Psychological patterns of transgression -VII (steal and robbery)

VII.                   Transgression of steal or robbery

Psychological patterns of this crime are:

-         need of attention, desire being noticed and accepted in society;

-         need of personal power, of social respect;

-         feeling alone, isolated, disrespected, miserable, paltry or fear of that

-         fear of loss – losing material goods, respect, social status, property, money, of losing safety, or fear someone close to you to lose all.

    The main cause of this crime is closed Heart chakra and Solar Plexus. Such person has usually very low self-esteem and very little personal power. He can`t overcome any conflict, he is person of fear, and he is already not respected by others. That state of “being miserable” or being poor” or neglected, isolated (example gypsies, beggars), makes him feel justified to any anti-social action. In his mind why he should be compassionate or feel with "others” who are the actual reason for his “miserable, paltry” life. He is like no one for others. That’s how he starts to step over the social laws and other people, because he already believes the social justice is not done to him. Unlike the murder, in which many times the criminal feels regret (except in ideological cases), person who steal doesn’t feel regret for his action. He is more arrogant, as his reasons are usually based on wrong ideology and “spoiled justice system”. Such person doesn’t believe in the country, in institutions or in laws.  

    Of course there are many more reasons why person would participate in any crime. Another significant one would be unclear self-believe and personal values, that can help him to follow the negative groups, and people of evil. These weak souls can follow others as leaders, as they will be in need of “great example” to follow, regardless of what value. Transgression of robbery and steal is visible in example of “terrorist attacks”. They work with wrong ideological views, and they aim to arise social conflict and fear, their final aim is not “murder” as in such case they would kill one particular person. These people have also dangerous mind because they don’t feel regret, their mind is based on actions against “social injustice”. That’s how in their own mind they do “justice”, even it seems totally out of logic, and inhuman act. They have also combination of inner conflicts – mind of killing, suicide, robbery. All of these people possess characteristics and fears of all transgressions –they desire to be notices (social attention), they have need of love (to love others, to give), they are in need of self-love. That means of course these criminals are ill minded people, living in their own reality.  

Conclusion about transgressions:

      All crimes and transgressions have rooted desire to brake out taboos and social norms, to go through, to pass the “red line”. All of the are negative ways to run away from Life and reality in present. They are state of mind (and heart) that exist in fixed reality – picture that doesn’t change or move. In these crimes the personal time is extended (train is blocked in the rail-way), the transgression aims to move the time, to brake it into pieces. This is the way of escape from world of Inner self.

The spiritual question I want to ask here is: what to do to help such people? What is the solution?

The main thing is: you cant fight fire with another fire! Sometimes not even with water. Fire should be transformed from inside, from itself into rain. That’s what we call “miracle”, but its very real process. The way to help people of transgression to go on positive way, is through mind. If their heart is closed will be too hard for anyone to show them “love”, as others also reflect the social idea and put a stamp on criminals. They are isolated people (prisoners) with social stamp of danger. That’s how they cant be reached often and they remain such. What we need to do is to show them the new ways of escape. To show them the side of reality they didn’t see. To make them feel valued for anything positive they have.

There is no need to “understand” or tolerate in wrong way any transgression. The criminals know very well they are such, they don’t have illusion, but they are disconnected from their higher Self. Also they cant change their way for some reason (the same as people who have bad habit cant stop it fast –like drinking, smoking, eating unhealthy foods, but they are aware of it).

The way of light is to “show” people of transgression not that they are dark and evil, which they are aware, but show them the positive way to escape, to make them be “awaken”, so they can exit from path of darkness with their own willing. Only from inside they can do that.

Positive ways of escape are all ways of self-expression and love to others: to participate in organization defending animals, to help others, to take care of old people or children; and all possible talents given to humanity are positive ways to shine your light –writing, reading, singing, performance, art, sculpture, fine arts, science. We can be sure that anyone of the criminals in world has at least one talent, which he can develop and serve the earth in his mission. They chose the “negative” way which is ok too, as it will lead them again to the truth – next time.

