Fear and Resistance. What is Resistance? -Part II

 This is part II of the article>

Let's simplify things by distinguishing three stages of fear:

1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling pointing at a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.  

These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.  

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.  

 

2. ★What is resistance? Why do we resist? ★ 

 

Resistance is feeling of denial and refusing to accept something inside of you, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So, we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.  

 

When we resist something, we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist, we invoke more of the same.  

 

What can we do with fear? ✭

 

The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept). 

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a string to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.  

The first step is to be aware and realize that you are afraid. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for ex, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.  

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you can't take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself and say: I accept that I am afraid of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy.  

 

Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course, that can't be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance”. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.  

Continue to part III >>

Nina Nour Bluebell *

medium, crystal healer

spiritual coach

Oct. 2023 ©

Fear and Resistance II (What is Resistance?)

    Part 2 } 

       Fear is also essential for survival of the individual, as it creates instincts of self-protection. If you are not afraid of fire (or aware that it will burn you), you will not have the instinct for self-preservation and you will be in danger all the time. But what we don’t know is that this fear needs to be “released” and cleansed from our sub-conscious mind. Every time after we felt such fear.

     Here I want to underline, that fear in its first, primal stage is a healthy feeling, that preserves you from dangers. But fear, as all feelings have different stages and can become dramatic.

Let`s simplify things by applying three stages of fear, 1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling from a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.

These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.

I.                   What is resistance? Why do we resist?

           Resistance is a feeling of denial and refusing to accept the particular feeling, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are: battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation, and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is actually the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.

When we resist something also we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist we actually invoke more of the same.

art by Paulina Gora 

What we need to do with the Fear?

         The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept).

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a strings to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.

The first step is to be aware and realize that you have fear. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for example, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you cant take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself, and say: I accept that I have fear of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy. Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course that cant be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger, or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance”, they are hard working, and nice”. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.

       The last step to deal with Fear (or any other negative feeling), is to cleanse it, let it go by substituting it with the opposite feeling. That’s like a puzzle game. Please see in the dictionary the antonyms of fear – assurance, calmness, confidence, contentment, peace, love. Take them now, read them carefully. Write these feelings and ask yourself: what will help me to feel all these feelings? To be assure and calm, confident and filled with love? This is the answer – by increasing and generating these feelings, you elevate your vibrations and all energy flow. You start to vibrate in higher "frequency”, which means – you eliminate the thoughts of fear. And that is the rule.

Basic of the fear in universal program }

        Fear as emotion is one of the strongest catalyst of human race, and its divided by multiple kinds. The basis of all Fear is fear of the unknown, and Fear of death, or “the other side”. Linked to this fear is fear of darkness and invisible, fear of spirits and ghosts, that are in invisible spectrum. Anything that is unknown provokes fear, as we struggle in some moments to trust that we are protected. We are fighters and have instincts. Another kind of fear that is very close to fear of the unknown, and death”, is fear of change. Change is viewed as something scary exactly because of the element of the mist and unknown what will happen after that. People s minds (Conscious and Sub-conscious) uses the Shadow feelings” as a base out of the Comfort zone. The comfort zone is all that is nice, positive or accepted already, known, familiar, the place we come from. Comfort zone is a concept, but its also a surface place. In order to overcome anything, and reach to another place, in order to reach expansion, you need to go out of your comfort zone. That happens through change”. You are afraid to go out of safety and security of home. Then you cant move outside and accomplish your mission. You cant meet soul-mates, you cant feel love. You cant be challenged too. That’s why fear is the feeling that provokes you to go out of your comfort zone. For good of your soul.

So realize, observe, categorize, understand, cleanse, release, let go, substitute with higher positive feeling.

That’s all for the topic of Fear and resistance.

Stay on the path of Light, Love, Joy and Freedom!

Nina Lea-Nour *

Angel`s medium 

Reiki Master 

March, 2020

Fear and Resistance I

In this article I`ll observe the feeling of fear, and also what provokes fear, the main roots of fear and resistance for change.

