Sun in Taurus sign - 20.April (Green, Diet, Health)

 

   Sun in Taurus awakens our desire to be connected with the Earth, to feel more stable, secure, to make certain changes and cleaning of home; to pay attention to your body, healthy diet and exercises in open air. Special attention in this energy is food and diet. Earth element tends to have some heaviness and culinary skills; they like to eat delicious foods, sometimes tend to forget fruits in their daily diet. That’s why in this season angels encourage you to eat more healthy fruits and vitamins and exercise, have walks outside in nature.

    ✪  With this season of Taurus energy we are invited to heal, and take care of our healthy habits. The qualities we need to activate and use are persistency, organization, self-discipline, acceptance. Practices that will help you very much to achieve what you want are: meditation for grounding and meditation for gratitude with arch. Ariel. This is perfect time to add more green vegetables and green fruits to your diet! (like lettuce, cucumber, avocado, spinach, broccoli).

      Use some plants and herbs in your daily routine to cleanse and detoxify, or flower essences. Crystals of Taurus that will help you to uplift and rejuvenate are: malachite, jade, green moss agate, emerald. All beautiful green colours are very nice with this energy of nature healing.

Now is the time also to plant some seeds – of real plants or of something you want to achieve in the future.

Wear green accessories, cardigans, bracelets or jewellery to accelerate the energy of Earth.

Chakras: Heart, you can work on your back, muscles, bones flexibility. Specially make exercises for back pain and arms, as now is time for you to gain strength and remove stagnant energy.

    ✪ Tarot card corresponding of Taurus from Major arcana is V. The Hierophant (High Priest), this is teacher and mentor, and religious leader, who holds the keys to success, knowledge and new ways.

 Say the following affirmation of Hierophant each morning, to be integrated with the energy:

I m connected with others, I learn new lessons every day. I m guide and spiritual teacher, filled with respect, self-discipline and persistency. I know what my goal is and how to achieve it in long term. I read, write, create and gain higher knowledge. I receive Divine inspiration.

 The court card representing Taurus is Knight of Pentacles: don’t forget success will come with persistency, hard work and focus in one direction.

      ✪ Earth element is related to home, money management, material possessions, home decoration; family and children, as well as healing and boundaries. Pay attention to this aspects of life. Indulge in making delicious meal, experiment and feel joy in tasting something new.

Thank you for tuning in! ✪

Nina Lea-Nour ✪
Angel`s medium 

© Apr. 18-2021

Homosexual desire from Spiritual Perspective -III

    Part III :

   In most of female Yin homosexuality, we observe wounded mother relationship, and spiritual work with self control, self-acceptance, personal boundaries, saying no, being active, working on realizing identity, being independent.

   In the case of female homosexual energy, the types are similar to the one described about male. Usually woman with more Yang energy will be attracted to the woman with Yin energy, who will have to pay karmic debt or work some qualities from past life. Yin energy female also will be considered as Bisexual, or the one who can have relationship with man too. That’s why this kind of woman will be more swinging”, or can have identity-problem, or create feeling of uncertainty, freedom and need to be caught. (like a butterfly effect). This kind of woman will be usually not very independent, will need to be supported, loved by more than one person. She can also suffer from loneliness. All of that are possible scenarios, as each case is very unique.

    Another point we need to remember is -that these kind of homosexual relationships are good and worked out specially to get karmic points and soul lessons. But that is what all kind of relationships are about! Due to some other characteristics like – being social taboo or restricted, being complex on soul-level, and being related more than usually to Thrill, suspense, in sexual desire, these relationships don’t have very lasting real life. But they have very strong imprint on the soul. Like the saying of Lao Tzu : THE FLAME that burns twice as bright, burns HALF as long”.

They are very similar to the feeling of first love, impossible love, or “fatale love”, that leaves the soul feeling missing a part, or being torn apart.

That’s because these relationships are based on previous wounds and spiritual pains from past lives.

