Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Fear and Resistance. What is Resistance? -Part II

 This is part II of the article>



Let's simplify things by distinguishing three stages of fear:


1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling pointing at a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.  


These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.  

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.  

 

  1. What is resistance? Why do we resist?  

 

Resistance is feeling of denial and refusing to accept something inside of you, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So, we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.  

 

When we resist something, we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist, we invoke more of the same.  

 

What can we do with fear? 

 

The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept). 

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a string to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.  


The first step is to be aware and realize that you are afraid. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for ex, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.  

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you can't take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself and say: I accept that I am afraid of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy.  

 

Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course, that can't be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.  


Continue to part III >>




Nina Nour Bluebell *

medium, crystal healer

spiritual coach

Oct. 2023 ©

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