 Part one}  

Also I ll throw light to some other “negative” emotions like sadness, depression, hatred, anxiety, restlessness.

I.                   What are the “negative feelings”

        What we call "negative feelings” are the mirror effects of our deep Shadow Self that resides mostly in our Sub-conscious mind. Because it is that deep, we rarely are aware of our Shadow Self, which can trigger in our conscious life situations and feelings, that we don’t understand or don’t see the source. These negative feelings multiple and has reason to exist, namely to make us aware of them and become catalyst for change in perception. When something is labels as “negative” it actually comes as a Sign to look within us, and see what is there to be changed? In our thought patterns, in our perception of world, child-memories. That are the signs for inner transformation.

Be aware too that most negative feelings come from suppressed emotions from our past (or childhood, past lives), and in major part are related to other people (usually close family members, lovers and people we are in relationship). All of that makes the picture quite complicated.

         About Sub-consciousness }

       The Sub-conscious mind is like a forgotten dark room, but it can be very chaotic inside. We can throw things in this room without order. That’s why it needs to be organized and cleansed in certain times. Sub conscious mind can also hold key to our fears and all suppressed emotions. What we should not do with all the “dark” emotions is to “suppress them”, so they are going to the Sub-conscious mind. Because these suppressed emotions create later ripple effect and the results are felt on the surface. (in conscious mind).

To explain more clearly, imagine the sub-conscious mind as a beautiful vast lake. What you see on the surface of the lake, floating beautiful water lilies, flowers, birds, and stillness. That surface is the mind. Now see how you go deeper in the depths of the lake, where it becomes more and more dark. First you see little fishes, stones, treasures, water plants. Then you will see nothing, as the deeper you go, the darker will become. That is the sub-conscious mind.

      Now imagine you are there, outside of the lake, and someone gives you an object you totally don’t like, or a feeling, or anything dark, that you dislike. You throw it inside the lake and it disappears. It goes deeply to the Sub-conscious. So everything that you like, you take and arrange it on the surface, and all what you dislike or afraid of, you send to the bottom of the lake. Then it will appear, so clear and clean picture, everything will be perfectly set on the outside”. You can invite a friend to stay with you near the lake, and he will be pleased and not notice anything. Until you “remember” something forgotten from the objects that you throw down to the sub-conscious, and that will come back to you.

About Fear }

         Fear is one of the very strong emotions that many times you suppress and throw to the “bottom of the lake” simply because you cant stand it. But there is danger in suppressing any emotion, because in this way it will come to you in double way. Then you should deal with it again and again. The solutions to deal with fear, as well as other dark feelings, is the following: 1. to be aware of this fear; 2. to cleanse it from your Sub-conscious 3. to substitute fear with the opposite emotion from the positive range (like love).

The difficulty here is, that you need to consciously work with that feelings. To write down, to be aware and follow your own Show side. To work with your shadow, and be aware of it. Otherwise it will come back to you multiple times. The same way that we work for making the body strong, we need to work on our mind (consciousness) and our subliminal mind (subconscious).

art by Paulina Gora 

Fear is a primal feeling that is essential for humans and for animals, and has primal instinctive nature. That means feelings are like colours in the emotional body, they operate with our chakras and affect the whole energy. Fear as other negative feelings are rooted in the collective mind and our individual DNA. One of the reason is to trigger ripple effect, awakening, transformation, change, and finally reach expansion. If you are staying only on the surface, or in one still position, nothing in your life will change and nothing will move forward. Humans (as program) need challenges and need to have obstacles of the negative shadow self, in order to overcome them and become stronger. In this way fear is emotion that makes you to reach out and achieve other feelings like strength, confidence, love, trust, letting go.

Thank you for tuning in! 

Stay on the path of Ascension, Joy, Love and Freedom. 