1.          Q: Is there illness in homosexuality?

       No, the feeling between two people from the same gender has the same feeling of love and attachment as male-female relationship. The illness occur in spiritual plane only when human rights of freedom is violated. This right includes making a free choice who to love, and who to be loved. The violation of freedom, or any kind of force to another individual, or implementing harsh methods, is viewed as soul-spiritual disease. Such kind of harsh disease are all cases of pedophilia, or other obsessive attractions, made from problems in human mind and related to childhood. But homosexuality is not one of them.

In some cases due to complexness of the desire and nature of feelings, we can have some harsh elements in that relationships (as in any). That will be also because of higher level of obsession (possessiveness) in that type of relationships. Which can create the pattern of sadistic-masochistic behaviour. Even so these relationships, if chosen, are not psychological illnesses. They are way of “sexual play”, or creating sexual thrill. In physical plane, that thrill is mainly created by Yang energy (male). No matter of its directed to women (in certain movies above 18), or to men. Because men are the warrior – active force of the earth energy. They are creating the physical level, and are spontaneously sexual. Women are on the other hand, fragile spirit nurturer, and in-sexual, non spontaneous. That’s how they are related to element Fire/ Air (masculine) and Water- Earth (feminine).

      There is also a homosexuality which is acquired and one that is inherent. The first one might be not planned in the individual Soul contract. The second is always planned before the soul is born. That kind of feelings can be tricky to acknowledge from the root. According to surroundings, condition and social restrictions, homosexual feeling can arise spontaneously or gradually. It also will depend on which side of the individual Emotional body is wounded – feminine or masculine. Yes, we talk here about wounds” in emotional plan, but they are quite usual for all human beings, and doesn’t mean homosexual people are any different. If a person is put in some abnormal conditions or specific situations (like spending longer time in surrounding of male individuals, or being vulnerable about a male character) he can start to acquire homosexual desire. That doesn’t mean he will immediately be “labelled as homosexual. Because the labels don’t work in such complicated matter as feelings and desires.

Thank you for tuning in! Please continue reading the next part IV here....

Nina Lea-nour *

Angel`s medium

reiki master

Social Anxiety I

What is social anxiety?

 In this article I`ll observe shortly about the term Social anxiety, what common imbalances stay behind it and what are the root causes of it. 1. part. 

    This is phenomenon, closely related to human subconscious pattern and mind, connected with society, environment and cultural behaviour. Anxiety, as well as most destructive emotions (negative) have their primal imprint in the supressed feelings, emotions. There are many reasons for social anxiety, but the main pieces of puzzle, that show something is likely to become wrong, are connected with:

-       Supressed feelings and emotions

-      Being unable to express your desires and needs

-      Beings unable to figure out the reasons for your mistakes/ failures

-      Supressed or unwanted communication with others

-      Being exposed to too much criticism from others

-      Being exposed to harsh environment

-      Living long time in unhealthy relationships (habits)

…and many more. Almost all things and psychological imbalances can turn to anxiety, if they are long enough hidden.

      The key here is to reveal the hidden issue or situation that is reason for your imbalance. There is always a reason, but anxiety has roots exactly in hidden aspects of Self. Hidden negative aspects and emotions that the Self has supressed, in order to escape from a painful experience.

      That’s why the topic of social anxiety can be viewed in very wide perimeter. All things related to imbalance in organism of society can be connected with it. Society is a structure that is changeable and fixed in the same time. It includes component like social values, laws, behaviour, communications, restrictions, rules. It contains all that components on level of family relationships (family as a singular structure of particular society), religious and cultural aspects (religion or culture as regulating some social values), and wide social connections (including work environment, people, country laws, effective institutions). All of these circles are related to the bigger Sphere of social organism.

     Just individual alone is in status “free”, if he viewes only himself, separately from society. He has status “separateness” , singularity, individuality. In this way all individuals in one society are: 1. From one side determined as “separate” free individual elements, that have complete form (of the Soul -Body-mind). 2. From another side they are also little pieces from the bigger puzzles of social components – Family, work, society, country, culture -religion. That’s how each individual in this world is in fact “not free”, but can seek for his freedom a priory. His freedom is inner value of individual, but he is never free in reality -out of his personal values and desires.

