Heart chakra -relationships, illnesses -II

   Part II...

    

     This inner child is in most cases of human life “wounded” in the past (in your childhood), or in the present moment from harmful relationships. Any person with wounded inner child, will have difficulties with his future relationships – specially intimate ones, but also with friends. Now what happens in relationship is that you give openly and with Love the opportunity to your partner to “heal” and love your inner child. This child is wounded from the past, and needs to be healed and nourished. Now the partner (your beloved) takes this opportunity for healing, and spreads cords to your heart and Solar Plexus. You trust this process and all seems well. In a special moment – can be one, two or many years) you realize that your child is not only not healed” but wounded even more; and that your partner took advantage of your trust and openness, using your power and love. That’s how person feels betrayed and disappointed. This is the same feeling like you give someone a precious gift (from your heart), he takes it and throw it in garbage. So it hurts. That’s how the inner child of your partner does not connect with your inner child. Then the “love” is impossible.

    In other cases people who dont have “wounded” inner child or have healed it in the past, they have better and healthier relationships and can enjoy more the life flow. They wont be afraid about the future. In case of such people (that are rare category), when they give their trust of inner child to their partners, they don’t let their energy too. They don’t let cords of attachment to feed from them, and feel very well when their partner is dishonest or fake. In this way they have the ability to brake easily such relationship without to stay in it and harm their “heart”. First question to ask in order to understand if your partner is suitable for you is: does my inner child connect with his inner child? Second is: is my inner child wounded and how can he help me to heal it? Is his inner child wounded and how I can help him to heal? These are very important questions. The answers will show if it is meaningful to be with this person or not.

Many things are able to hurt the inner child. Some of them I ll write later. 

Now I want to clarify how to understand if you have wounded inner child?

-       if in the past you have sad, hard or traumatic memories from childhood, that are still appearing in your life (like dreams or thoughts);

-        if you feel not loved, or without Self-love for longer time

-      if you feel empty and without purpose in your life; if you are afraid of change

-        if you don’t appreciate yourself and don’t see your personal value

-         if you afraid of change in your intimate life, if you afraid of being alone or being left from someone

-     if you have the feelings often: resentment, sadness, depression, anger, disappointment, loneliness, isolation, anger, hatred;

-      if you don’t feel joy from your children or children generally; if you don’t find joy in every day life and activities;

-       if you have repeated negative dreams about children or about you as child;

-       if you don’t communicate well with your children and cant share with them, or they cant share with you;

    These are some of the signs of wounded inner child. Of course one of the most spread signs is abuse and offensive behavior in childhood – if you parents had aggressive behavior no matter in what age, that you remember, and if they didn’t appreciate and value your higher Self. That’s sure sign of wounded inner child.

What things make your inner child hurt? Here is list, but they can be much more:

-         abusive behavior and language (shouting, offence, physical violence)

-         not connecting with your Higher self (that means not having time for your own needs or time to enjoy what you like, but dedicate time only to others)

-     bad offensive and negative or exhausting relationship with your own children (like lack of time for your children, lack of interest, cold behavior, not enjoying your child company, feeling exhausted).

I ll concentrate now on basic relationships that move the energy of Green Anahata:

- love, compassion and connection to all human beings –regardless of their gender, social status, skin color;

- love, compassion, connection to all children (and your own) on earth, specially the one who are orphans and with disabilities

- love, compassion, connection to all old people (including your old parents –after 70) specially to all ill or people with disabilities

- love, compassion and connection to your Higher Self;

- love, nurturing and care, connection with your Inner Child;

- love, care and compassion to all creatures who suffer, or who are ill or abused – animals, plants, flowers, trees;

- love, compassion and understanding to all people who are “transgressors” (criminals, and poor) 

If you are interested in this topic, please read the next part on Heart chakra: 
Heart chakra -relationships, illnesses -III

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