Nina Lea-Nour *

Angel`s medium 

Reiki master 

The ten stones of Earthly life -III

The third part of article ~ [ sorrow, fear, angst ]

9) Sorrow, grief 

the sorrow is consequence of realizing the prison of body and material world. We cant be fully happy in all levels while in material body, that’s quite normal. Anyone who states something else is wrong. Lets look to the story of young Buddha. He had beautiful life as a prince in a castle, he was rich, moreover he had all that anyone would dream to have – love of family and children. He was stable in material world, just then it happened one collapse. That will be hard to happen to anyone in his place. Just he was appointed to feel so when he observed body of ill, and a death person on his walk. Then he reached to higher soul experience by realizing the meaning of earth plane and life. He knew already what many people don’t know even in this century. That our souls will go through purification process and the place for all suffer and pain is earth.

Sorrow and grief we feel because of all material suffer and obstacles in our earth life. (They are all appointed , this is to remember well!) To be happy (feel joy) or to suffer (to feel sorrow) often are reffered to as ways of emotional reactions. But everyone will agree that we are not angels nor even close to while in physical body and I don’t know person who will not feel sorrow after death of his beloved or his child. This is process and its quite natural. Remember that the energy of sorrow needs to be poured out, not imprisoned in your emotional body. Any imprisonment will change soul emotional patterns and will be harmful. Sorrow we feel while here, no matter how perfect can seem our life, no matter how higher we are in spiritual level. Even if we leave in isolation we will feel sorrow, as we ll know, feel and observe the reality around us. That’s what Buddha experienced, before his decision to escape and be alone to achieve Nirvana.

10) Fear, fright, angst ~

   These dark emotions are maybe the worst of all, they stay in the basis of Stone pyramids. Fear is in the basic of all negative emotions for humans, and its provoked by the existence itself. All physical aspects of reality can awaken different forms of fearfulness. Fear from darkness – for children and babies, fear of unknown, fear to be alone, and many more. All other stones of physical world can be related to fear – fear from separation, from loss of trust, to lose something valuable, to lose home, fear to be alone, fear to lose love, fear to lose job, fear from betrayal, fear from disappointment, fear from anger (reaction of anger of self or other), fear from illness, fear from lie, mischief, fear from power (to be responsible for yourself or someone else, to be enslaved or addicted to something), feat to lose power…and so on. Most of the physical world lowest emotions come from fear. It’s the most wide spread and also most natural feeling – also existing in animal habitat. Fear is almost connected to our instinct of survival and love to stay save, secure and in life. Its natural emotion, connected with our Root charka –or basis.

 What we have to do with fear?

As all other stones fear is meant to make us stronger in body and make our spirit expand. That’s why we shouldn’t afraid of “fear”. Feel fear – then say “ok, I feel that” what should I do? Overcome it is the next step. Don’t let fear to live longer and feed from your heart and emotions. Don’t let fear overshadow other beautiful emotions like love and compassion. How we overcome fear?

That’s one of the secret everyone should discover for himself. But I can say that mostly fear can be diminished and dispersed by power of Love – Love faith and Hope are the three principles to make fear dissolved. It will stop to exist after we raise our emotions of Love, Faith and Hope in so high level, that they wont be touched by fear. That’s the way.

All of these stones (obstacles) of human plane above are with special mission (meant to be) here and let us learn many lessons. The basic role of them is to make our spirit expand, our soul to be purified and ascend to God, and to achieve spiritual transformation (inner) after physical transformation (outer). This is the process of spiritual transformation – the same as physical body grows in age, and aging is process of transforming the body, so all experiences of the ten stones are here to assist your spirit in his expansion and transformation from low to high.

These are my angels revelations about stones of physical existence. Thank you so much for being here!

Abide in divine Light, dear light workers!  

nina Lea-nour * 

@ 1012 

Svadhishtana related diseases and natural remedies (1)

    I started writing about diseases and how they are connected with human body as a whole system. The same as all well known illnesses in our organism, also the remedies have complex work and work with combination of many remedies. For more information, please read the first part " Muladhara related diseases and natural remedies”. 

Now I dedicate time for Svadhishtana related most spread diseases and what are the possible cures for them. Sacral chakra imbalances on all levels are often symptoms of many people in contemporary society. Large range of factors add to this – polluted atmosphere in the big cities, work over time, stress, lack of sleep, lack of sport activity, lack of time devoted for things you love, interests and people. These factors influence actually the whole human energy and all chakras. I mention them here, because they are particularly related with Sacral center. Why?