Now as this article is dedicated to Social anxiety, I want to observe that condition, in light of that state of not-freedom, or restricted state of individual.

As I mentioned, society is big organism with many components, but it`s made up of millions pieces of individual souls (body-mind). So everyone, each soul put his stamp in the bigger picture of Society. People made family, companies, houses, institutions, laws, countries, environment, planet. So all of that components are connected all together like net. That is quite important.

     Individuals are living between each other, they are here in order to connect, to have effective/ or not effective communication, and to learn from each other.

     All systems that we live in, are based on principle of Society and Groups of people. That means individuals are chained as elements of that Societies since their early age – family, kinder garden, school, university, work, institutions, traveling. All kind of activities we make and intend are always -related to others. Even when we just buy things from market, shop we have to connect with the seller or owner. Its another question if this connection will be effective, positive or opposite. But it is there, we need to face others.

That is so, because in these social existence and connection is one of the main purpose of human life and meaning. Even people who are with special status – and accepted as “out of society” souls, like monks, nuns, hermits, or people that are on different spiritual practices, are also not away from society. They are connected together, also they are more or less connected with social religious values, rules, with obligations, and living necessities.

 People or individuals are like chain – everyone`s feelings, intentions, mindset, values, obligations, desires, actions, non-actions – affect others on that chain. Immediately. So that is in fact creating non-freedom. As freedom is a concept related more to Mind and soul, but cant be related to earth life, so its concept of illusion. Your mind can be free to imagine that you travel to many places, but for making that travel work in reality, you need to put more efforts and go through many social procedures.

That means also the non-freedom is not only created, but it`s here (earth plane) by purpose.

Social anxiety is closely related to that non-freedom existence. We are all free as individual souls, and in the same time we are not free or specially restricted as social elements. The existence of society as whole organism suggests the stamp of restrictions. That doesn’t mean we are not free still – as that is given to our soul essence a priory. But our freedom is also restricted from being in this body, and more from participating in social circles, social obligations, country.

    Some of the things that one country impose on all citizens are regulations, laws, and restrictions. They are related to all aspects of life without exception – for going to school, paying taxes, taking care of environment, having a flat, living under rent, having a car, using transportation….all these aspects are related with social regulations. They are also part of the individual non-freedom, even if they look like they are creating freedom.

The truth is a freedom created by someone (government, or institutions), is illusionary one. That is not the freedom as birth right. The country may aim to contribute to improvement of all aspects of life, but in reality that will happen only with more regulations and laws, more restrictions. Because that’s how society works.

Thank you for tuning in! This is the first part of my text on Social Anxiety, feel free to share it, like or post a comment below!

Nina* Lea-nour 

angel`s medium 

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Sacral chakra - relationships, illnesses -II

 - Part II -

You can see the list is so long that I cant even complete! Now think deeply, who on earth has the perfect balance in Sacral chakra? More details from your life of grown individual will show you also high percent of imbalances and not healthy Sacral sphere:

-      abusive or offensive behavior that repeats more than 2 times from your husband to you; (it may be in speech or action)

-       over sexual desire (appetite) and depraved (perverse) sexual sense in your male partner to you;

-      lower sexual desire, coldness and indifference from your male partner to you;

-       habits of addictions (like alcoholism, domestic violence, smoking cigarettes, drugs and others) in the space of your home from both – your partner and you.

-     Being unable to move forward and change relationship in which you feel unhappy and “used”; feeling like in a trap; feeling weakness

    Now surely many of you would be astonished and ask questions on these points. Take care of this: the above lines are related to women, who experience (take the action on themselves), and also for MEN, who are from the weak side of “abusers” and aggressors here. In this relationship obviously both are connected and both have ill and dull Sacral chakra. This behavior may lead in the future (if stays in quite long period of time) to imbalance in the sacral area as physical illness and also may affect your positive relationship to your mother (sister and aunt)

That’s why the best way is to QUIT such kind of relationship, specially if too long time you gave it a chance without any result or change.

