Love tree & Lovers - III

[ Passion, Romantic time ]

   Passion – another aspect of love-relationships, that cant go without. We have all and understanding, tolerance, honesty, sharing moments …but something is missing. If passion – and physical attraction is not there –then we can be just good friends (maybe soul-mates) but not love-mates. Love is designed to give humanity inheritance, offspring. We need the inner impulses of passion and desire for another in order to feel complete. The truth is –perfect love-tree is very rarely to be found and grown. Passions often are expressed and directed in wrong way, many relationships fail or are without basis, due to different fears, judgments, low self-esteem, unknowing. Fear to be left “alone” is sadly among the most common. Even if you have intimate life with your love-mate – but you don’t enjoy it, unlike your partner – this will make a big imbalance in your relationship. The fear to lose him will make you to hide the truth about your feelings. You wont be able to overcome that, but one day the whole relation will fall apart. Suddenly and fast.

    Passions are not very common cause for relationships failure…but: Actually we cant be sure of that. The problem is, too many people wouldn’t reveal the real cause of their damaged relationships. Specially about social tabus and stigmas like passion and intimate life of the partners. Many couples do not want to admit such problem even in front of themselves, what about in public. Sexuality and sexual relations still have long way to go to be understood, as now they are in very low, primitive levels, pressed from social criteria.

No matter of that – if you have passion, attraction and sexual desire to your partner most probably you`ll be able to continue building your relationship. (even if you don’t have a basis) Sadly without basis, and without the first triad I mentioned –will be too ugly, crippled, deformed relationship, which (take care of that) will not be able to continue for long if one of the partners is on the spiritual way. Without basic qualities required to maintain the purity of human feelings –just the physical attraction is really equal to brutality or violence. It ll be diminished to the level of animal instincts. Even so – most of people practicing this kind of relationship only by attraction – exist, out of spiritual striving; they need mostly comfort, safety and joy in life in their own way. With them the attachment on primitive level will exist, but nothing more.

 ~  Romantic moments sharing ~

    The lovely rose of romantic moments can be seen everywhere in the true love-mates. They love being together, holding hands, looking to each others faces, being close, feeling the touch of another, just being silent together, caressing their hairs and hands…Much can be said, mostly in poetry you can feel the best of the love-spring. If romantic moments and simple joy of togetherness is plenty with young people and first love – sadly its not so by grown and adult people. The second seem to “have forgotten” the charm and innocence of the first love thrills, they are like thick –skin, their feelings become more “wise” and not easy to go with the flow. Specially after so much bitterness collected in their hearts. Who can blame them? Its wonderful and amazing to see couples who still maintain the love-flame in older ages and feel so attached. They are example of well grown love tree with blooms and fruits.

The fruits of the love-tree are: unconditional love, joy, being thankful and content with what you have. Give love and you`ll receive three times more. That’s the rule. Such couples are really happy. But for that you need to have all available elements daily in your life. To water daily yur tree, to put it in a sun-light, to care of it, clean it from leaves, change the soil, have fresh air in the home. All of that factors together will make him grow and thrive.

Romantic moments if not the root are the water and fertilizer for the relationship; without them it wont survive long, and will be in stage of “dying”. 

[ continue to part four : Love tree & Lovers IV ] 

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