Svadhishtana is very special chakra, related to sexual power, joy, abundance, ability to share with others, ability to share your emotions, to trust and be trusted, to show affection, to believe in yourself, to be confident, and allow yourself relaxing and indulging in joyful activities.

It`s actual source of happiness. Many people living in the fast speed of work-life-daily worries can`t allow the natural flow of energy and joy inside them. Sacral area is related physically to: intimate zone, ovaries, womb, genitals, kidneys and bladder. It is the reproductive system of human – its main element is low water and fire. Because of many reasons this chakra can be out of balance and inactive. The social related norms, issues, high expectation of other people close to us (parents, family, friends), high expectations from ourselves and self-criticism are some of the main problems with the orange center. We need to be enough confident, self-loving, self-accepting, not afraid of showing our real feelings and emotions to others, not wearing social masks –in order to have brilliant Sacral chakra. Sadly this is not fact in today society, that`s why many people make trap for negative energies inside their reproductive center, which leads to many diseases in all levels.

What causes the most common defects and illnesses in this center of emotions?

~ suppressed sexual energy (sexuality) - related to Sacral chakra defect 

~ suppressed positive emotions (lack of emotions like joy, happiness, pleasure) - Sacral

~ not trusting yourself (lack of self-confidence, self-criticism) (Sacral & Heart)

~ not trusting others emotions (lack of tolerance and acceptance of others) (Sacral & Heart)

~ being in a toxic relationship (person who is not energetic match for you and drains your energy) (Sacral & Heart) 

~ feeling lonely and depressed (Sacral & Heart )

~ allowing emotions of others, and feeling of others to affect on you (fear of others expectations, criticism, fear to share inner emotions to close people) (Sacral & Root )

    All of these feelings can be a cause – and will be if they stay long enough inside you – for wide range of diseases. As we know first the disease appears on energy and psychological level, then it spread to the physical body. Some of the downfalls of Sacral center are: the fear of commitment, not trusting others and yourself can lead to kidneys and bladder problems; toxic relationships (not receiving or giving enough love, unable to share emotions with your partner) leads to blocked or ill intimate center – womb, ovaries, irregular menstruation, cyst on ovaries, vaginal problems and itching, as well as sexual problems for men; Suppressed sexual energy (or suppressed emotions and sharing with your partner) can be a cause for excessive sexual desire, nymphomania, sexual disorder (on psychology level), inability to stay in one relationship, need to frequently change sexual partners; You`ll feel as if you are in a trap of emotions and unable to go out, feel afraid to express and show your feelings, and your femininity (male qualities); in an extreme cases the defect of this chakra can cause – strong affections, inability of control over emotions, deviances in mind leading to aggressive sexual behavior, sadism, masochism, increased animal instincts, perversions…)

With risk to be criticized I would say, that what we see sadly in many Muslim societies – like repression of women, allowing aggressive behavior as a norm, blocked sexual energies for the young people from the main social norms –leads to bursting of all these defects and perversions. 

This is due to polluted and misdirected sexual energy. We need to be aware of that process, as it`s lying in deep subliminal level; (* the levels of rape and domestic violence in Islamic countries are much higher than in other countries).  Discrimination of sexual energy is also a cause for illnesses and defects – in Iran and Saudi Arabia cases of homosexuality are punished with dead penalty. That does not lead to decreasing such cases, but just opposite – leads to defected sexual energies in whole society.

In similar manner obsessive behavior with the love-partner, feeling of possessiveness, burst of anger, aggression, jealousy – are entirely related to Sacral chakra blockages.

In strictly Muslim societies we`ll often see the pattern of relationship based on psychological issues –master-slave. The male energy is dominant and female energy are suppressed. Not all relationships are experiencing this pattern, because of the openness of the world, modern technologies and general raise of Mind for people. 

* Please read the second part - "Svadhishtana related diseases and natural remedies -2 "

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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