   Another from many important aspects that I want to analyze is about Svadhishtana and flowers. Here are some things you can do in order to cleanse and balance your Sacral area (which are not related on first side, but on deeper levels) The same as Root chakra is taking care of animals (home pets) and wildlife on earth, Second chakra is taking care of plants and flowers; so do you like the following things? :

-         taking care of home plants and flowers;

-         how many potted plants, flowers, cactuses and little tress do you have?

-       Taking care of little garden in your own style –you may use white pebbles and stones, make beautiful decorations;

-       Taking care of little fishes in aquarium at home (remember Sacral chakra is water related)

-        Having a small fountain at home or in garden;

-        Arranging a small garden or balcony area with flowers

-        Having knowledge and using herbs and herbal essences

-        Using flowers and flowers essences

-        Making mindful flower meditation with color;

-        Observing, listening and talking to flowers and plants

-        Participating in environmental causes for clean water resources, fresh air and preventing from pollution

   All of these and more are indirectly connected to Sacral chakra. Is it by chance that all women (divine feminine) LOVE flowers and plants! Their energy intuitively senses the benefits of flowers relations. The truth is, flowers and essences really Help for balancing the sacral energy (inside of your home) and in your body. That’s why take care of the exact flowers. It is so, because flowers and plants are related to “humans feelings” in subconscious level. That’s why we feel so peaceful in garden, as if all flowers are speaking to us, or between them. This is true. Flowers have the amazing ability to cleanse air, and cleanse also the dense “emotional climate” within the area. They work with your subconscious feelings as well, making a net of special color energy around the home space (it can be pale green vivid green, pink, orange, yellow.) this net takes like in a spider web, balls of your negative emotions and store them for while until they are dissolved in the new energy from the net. That’s why many negative feelings are released with your garden and green friends.

Additionally every plant can help in expansion and protection of your aura, you will feel surrounded by love, full of peace and joy.

   Animals that are related to Sacral area are: fishes, koi fishes and domestic cat. Totem animals: butterfly. Its easy to know if your sacral chakra can be in danger or imbalanced – if you have one or more points from the one listed above (in relationships with female family members) or if you don’t take any interest in plants or flowers, herbs or essences, if you don’t like gardening or don’t have one or 2 potted flowers at home, don’t like water much or your personal hygiene is not so good.

Easy way to determine imbalance in Sacral chakra is in the visible form of concrete illness in this area:

-         if you have irregular menstrual cycle (not on exact date)

-         if you have too long or too short menstrual cycle (for example  8 days is too long, 2 days is short)

-         if you tend to have problems with ovaries or intimate area (for man with testicles and semen)

-         if you are prone to cysts or cancer of ovaries (womb)

-         if you have any discomfort or illness of womb, ovaries, kidneys;

-         if you have problems with your urine and very delayed discharging of urine or very frequent need of urine discharge;

-         if you stay long time dehydrated and without drinking water

-         if you drink water too much during the day

-         reproductive issues, increased sexual need, nymphomania or impotence

  These are some of the main issues related to second chakra. Very important is to say that Sacral chakra relates to ability to “RECEIVE joy, love, sharing and understanding from your intimate partners to your SELF.”  The wise quality is mindful receiving of JOY; self-love. That means in this chakra, you know how to receive (which is interconnected with Vishudha (how to give joy, love, respect). Another thing you need to master is nurturing you inner Goddess (for women) and realizing power of Divine feminine (for both men and women).

Svadhishtana symbol are primordial waters and ocean before the beginning of the world. This is like the ocean world that we swim as fishes, unable to see its end or beginning.

    Qualities that you need to master in Sacral chakra are: feeling of self-love, ability to feel joy, ability to share your inner emotions, ways to disperse negative emotions (like sadness, anger), ability to connect with nature and flowers, water related activities and sports, water observation and meditation (on lake, river, sea, waterfall, snow); trusting yourself and expressing your inner desires; not suppressing your emotions or desires; feeling loved, peaceful and safe with your partner in any time; not allowing emotions of others to affect on you.

