Inner child - How to heal wounded inner child? II

🍐 This is part 2 of the article, please read part I here. >>

How to heal wounded inner child ? ✪

  The connection to your inner child can happen in meditation or in sub-conscious (subliminal) conversation with it. In this meditation you connect with your childhood self in any age that appears to you.

1) ⭐Then you have conversation and assure him that he is loved and safe in all levels. You act like a loving and caring parent to your inner child. That’s what you need to do to heal.

You need to understand that the inner child is in constant need of these 3 things:

-        love and joy

-        freedom (incl. emotional)

-        safety and security

All children (and all beings) need love, so in your meditation practice you can hug tightly your child self saying “I love you”, and saying they are safe. That is the first step to healing.

2) ⭐We can give our child self feeling of joy by playing or doing something that he loves –or something that was not allowed to her/ him. There are many examples here –playing ballet, dancing, playing instrument, sport, drawing.

Children connect with the world only though their heart (and heart intelligence) and they usually love music and dancing. Also they love all forms of creativity.

3) ⭐We give to our child self in meditation –the freedom to express it self without being in danger. This freedom is very essential to the soul and is one of the first human rights here. As the child doesn’t understand duality, it is not aware of the “shadow” soul. Therefore it is innocent and irresponsible.

Imagine your inner child dancing, drawing or creating anything he wishes.

Now you have achieved all these states of love, joy and freedom, which is one step of healing the childhood trauma.

(to go deeper into that healing, you need to revise and re-evaluate all the traumatic experience that you had as a child, seeing it through the eyes of adult.) Notice and feel any emotional reaction to that process. It will be sign that your childhood trauma starts to heal.

    The inner child is more closer to nature and animal world than the adult, and it sees everything from the eyes of heart. This child doesn’t understand “danger” or consequence or “obligation” in the world. Because it exists out of the 3D matrix.

Only by connecting and healing your inner child you can heal also your Heart and emotional body.

The trauma of the heart is one of the hardest to heal, and it takes longer time on soul level; That’s because all experiences, impressions and visions of the child are related to Heart portal.

Because the child lives in state of love, joy, oneness and freedom, it believes in magic and in the magical world beyond. This world we need to re-connect again in order to heal the wounded child.

What in your life is magical now? Do you believe in magic? Do you connect with nature, tree spirits and elementals?

These are all signs of awaken inner child.

As I mentioned before, a child doesn’t understand duality and shadow. But it feels it on a deeper level and it can respond to it by shutting down his joy, love and freedom.

To be placed in the "shadow” reality of war, conflict, abuse in family, restrictions, is the way that the child will collapse, shrink, shut down in his/her shell. Or it responds by copying the same behaviour of the reality – becomes aggressive, abusive and conflicting. That’s a sign of a deep wound.

The inner child is so vulnerable in front of power and control. At the age before 15 the child sees the power and control only as oppression. That`s how he easily can become in state of powerflessness later in life. Many people in fact carry this feeling all their life so they are in fear of power and control. This is exactly opposite of the child`s need of freedom.

In these times on the earth plane most people 98% are dealing with childhood trauma, and many don’t even know it.

Nina Lea-Nour 
Angel`s medium
Oct. - 15/2022 ©

Inner child & childhood trauma -I

 

We often hear about healing the “inner child”, wounded child and childhood trauma in spiritual circles. There are many different views on what is “inner child”, so I asked my angels for more details on this topic. Here is their message.

  ★Inner child is identity construct of the Soul –self. It is the state of Primordial soul before coming to this life (or dense matter).

    You need to be aware that your inner child has multiple levels of existence in different levels and dimensions. The child can also be called “child-Self” it is made up of all emotional, mental and spiritual bodies of You (Soul) when you were a child. That period is slightly different for each person, but usually encompasses the age between 3-4 and 12-13 years. The inner child Self is one living on the liminal space, or the verge before your mind being programmed of the duality world and social conditioning.

   You can imagine that the inner child lives out of the state of all norms and conditions, out of the “social prison” and therefore it is out of the state of understanding logic and mind.

   This child lives in pure emotional engagement, in need of love, joy and communication with the outer world.

Simply put – the child Self lives and accepts all as one, he is in world of oneness, while the adult self is in world of duality (or negative and positive).

   When we grow older (and after age of 16) we gradually forget about the state of purity, joy and oneness, as we learn the rules of the social game – norms, restrictions and conditions. That is our way to survive as social creatures. In this way we come far away from our inner freedom, and closer to inner prison of the Soul.

   Your inner child consists of your childhood emotions, mind, spiritual body and all the early impressions of your child-soul. ✪ Your inner child, as your Primordial soul (which is eternal) is far more complex – it contains the soul matrix of your “inner children” from all past lives and all stars and dimensions beyond this.

