Inner child - How to heal wounded inner child? II

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How to heal wounded inner child ? ✪

  The connection to your inner child can happen in meditation or in sub-conscious (subliminal) conversation with it. In this meditation you connect with your childhood self in any age that appears to you.

1) ⭐Then you have conversation and assure him that he is loved and safe in all levels. You act like a loving and caring parent to your inner child. That’s what you need to do to heal.

You need to understand that the inner child is in constant need of these 3 things:

-        love and joy

-        freedom (incl. emotional)

-        safety and security

All children (and all beings) need love, so in your meditation practice you can hug tightly your child self saying “I love you”, and saying they are safe. That is the first step to healing.

2) ⭐We can give our child self feeling of joy by playing or doing something that he loves –or something that was not allowed to her/ him. There are many examples here –playing ballet, dancing, playing instrument, sport, drawing.

Children connect with the world only though their heart (and heart intelligence) and they usually love music and dancing. Also they love all forms of creativity.

3) ⭐We give to our child self in meditation –the freedom to express it self without being in danger. This freedom is very essential to the soul and is one of the first human rights here. As the child doesn’t understand duality, it is not aware of the “shadow” soul. Therefore it is innocent and irresponsible.

Imagine your inner child dancing, drawing or creating anything he wishes.

Now you have achieved all these states of love, joy and freedom, which is one step of healing the childhood trauma.

(to go deeper into that healing, you need to revise and re-evaluate all the traumatic experience that you had as a child, seeing it through the eyes of adult.) Notice and feel any emotional reaction to that process. It will be sign that your childhood trauma starts to heal.

    The inner child is more closer to nature and animal world than the adult, and it sees everything from the eyes of heart. This child doesn’t understand “danger” or consequence or “obligation” in the world. Because it exists out of the 3D matrix.

Only by connecting and healing your inner child you can heal also your Heart and emotional body.

The trauma of the heart is one of the hardest to heal, and it takes longer time on soul level; That’s because all experiences, impressions and visions of the child are related to Heart portal.

Because the child lives in state of love, joy, oneness and freedom, it believes in magic and in the magical world beyond. This world we need to re-connect again in order to heal the wounded child.

What in your life is magical now? Do you believe in magic? Do you connect with nature, tree spirits and elementals?

These are all signs of awaken inner child.

As I mentioned before, a child doesn’t understand duality and shadow. But it feels it on a deeper level and it can respond to it by shutting down his joy, love and freedom.

To be placed in the "shadow” reality of war, conflict, abuse in family, restrictions, is the way that the child will collapse, shrink, shut down in his/her shell. Or it responds by copying the same behaviour of the reality – becomes aggressive, abusive and conflicting. That’s a sign of a deep wound.

The inner child is so vulnerable in front of power and control. At the age before 15 the child sees the power and control only as oppression. That`s how he easily can become in state of powerflessness later in life. Many people in fact carry this feeling all their life so they are in fear of power and control. This is exactly opposite of the child`s need of freedom.

In these times on the earth plane most people 98% are dealing with childhood trauma, and many don’t even know it.

Nina Lea-Nour 
Angel`s medium
Oct. - 15/2022 ©

Inner child & childhood trauma -I

 

We often hear about healing the “inner child”, wounded child and childhood trauma in spiritual circles. There are many different views on what is “inner child”, so I asked my angels for more details on this topic. Here is their message.

  ★Inner child is identity construct of the Soul –self. It is the state of Primordial soul before coming to this life (or dense matter).

    You need to be aware that your inner child has multiple levels of existence in different levels and dimensions. The child can also be called “child-Self” it is made up of all emotional, mental and spiritual bodies of You (Soul) when you were a child. That period is slightly different for each person, but usually encompasses the age between 3-4 and 12-13 years. The inner child Self is one living on the liminal space, or the verge before your mind being programmed of the duality world and social conditioning.

   You can imagine that the inner child lives out of the state of all norms and conditions, out of the “social prison” and therefore it is out of the state of understanding logic and mind.

   This child lives in pure emotional engagement, in need of love, joy and communication with the outer world.

Simply put – the child Self lives and accepts all as one, he is in world of oneness, while the adult self is in world of duality (or negative and positive).

   When we grow older (and after age of 16) we gradually forget about the state of purity, joy and oneness, as we learn the rules of the social game – norms, restrictions and conditions. That is our way to survive as social creatures. In this way we come far away from our inner freedom, and closer to inner prison of the Soul.

   Your inner child consists of your childhood emotions, mind, spiritual body and all the early impressions of your child-soul. ✪ Your inner child, as your Primordial soul (which is eternal) is far more complex – it contains the soul matrix of your “inner children” from all past lives and all stars and dimensions beyond this.

That becomes totally different concept from what most people imagine.

The child-Self now becomes strongly connected to your emotional body, heart energy and sub-conscious mind. Exactly these are the places that hold most cellular memory and etheric imprints from past childhood trauma.

                                         photo by Simon Wiffen ©

     The inner child is out of all normal organised realities as we know it. Because it exists in oneness only, he does not understand divisions. (example: many children don’t differentiate gender, race or religion on spiritual level). The child is in state of freedom, bliss and innocence –which continues before the first expansion and creation of the first chakra Muladhara at the age of 12.

   ⭐ The child Self is connected to the imagination and the deep sub-conscious mind and it strives to align your Soul with the soul, emotions of all “inner children” in our past and from all previous incarnations.

That is a quite important role and at the soul level we have this “inner child” imprints always within. But at the certain point in life – we feel abandoned, disappointed and we lose connection with the child-Self. That happens in when we collect enough moments of abandonment in our cells, so that we don’t feel the world as safe as we thought.

There are 3 basic fears of our inner child, that are crucial for our later existence and life view. There are:

-        fear of abandonment

-        fear of shame, guilt

-        fear of pain, control

In the first state these fears come to live in emotional level. The child does not understand” the reality in its 3D form, but it has feeling and intuition to it.

This deeper feeling- intuition and premonition we lost when we grew up in social prison.

Fear of abandonment can play crucial role into the youth and adult life of the Soul – and it can replay the bad scenarios in many cases. That’s because child soul needs to remove and cleanse the early trauma, which happens only with deep healing on sub-conscious level.

Therefore souls often choose people who remind” them (on sub-conscious level) of the childhood trauma or abandonment.

The child (inner child) is free from social norms of duality – in gender, race and differences, also it doesn’t understand the “time-space” and it if free from the agenda “what if”. The child also doesn’t understand the connection between choice – action and consequence.

The child-self is always connected to the ancestral karma, trauma and love. Therefore we can find and heal wounded child in all of these concepts. It holds the matrix and programs of all previous inner children – the way they felt loved, the way they experienced trauma.

What is childhood trauma? ★

If you have experienced all 3 childhood fears – in the age before 13-15 (abandonment, guilt/ shame, pain/ aggression) in any level, then you had a childhood trauma.

This is something like wound of the soul and it needs to be healed in us. That healing happens in stages, not at once.  As we keep our inner child, but in times we have lost our connection to it –so the first thing to do is to re-establish our connection to the inner child.

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Nina Lea-Nour *
Angel`s medium
Oct. -2022/ 15 ©