Energy of Svadhishtana is very intense and warming. It is active energy – it takes care of Emotional Self in higher levels. What you can receive from others emotionally. If you think you are worth of love? You will receive much of love from your partners. From this chakra starts the center of Ego, in emotional sphere, that expands to Solar Plexus and heart (part).

Sacral area represents also inheritance of ability to share love and JOY with others, specially with your partner in life (within marriage). It can be symbolically revealed to you in the inheritance or receiving: - special family or marriage jewelry from your mother; - little yard or garden; - receiving flower or lemon (orange) tree; - receiving earrings from your grandmother (mother of your mother);

And finally remember that everyone has Inner Goddess that should be nurtured! Give yourself a gift –this is quite beautiful expression of self-love. Have a special day to buy new flower for home, or new jewelry. (this is something that is not easily left behind like most clothes). Feel special and beautiful, go to hair cut, and take a nice bath with aroma oil and salt. That’s how your divine Feminine will be awaken.

   Lessons that you study in this Sacral chakra are: - how to build strong relationship (marriage) build on understanding, love, devotion, compassion, sharing, giving and receiving, respect, tolerance; how to work as 2 in One union. This is the universal principal of number TWO. That’s why Sacral chakra vibrates with number 2 –love, union of two in sign of infinity; also sign of masculine and feminine energy (Ying-Yang) circle; two koi fishes. (astrologically all water signs are in this group and could have vulnerable sacral place- Scorpio, Pisces, Cancer, together with all people with MOON in the water signs). That makes a large group.

(Have in mind also that the excessive use of not natural cosmetics and chemicals on your face and eyes has a devastating effect and make your face looking older. Try to use very soft and little cosmetics even “natural”)

Hope you find useful my article, feel free to share it or post your comment below! Thank you, wishing you Self-love and sharing and perfectly balanced Sacral chakra.

If you are interested in this topic, you can continue reading next article about: 
Solar Plexus chakra -relationships, illnesses I

nina Lea-nour *

Chakras and energy circles

In this short article I want to throw more light on what are charkas, how we see them, how the can be used and opened”, and specially what are their connections to the outer and inner physical world. Let`s begin.

Chakras are actual energy portals situated inside of human body.  Its important to understand that while animals, trees, plans and crystals have aura, they don’t have charkas. Human beings as beholders of divine sparkle –soul and spirit – have these charkas. Chakras (from Sanskrit word “wheel”) is high intensity energy vortex, moving in the right direction (clockwise) within special points in our body. This vortex has specific frequency, color, level of light and brilliance, and its differently expanded depending on individual growth and consciousness.

The more someone is mindful and connected with the spirit, the more his charkas are full of light, more clean, expanded and have higher frequency. On the contrary, people who don’t work on their charkas or don’t make any spiritual exercises, have dull chakras, without light, and moving in very low frequency. That means they have “closed” or blocked chakras, as they energy portals are not active and in state of “sleep”.

Something more about chakras – they not just separate energy wheels, but they are interconnected together as one, and their active energy reflects the outer layers of our aura field. That means: the more your chakras are open and well flowing, the more your aura will be also healthy, expanded and full of light. The main chakra, that has complicated structure, is Hear (Anahata). That chakra I`ll observe later, is the real key to healing our physical and emotional body. We start the healing on energy level, and then the effect spread through all down layers and physical. So to remove a physical pain or illness from the body, we need to work first on energy level, on emotional (soul) level, on level of space and home energy where we live, and then on physical level.

Heart chakra is the source of very high frequency emotions that bring healing light – compassion, love, empathy, feeling of others, forgiveness. They are important aspects in each humans life to be reached.

Other chakras form big circle of energy, I call them “Ying –Yang” circle. They show the interconnection between upper and lower chakras within the body. These big Ying-Yang circles are – Root-Crown chakra circle, Sacral – Third eye circle, Solar Plexus – Throat chakra circle. We` ll see how they are much more connected and affect each other in functions on different levels.

