The truth about Romantic Obsession and Longing (channeled message) ♥ part 3

 

This article is channeled message with the help of my angels and archangel Sandalphon about Obsession, longing and love. To understand the whole picture please read part 1 and part 2 first. 

                               ♥ Is obsession love?

This is very important question, which I can answer only as: yes and no. There are different kind of obsessions, most of them include deep feelings, emotions and love. Most obsessions can be mistaken for deep love, as they have many common elements. The problem is that obsession is more relevant to addiction and longing than to love. But that does not mean you can`t be obsessed and love in the same time. (Here comes the different between being “in love”, or sexually attracted by someone, and loving someone).

   🍦 You can read the article about addiction here...

  Obsession is complex feeling that can be triggered by emotional and psychological factors, trauma from the past (and past lives), and karmic relationships, emotional wounds and sub-conscious fears.

Also, obsession is related to intense thoughts and projections of emotions to you and from you to another person. The intensity creates energy vortex or spiral which can make it very hard to let go. 

    The feeling of obsession is related to desire to dominate and be close to (so you can be fulfilled), while love seeks more freedom, and need for reciprocity. In this way obsession is more equivalent to the masculine energy and men as they expand by dominion. (women expand by nurturing).

Obsession can have sense of restrained devotion”, being in love regardless of the object feelings or taboo, being fully committed to this person.

             Other important facts about this feeling:

1. it can increase and spiral by memories in your mind, by places and objects belonging to the other person. The person who is obsessed remembers everything related to his object of desire.

2. Obsession can be linked to feeling of lost love, trauma in love, or inability to be in a relationship. That creates level of distrust in yourself and your ability to be with person you want. That s why your mind will create loops with imagination and fantasies about the person you desire. (including sexual fantasies).

There can be mixed feelings to the object, as obsession and love are complex. For example, if you were in need of older brother in your childhood, who could take care of your, defend you and love you unconditionally, this feeling can be projected onto someone who fulfill these qualities, but then in your mind (subconscious) you mix the love to your imaginary brother” with romantic love. So, your object of obsession can be someone who is in state of taboo, but has the qualities of that “brother” you were in need in the past.

In a way, obsession can feel more like love, or more like addiction -depending on past experiences and trauma of the person.

                           ♥ Obsession, illusion and taboo

The feeling of obsession can be illusionary at its core, as its strong principles are longing for someone who is prohibited, impossible for you. It holds the patters of karmic loop and karmic lessons in relationship, and it always wants to reveal something about you and your mind. But obsession is not equal to illusion! Just it can have elements of illusion or delusion, as part of being in state of "hypnosis". 

    Obsession is also not random, but always related to something that you lack in your love, or something you have deep longing for.

The feelings of longing, desire, need, pain, lust, need for closeness, will be mixed with sense of guilt and shame (as person will wonder why he feels this to the forbidden object).

You need to pay attention to your heart and Sacral chakra -orange, as there can be energy cords from the other person.

Constant feeling of obsession will form an energy bond in the second chakra, which can become even a vortex of light, connecting you.

In this case you need to be careful about the object of obsession as the bond will take time to be removed (or it can stay constantly or for a long time).

Thank you for tuning in! 🍒

Nina Nour Bluebell ©

medium, psychic, healer

Tarot reader 

April 2026 ©

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The Truth about Romantic Obsession and Longing ♥ (channeled message) part 2

  

This article is part 2 of the channeled message about obsession, longing and taboo with the help of my angels and Arch. Sandalphon. ♥

                         Elements of obsession: 

1.  Longing, desire and strong attraction for someone who don`t belong to you or is unreachable. In many cases it is related to forbidden love, someone who is taboo.

2. Periods of silence and withrowl, in which the obsession becomes stronger and spirals -dissipates and starts again.

3. Constant need to imagine or be close to the object of desire.

(As this is rather painful experience, in most cases the person who is obsessed is attached to his pain, like in masochism).

4. Idealisation of the object of obsession.

5. The person can have uncontrollable thoughts and feelings of sexual desire to object of obsession. He can look at memories or have little objects (fetishes) of the person, like hair, clothes, photos or anything else.

             ♥ The principle of taboo and prohibition 

The obsession is ruled by the principle of the “forbidden fruit is the sweetest”, so the feeling is fuelled by the inability and prohibition to be close to the object of desire. That means, there is always a wall standing between the person and his object of obsession. If this wall is broken, the person who is obsessed can feel confused, vulnerable and don’t know how to react.

(Note that again even if it is painful and related to something forbidden, doesnt mean it is not love. Scenarios can be multiple.)

In other cases he may start a new spiral of obsession, as the object is still “prohibited” even looking closer.

                             ♥ Emotional projection

Another element of obsession is projection of the feelings and thoughts onto the object of obsession. In this point the person can start (sub-consciously) to send energy cords to his object and entangle his whole body, which will affect his energy. In such way the object of obsession may be open to these feelings and create the mirror effect, where he projects the same emotions back.

The object of desire can also feel the same feelings which are projected onto him, and accept it as his own. (That means, it is possible he is confused about his own feelings, and thinks the obsession belongs to him).

This is actually a fake “obsession” and it is called absorbtion”.

The person who is obsessed will have contradictions in his thoughts and behaviour, as he won`t have valid” explanation for his feelings.

In the next part I will look into the question is obsession love...

Read part 3 here ....

Nina Nour Bluebell ©

medium, psychic, healer

April 2026 

All rights are reserved

Fear and Resistance. What is Resistance? -Part II

 This is part II of the article>

Let's simplify things by distinguishing three stages of fear:

1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling pointing at a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.  

These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.  

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.  

 

2. ★What is resistance? Why do we resist? ★ 

 

Resistance is feeling of denial and refusing to accept something inside of you, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So, we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.  

 

When we resist something, we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist, we invoke more of the same.  

 

What can we do with fear? ✭

 

The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept). 

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a string to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.  

The first step is to be aware and realize that you are afraid. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for ex, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.  

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you can't take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself and say: I accept that I am afraid of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy.  

 

Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course, that can't be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance”. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.  

Continue to part III >>

Nina Nour Bluebell *

medium, crystal healer

spiritual coach

Oct. 2023 ©