Fear and Resistance. What is Resistance? -Part II

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Let's simplify things by distinguishing three stages of fear:

1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling pointing at a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.  

These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.  

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.  

 

2. ★What is resistance? Why do we resist? ★ 

 

Resistance is feeling of denial and refusing to accept something inside of you, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So, we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.  

 

When we resist something, we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist, we invoke more of the same.  

 

What can we do with fear? ✭

 

The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept). 

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a string to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.  

The first step is to be aware and realize that you are afraid. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for ex, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.  

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you can't take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself and say: I accept that I am afraid of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy.  

 

Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course, that can't be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance”. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.  

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Nina Nour Bluebell *

medium, crystal healer

spiritual coach

Oct. 2023 ©

Fear and Resistance II (What is Resistance?)

    Part 2 } 

       Fear is also essential for survival of the individual, as it creates instincts of self-protection. If you are not afraid of fire (or aware that it will burn you), you will not have the instinct for self-preservation and you will be in danger all the time. But what we don’t know is that this fear needs to be “released” and cleansed from our sub-conscious mind. Every time after we felt such fear.

     Here I want to underline, that fear in its first, primal stage is a healthy feeling, that preserves you from dangers. But fear, as all feelings have different stages and can become dramatic.

Let`s simplify things by applying three stages of fear, 1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling from a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.

These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.

I.                   What is resistance? Why do we resist?

           Resistance is a feeling of denial and refusing to accept the particular feeling, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are: battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation, and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is actually the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.

When we resist something also we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist we actually invoke more of the same.

art by Paulina Gora 

What we need to do with the Fear?

         The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept).

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a strings to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.

The first step is to be aware and realize that you have fear. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for example, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you cant take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself, and say: I accept that I have fear of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy. Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course that cant be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger, or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance”, they are hard working, and nice”. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.

       The last step to deal with Fear (or any other negative feeling), is to cleanse it, let it go by substituting it with the opposite feeling. That’s like a puzzle game. Please see in the dictionary the antonyms of fear – assurance, calmness, confidence, contentment, peace, love. Take them now, read them carefully. Write these feelings and ask yourself: what will help me to feel all these feelings? To be assure and calm, confident and filled with love? This is the answer – by increasing and generating these feelings, you elevate your vibrations and all energy flow. You start to vibrate in higher "frequency”, which means – you eliminate the thoughts of fear. And that is the rule.

Basic of the fear in universal program }

        Fear as emotion is one of the strongest catalyst of human race, and its divided by multiple kinds. The basis of all Fear is fear of the unknown, and Fear of death, or “the other side”. Linked to this fear is fear of darkness and invisible, fear of spirits and ghosts, that are in invisible spectrum. Anything that is unknown provokes fear, as we struggle in some moments to trust that we are protected. We are fighters and have instincts. Another kind of fear that is very close to fear of the unknown, and death”, is fear of change. Change is viewed as something scary exactly because of the element of the mist and unknown what will happen after that. People s minds (Conscious and Sub-conscious) uses the Shadow feelings” as a base out of the Comfort zone. The comfort zone is all that is nice, positive or accepted already, known, familiar, the place we come from. Comfort zone is a concept, but its also a surface place. In order to overcome anything, and reach to another place, in order to reach expansion, you need to go out of your comfort zone. That happens through change”. You are afraid to go out of safety and security of home. Then you cant move outside and accomplish your mission. You cant meet soul-mates, you cant feel love. You cant be challenged too. That’s why fear is the feeling that provokes you to go out of your comfort zone. For good of your soul.

So realize, observe, categorize, understand, cleanse, release, let go, substitute with higher positive feeling.

That’s all for the topic of Fear and resistance.

Stay on the path of Light, Love, Joy and Freedom!

Nina Lea-Nour *

Angel`s medium 

Reiki Master 

March, 2020