This is list of basic relations of all chakras to our aspects in real life:

I.             Root chakra  (Base of the spine) ruby red color vortex, connection with family, father and ancestors. Related to instincts, survival, connection with Earth, past lives, karma

II.          Sacral chakra (in the intimate area) orange color vortex, connection with feelings (emotions on lower level), divine feminine, relationships, lovers, friends, soul mates, intimacy, sharing, trust.

III.    Solar Plexus (little above the navel area) sparkling yellow vortex, connection with friends, social relations, mission and work on earth, believe, faith and courage, realizing and acting on Self.

IV.      Heart chakra (in place of heart center) emerald green and pink light; connected with purity of feelings, unconditional love, love to children, inner child contact, inner Goddess, to emotional body and memories, key to compassion and forgiveness and giving (generosity).

V.          Throat chakra (in the place of throat) – aquamarine blue light; (Ethereal body), Purity of self, connected with purity of speaking, expression, creative mission, creative writing, art, talents in art, music and writing, learning, teaching others, Higher mission on earth.

VI.        Third eye chakra (in place between eyebrows) – indigo blue light; (Astral, mental body) connected with purity of understanding myself and others, tolerance, acceptance, higher vision, clairvoyance, connection to spiritual realm and dreams, connected with Higher self and karma, to cosmic missions.

VII.       Crown chakra (one inch above the head) – white and amethyst light and color, golden, connected with higher frequencies, (Celestial levels) receiving energy from the divine source and cosmos, interacting clearly with angels and higher light beings, provides pure flow of energy to all down chakras in human body –like generator.

(While Ethereal body is changing and moving like waves (Throat), Astral and mental bodies are projection of your Higher self in energy pure form – it lives in the celestial sphere.)

I ll start observation on the Ying-Yang circles starting from outer to inner.

Crown chakra –when it s clean and healthy it provides energy to whole body and down chakras. What is the color of crown chakra?

Most people assume that the Crown chakra has violet or purple color. This may be truth with some people, but crown is one of the most variable in color and light areas for different individuals. Mostly Sahasrara has very light purple or medium purple color and it`s surrounded with shining white light. This is not translucent” light, but white like “selenite” crystal –it has highly protective qualities. Above the sphere of selenite light, there is another sphere of Golden light. The last 2 spheres of Crown chakra are seen in highly spiritual people, or people with developed spiritual path. (the ones who acknowledge their spiritual mission in world or with divine purpose in world like Ascended Masters)

Most people have outer spheres of the Crown corresponding to the color of their aura field. They can be various different colors and combinations in this area.

The crown chakra (as well as other chakras) has a core with sparkling white light (looking like a star) within the purple sphere. That’s why in another article I compared chakras with “planets and stars”. This white core is the energy center corresponding to the same center inside the physical brain. This light gives signals to people when they are in danger and can prevent us from something in subconscious way. That’s how Crown is connected with our intuition and Third eye. If the Heart chakra is seen as the key to our physical health and love to physical world, the Crown is the vortex –portal to the place of eternal Light –God and angels, spirits, Higher Self. Crown chakra connects all chakras of the physical body or down chakras –with upper chakras through divine cleansing light. It contains the spiral of ascension and the cords to the Soul Star chakra, where spinning “Mer-kaba” of energy is situated. To people who are aware of the ways to use it, this merkaba provides protection and healing from Source.

In order to use the benefits of this healing Merkaba and soul star, you need to have already cleansed and activated all physical body chakras. That’s why not all people can ascend” and ascension is a process, that is made slowly by working on each chakra daily. Energy cleansing is made regularly from down to up –like growing. When you have your chakras clean and connected with your Crown and Soul star, you will be able to receive clear message of information, signs and guidance from many universal sources – God, angels, ascended masters, Pleadians, fairies and elementals. When you have activated Merkaba your life will be blessed with health, joy, abundance and pure love. You`ll have immense peace of mind.

Crown chakra in spiritually advanced people has sparkling white light and looks (to the physical eyes) as a halo around the head. It can be in lavender, purple, white or golden light.

People who are too far from spiritual path or ascension have dull and “dusty” like look of Crown chakra, where colors wont be visible. But they always have the inner white light core, as every soul should be connected to the divine source. But the light spiral is not connected with the core, so they cant receive information.