That becomes totally different concept from what most people imagine.

The child-Self now becomes strongly connected to your emotional body, heart energy and sub-conscious mind. Exactly these are the places that hold most cellular memory and etheric imprints from past childhood trauma.

                                         photo by Simon Wiffen ©

     The inner child is out of all normal organised realities as we know it. Because it exists in oneness only, he does not understand divisions. (example: many children don’t differentiate gender, race or religion on spiritual level). The child is in state of freedom, bliss and innocence –which continues before the first expansion and creation of the first chakra Muladhara at the age of 12.

   ⭐ The child Self is connected to the imagination and the deep sub-conscious mind and it strives to align your Soul with the soul, emotions of all “inner children” in our past and from all previous incarnations.

That is a quite important role and at the soul level we have this “inner child” imprints always within. But at the certain point in life – we feel abandoned, disappointed and we lose connection with the child-Self. That happens in when we collect enough moments of abandonment in our cells, so that we don’t feel the world as safe as we thought.

There are 3 basic fears of our inner child, that are crucial for our later existence and life view. There are:

-        fear of abandonment

-        fear of shame, guilt

-        fear of pain, control

In the first state these fears come to live in emotional level. The child does not understand” the reality in its 3D form, but it has feeling and intuition to it.

This deeper feeling- intuition and premonition we lost when we grew up in social prison.

Fear of abandonment can play crucial role into the youth and adult life of the Soul – and it can replay the bad scenarios in many cases. That’s because child soul needs to remove and cleanse the early trauma, which happens only with deep healing on sub-conscious level.

Therefore souls often choose people who remind” them (on sub-conscious level) of the childhood trauma or abandonment.

The child (inner child) is free from social norms of duality – in gender, race and differences, also it doesn’t understand the “time-space” and it if free from the agenda “what if”. The child also doesn’t understand the connection between choice – action and consequence.

The child-self is always connected to the ancestral karma, trauma and love. Therefore we can find and heal wounded child in all of these concepts. It holds the matrix and programs of all previous inner children – the way they felt loved, the way they experienced trauma.

What is childhood trauma? ★

If you have experienced all 3 childhood fears – in the age before 13-15 (abandonment, guilt/ shame, pain/ aggression) in any level, then you had a childhood trauma.

This is something like wound of the soul and it needs to be healed in us. That healing happens in stages, not at once.  As we keep our inner child, but in times we have lost our connection to it –so the first thing to do is to re-establish our connection to the inner child.

🍍Please continue to part 2 here. >>

Nina Lea-Nour *
Angel`s medium
Oct. -2022/ 15 ©

Page of Swords (Court Tarot)

                                                Sun and Moon Tarot - Vanessa Decort 

The energy of all Pages is the one associated with the card Fool ( 0) – innocence, new start, new energy to begin, inspiration, positive energy, seeing the world with eyes of a child, discovering new things, connecting with inner child, immaturity. This is the card more or less of “surface” level, but very uplifting. Page has the psychological attributes of little child and usually a girl, maiden, not grown woman. This card could mean also attraction to much younger woman (girl), sisterhood, very close girl friend. Page in many spreads is source of revealed messages –could bring meaning of new friendship, news delivered from someone close to you (or about him), or gossiping.

    Page of swards represents in a situation curiosity, need for communication, trust, desire for knowledge and education. It indicates passion and enthusiasm to start new project, idea, or learning, or hobby related to knowledge. This card signifies taking risks, using unusual approach, positive energy to start a project, learning, courses.

This is also energy of a child, and innocence. Less experience, but very high enthusiasm. It can be daughter, son or young sister.

The message of Page of swards is: act on your passions and future projects, but be careful who you share them with. Don’t be too open or sharing with everyone around. Ask for help, and advice from someone more mature than you, be open to guidance. Start of new learning and new social circle.

Nina Lea-nour *

Angel`s medium 

Reiki master

Heart chakra -relationships, illnesses -II

   Part II...

    

     This inner child is in most cases of human life “wounded” in the past (in your childhood), or in the present moment from harmful relationships. Any person with wounded inner child, will have difficulties with his future relationships – specially intimate ones, but also with friends. Now what happens in relationship is that you give openly and with Love the opportunity to your partner to “heal” and love your inner child. This child is wounded from the past, and needs to be healed and nourished. Now the partner (your beloved) takes this opportunity for healing, and spreads cords to your heart and Solar Plexus. You trust this process and all seems well. In a special moment – can be one, two or many years) you realize that your child is not only not healed” but wounded even more; and that your partner took advantage of your trust and openness, using your power and love. That’s how person feels betrayed and disappointed. This is the same feeling like you give someone a precious gift (from your heart), he takes it and throw it in garbage. So it hurts. That’s how the inner child of your partner does not connect with your inner child. Then the “love” is impossible.

