difficult task for most humans). Another very important practice is letting go. Letting go of any people, places, past wounds and events is a very powerful practice as it keeps your energy in balance. Letting go is not “forgetting” nor leaving someone completely, although it can be. Letting go is freeing yourself from the emotional burden, past trauma and hurt, that is no longer needed in your life.  

Most people are very unaware of how to let go of something. Until then, they will be trapped in their own emotional prison, and prone to all kinds of addictions. In all relationships there are so many unhealthy emotional attachments, energy cords and addictions, which create a need for control, possessiveness, jealousy and anger.  

 

To be emotionally detached, you need to be aware of your personal needs and VALUES, to practice self-acceptance, self-love and self-awareness. They are part of your emotional healing journey.  

  

Healing your mother wound ❂

(for more details read the article here...) 

The picture becomes more complex as in the second chakra people have their emotional ties and relationship with their mother.  

You need to know that the early childhood relationship with your mother can affect (all) your later love life, love relationships and partners and your sexuality. Thats a very big point.  

That's why a very important aspect of your emotional healing and detachment is healing the relationship with your mother and your wounded inner child.  

When you do that, you need to realize and work on your feeling of self-acceptance and how you value yourself as a being in a physical body. Do you fully accept and love yourself? What aspects of yourself are you still reluctant to accept? 

Bear in mind that emotional body healing is a lifelong process which will connect you to your true identity and reveal hidden aspects of yourself.  

Working on your Sacral chakra (and orange ray of light) and your Heart chakra (and green ray of light) will boost the process of emotional healing and releasing.  

Also, you can implement other daily practices like dancing, yoga, painting, being near water sources (lake, river, sea, waterfall), swimming. They can help you immensely to cleanse and detox your emotional body.  

Thank you for tuning in!

Nina Nour Bluebell

medium, reiki healer

May, 2024 ©