In such way, everyone who has good intention, pure heart and desire to connect, can do that and come in the sacred space of Akasha records.

That’s the information on chakra circles and Crown, abide in divine Light, dear souls! 

nina Lea-nour *

~ medium 

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X Obligations - IV. Parents & Children

4. Obligation to your Parents and Children. 

Did you think once why I have exactly this parents and this family? And why I have exactly this children, not another? So here is the basic clue: some things is in your life and “karmic” lessons and predestined, that means your family (parents and children) are one of them. You can not choose your parents, its fact, as well as u cant choose your children, even their gender or look! So what does it mean? Here there is a higher force, that involves in the process. One of the very special mysteries and Sacraments in life is “birth” (and another is death). Not by chance these two sacraments hold many unanswered questions but also they give little keys to the truth! So we agreed (if you did) that your Parents and children are part of “karmic lesson”, or they are chosen for you specially. Do not forget now the following: Having you in the world and earth life means the karmic lesson is always for 2 sides! Its never only for you, so you give lesson for your Parents- which they need to study, and back they give you a lesson, which you should study. Here is no choice, no matter of the situation. The same is valid for your own children. Don’t think just you should teach them! They have an important lesson to teach you. There are so many and various cases on earth in this relation, that we ll need many volumes of books to describe all. And there is no need! You should remember only, that – if you have unhealthy (disrespectful, violent, based on hatred, hurting, humiliating, disqualifying, evil, putting down) relation with your parents (or one of them) that means something significant you should understand and realize about your karmic lesson (means past life unfinished duty). Now you pay for it, and payment has always a thorny way. 

The opposite is also valid: if you have unhealthy (painful, hard, violent, exhausting in energy, incommunicative, violent) relationship with your children, it means you have to pay for that – and that all is the same again repeated for your children (so the circle continue). There are many schemes about family relations, and who these people were in your previous lives, or they could be completely new, but always is one rule! They serve you to study and teach, In order to achieve higher level of Mind and understanding about yourself and your mission. As I put thinks so, we should think deeply : who then do not pay karmic lessons? (that is the answer and key to all here: everyone pay. There is no person, who is born here in flesh from human parents and don’t pay karmic lessons. This can be viewed in many ways, as a punishment”, or as an “choice for expansion”. But it exists, so you should be aware of it. The same obligations have force here with your family, never mind they can be not “brothers and sisters in Spirit”: namely 1. speak the truth (express your real self, don’t hide behind mask of expectations, love and respect yourself, speak out your feelings, communicate) 2. Help and assist them in what they need. (this is very important, but doesn’t mean u should be “humiliated” or treated in bad way, nor they should exploit you for any profit. Have and realize your self-worth in any possible situation, so speak when u like and when u dislike behavior (no matter of the opposite side or understanding) and calmly try to show why exactly you think so and how you feel. (really problem and burden will lie on them if they don’t accept or understand your views). Your obligation is to express. Hiding will bring you in the swamp of exhausting relations, of hatred and passiveness, the same as lies. 3. Share! Share in positive way with your family – children, imagine they are your soul mates –this could have (or could have not) an immense effect on them, and they ll see you in the real light and appreciate you. But here also the most important is –no matter of the opposite reaction –remember that also they are not given to be your “Brothers and sisters in Spirit” but to clean “karmic lessons”. So be good and kind, as possible, but avoid and dismiss without any doubt relations, which have evil root” for you. The easiest way for knowing that is one: realize how you feel after communication with this person! If you feel down, depressed or feel even :unclean with negative imprint, you do NOT have obligation to stay near to this person, no matter of your “blood” or social relation. Here is one rule, regardless of the what society things, you should always avoid people with such negative and highly emotionally disturbing imprint for you, as they will pull your spiritual path in opposite direction. (Have your protections, make your limits). Many things you can do more : study and ask about the past of your parents, usually if they are not yours “In Spirit” its possible their parents to be- means your grandparents or grand- grant…so there is a clue. Study your past and history, and you ll find something amazing.