Heart chakra - relationships, illnesses -I

 This is the most special chakra in human body – as literary maintain the life and moving of energy on ethereal level. Heart chakra is spinning with higher intensity (with the rhythm of the physical pulse), in sparkling emerald green light and white core. This is a “electricity” central spreading energy and life to all other chakras. If you body is ill, or your emotions are out of balance, the first place to look is Heart. For convenience I`ll review aspects of other warm chakras below the heart, in order to understand better the relationship of Anahata.

As we said until now, lower chakras relationships are:

Root – to the family blood line, the father, grandfather, brothers

Sacral – to the Karmic relationships (past lives), mother, sisters, divine Feminine, intimate partners

Solar Plexus – to children (your own and others), to friends, colleagues and soul mates (social status)

    I will give now basic outlines about Heart chakra and what it is related to. As we can imagine, this chakra is the that connects  humanity with love. Even without to fully realize what is meaning of love, when we listen the word “heart” we make fast association with “love”. This concept is not so wrong, but it is misleading. That’s because the feeling of Love relates in reality to ALL chakras and it is a form of engine pushing the wheel to move and spin. That’s why the truth is that without feeling of love all our chakras will be imbalanced in different degree. Anahata is related to love, but this is very different from our understanding about human love. This love is: the unconditional love TO divine source (God, Goddess); 2. this is the love for our INNER child and connection to it. 3. This is the unconditional love TO humanity (all humans without exception).

    So these are the kind of love related to Heart chakra. You can see that this is not the “emotions” and individual feelings of heart (that can be seen in the Sacral center obviously). This is the love for all – divine source, humanity, higher Self. The feeling of what we call “love” on earth, or the thrill, attraction, friendship, love to individual is actually related with the Sacral center (orange) –as it moves our emotional body for the special “time being”. The strange thing of this process is that the changeable feelings of Second chakra that we call “love” can not last longer time, than a specific period, that is always restricted in time frame. That means this kind of human “love” we can feel for one, two, four, five, nine, eleven years…but finally it will finish as it started. That means the kind of “emotional attraction” of human love does not last forever (and didn’t mean to last forever). Moreover the humans are made to have transition to the “other side and state” of spirit after the physical death of body. That’s why so many and many relationships start, like fire, burn shortly or long, but then they just seize and their flame is extinguished. This is so obviously because of the human nature. We are made to grow and transform, to change and move, that’s why we sub consciously apply this status to our relationships.

    I want to underline something – In the feeling of this changeable emotional “love” that grab us at once, the energy from the Sacral chakra connects with upper chakras –specially the Solar Plexus and Heart. By connecting with stream of golden or pink light, the individual may feel amazing feeling of love “out of time” or constant feeling of love, that could last “forever”. This is of course just a feeling, but not happening in reality. In reality this love lasts “forever” but only until it stays in status of love “out of time” and beyond the physical reality. That’s how we can feel that the object of our love will last “forever” and our love is eternal. In some sense it really can be viewed as eternal (without end), exactly because of the complicated mechanism of opening of this love from the Love karmic mirror (read the article…). The most important to understand is that this love will seem as “out of time” as we experience exactly in this time frame “shifting and expansion of time”. When person is in love” he doesn’t feel the time as linear, but as connected with his feeling – very slow motion, or very fast. This explains all why we feel that.

About Heart center in this time – when we connect our Sacral chakra with the Solar Plexus, we let the feeling of acceptance, appreciation and friendship come inside it, and let also the feeling of TRUST come inside this energy. In this way it happens exchange of energy – or we can let the object of our love to “take from our energy” and to connect our body in place of the three chakras with “cords”; These chakras are Sacral, Solar Plexus and Heart. These are the main centers that we can let another to form “cords” from attachments. These cords are very thin energy cords, that are very strong, and not always are bad. They can be negative specially after the end of our relationship with the person, as they continue to exist.

   What happens in the feeling of human “love”? Sacral chakra connects with Heart too and forms cord, letting “in” the energy of the person we love. This letting is cold “trust” and faith; in heart center the human “emotion” from changeable and moving becomes “constant” or fixed in time, the status of “attachment” changes to be “love” unconditional. No matter what the person makes for us, as we already have open center of unconditional love, we are easy to forgive him. That’s how the love feeling works until another important process is activated. I`ll speak about that now.

    How it happens that so many people that are together for long time, suddenly separate? How it happens that very “strange” or not logical relationships move forward and until the end people are together? As I said too many (almost 80%) from the humans in planet have compromised relationships. That means they are not “fully happy” together, nor they feel “unconditional love” together! This is very big number to be by chance. I wont explain now why they stay together and so on. The main reason is “attachment” (cords from Sacral and Solar Plexus), or comfortable zone (people are afraid of change or moving out of comfort zone) and benefits (they receive something else from their partner –not love, it may be material means and so on).

    But I want to explain how it happens people who are “in love forever” or so similar, suddenly separate? And why some others stay together for long time even without change? The answer to this question is simple, yet may be amazing for you: Inner child. All relationships/ relations in world are connected with INNER child. Our inner child is power inside the heart center. It connects with our Higher Self (or astral body as some may see it), and it`s responsible for feeling of Purity of our love and emotions; and for realizing and accepting the truth (about world and our selves); and for the amazing feeling of Forgiveness. 

If you are interested in this topic, please read the next part about Heart :
Heart chakra -relationships, illnesses -II

nina Lea-nour *

Sixth purple golden ray and arch. Uriel -VI

   VI. Purple golden ray and arch. Uriel (master Lady Nada, Mary Magdaline)

   This amazing ray works the way out to the higher levels by uniting the power of all other rays – healing of the green ray, protection and cutting cords of blue ray, purification of inner child of White ray, illumination and transformation of mind of Yellow ray. All aspects come together in the Purple-golden ray. This and the violet ray are the one to work in service for all humanity and special rays for Light workers. They work with subtle energies of all natural spirits, all masters and goddesses. This ray also can work in ethereal earth level with fairies and elementals (also emerald ray could do that but in less degree). This is the ray of the soul ascension unfolding and soul reaching higher. Purple –golden flame angels devote to results in spiritual ascension and need your devotion back. They require persistence, passion and regular practice and spiritual work.

Heart chakra, Anahata -IV

IV. Heart chakra - green lotus 

   Heart is the major energy center of human body. It’s a key vortex that spreads energy to all places in the body, to upper and down chakras. Heart chakra looks like emerald green sphere of light (with white core), higher vibration souls have golden light, sparkle in the outer sphere. Heart is place of healing, its related to highest human feelings of love, compassion, joy of giving, forgiveness, joy of nature, joy of helping others.

Through these emotions and mostly through unconditional love we are able to heal all things in our body. Heart chakra is connected with lungs (air energy), it can be visualized with different shades of green – emerald, pale green yellow-green. In advanced souls this chakra has second sphere known as “seat of the soul” which has pink color.

Heart is connected with both hands –left and right –so it makes balance between giving and receiving. Heart center can sooth and heal all emotions in astral level.

Heart and Astral body ~

Heart is connected with astral body through many cords, as well as to spiritual realm (ethereal plane) where we can communicate with fairies, sylphs, all elementals. All natural things will open the heart chakra –specially spending time in nature, playing with children, giving –receiving gifts. The heart represents the green leaves of trees – spreading oxygen for all body and repairs organs. Heart is connection with our Inner child.

   The heart is the real place of the Soul. It can connect to our past lives feelings and it is able with our choice to heal past traumas, love wounds, broken heart. Heart should be open and flowing center as it provides energy for all body. It holds emotional memory of our past and love to others. Here is the zone for practicing acceptance, non judgment, love, compassion. If you accept things as they are, you are able to enjoy all in your life, without adding negative thoughts. Accept that things are in state of natural flow (not always perfect), but strive for the best in your life. You cant change first others, or first environment. Start by changing your own attitude, your own perception, mind and habits. Then all other things will be changed in stages and little by little. Be aware and practice forgiveness as amazing tool of healing the heart.

In reality heart center cant be “broken” or out of flow, but it can be dull or with smoke, if your feelings of love, compassion and joy of giving are very low and not developed. Then heart chakra will be imbalanced, but even so you will continue to receive energy and spread it to other centers.

Ripples of lake ~

In energy perspective heart is not tied to any inner circle with other chakra. It looks like ripple in a lake, this energy spreads in circles around far perimeter reaching all far points of the body. That’s why it’s the central chakra. It sends impulses and has inner knowledge about all illnesses of the body. Open heart, acceptance and non judgment will make your energy cleansed and pure and let your life be easier and joyful.

Heart is between warm (down) chakras and cool (upper) chakras. While the down connect to the ground and earth strongly, the cool chakras energy is related to space, spirit, angels, God, and higher consciousness. Heart is between them as it’s the medium between warm and cool, up and down. It connects all, that’s why it holds the divine sparkle. 

Affirmation for Heart chakra: "I`m full of joy, I feel unconditional love and compassion to all living beings. I love and accept myself, I love and accept others, I cherish my inner child and spend time alone connecting with it. I love all the nature spirits, elements and life on earth; I`m stable in my emotions, I trust myself and my inner guide (heart) in any situation. I trust others, I cherish feelings of others. I m open to feel joy, abundance, peace and tranquility in all aspects of my life. I`m open to give and receive love. I forgive myself for any past mistakes, I forgive others in my life, I learned my lessons. I live fully in the present moment." 

nina Lea-nour * 

@ angel medium