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© nina Lea-nour *

     angel`S medium 

     spiritual writer  

Psychological patterns of transgression- VI (rape, sexual abuse)

VI.                   Transgression of rape and sexual abuse

     From spiritual aspect this kinds of transgression is equally "hard crimes", as well as crimes by all lows and social regulations. The hardest crime looks on the surface with similar psychological reasons as “murder”. But the truth is, committing sexual abuse is crime closer to suicide. That comes from the same need: of self-love. In contrast to person who is able to commit murder, or thief (who needs to feel love to others, to give love), someone who is able for rape needs to feel love for/towards himself. He is with the one of the lowest energies of all crimes. He is person in state of blocked heart, not just injured, and blocked Third eye and most chakras are in state of imbalance. Another fear for such individual is fear of death (to lose life), fear of losing someone that he loved (family, child). That reflects in ill mind. All of the people, who commit heard crimes (like murder, or sexual abuse) are already in state of ill mind and escape from reality. They don’t see anymore the world, but they see it from their eyes of blocked heart. Of course they should have lived for long period of time in this state, in order to commit hard crime. Love is the cure, but it cant come in closed heart. That’s why there is no other way for such people, but from themselves, realizing and opening their heart. In the same way, person who commits suicide, has closed Heart center, the picture of whole world around him is collapsed, he view life as empty paper, without meaning. That’s why this person is “lost soul”, that means he cant find his inner self, he lost connection with his Inner child.

    Of course not everyone who have lost connection with his inner child can reach to the bottom. Transgression is question of choice. If you are able to commit murder, or tell lie, that doesn’t mean you will do it. You have choice – to make action or not. That’s why all crimes are question of choice. Not all people that are able to commit murder will do that, also because of cause – and effect. They may not fall in trap of “suitable situation” or experience the negative emotion to high extend in order to do the crime. That’s why I said before  - negative states of mind and what religion consider as a sin (lie, mischief, rage, aggression, beating, greed, gluttony..) can be not labeled as crimes by social law. But they are the root for real criminal actions.

The transgression that has strongest karmic cause- effect is Incest – to have attraction or sexual desire to someone, who is forbidden for you from social law. This kind of crime is also hidden as it speaks about taboo and trauma from past life experience. Many times patterns are repeating, not as we think, all what we experience in past life will be in opposite side now. People who commit incest are like ill who take their illness from long time ago, but they are not aware of it. 

© nina Lea-nour *

     angel`S medium

Psychological patterns of transgression -IV (lie, mischief)

V.                   Transgression of lie, mischief

   As you can see in the article about “Earthly stones of life”, dealing with lie and malice is one of the stones humanity needs to overcome. Actually this is the way to reveal the truth. Lies don’t come alone and are never without reason. They are specially like obvious chain from situations, and believes. Lies are very often related to social problems, injustice, discrimination or fear. Most of the lies are related to fear of something, or just uncomfortable situations, again related to fears.

What is interesting in the psychological pattern of lie, is that two things come in conflict together, as they look opposite.

-         need and desire to find the truth (about self and world) versus –

-          fear from the truth itself;

-         fear to look, reveal and stand up for (defend) your inner Self 

All these fears are confronting, and reasons for lies can be multiple. Many times lie comes as result of differences in your norms, values, believes and spiritual self, with the one of the group, family, society. Such differences can be very sharp for the mind of some sensitive people. They don’t find the “positive” way to escape, so they slide in the way of “lie, mischief”. Some of the core reasons of lie or mischief are connected with fear.

-         fear as reason of different social norms, social anxiety, cultural taboos;

-         not understanding social behavior or institutions;

-         running away from reality in the negative form you see it

-         feeling isolated or alone (not fitting in) family, society, group

                                                                                     

The deep reason for lying is imbalances in heart chakra, fear of not being loved and accepted as you are, with your positive and negative sides. It reflects in fear to stand up for your inner Self. That fear to express can cause also problems in Throat chakra (thyroid).

Most of the transgression and crimes have result in unhealthy Root chakra (home, fear, father relations). 

© nina Lea-nour *

   angel`S medium

Psychological patterns of transgression -III (gluttony, greed, adultery)

III.                   Transgression of gluttony and greed

     This kind of “crossing” the line cant be signified as “crime”. The limits of gluttony and greed are tangible and not well outlined. They are mixed up with other negative emotions. Due to that elusiveness of the feelings they cant be seen as crimes, because they are the cause, not the result. Even so, I have to say, the root of many problems in society is exactly due to negative emotions, crystallizing in gluttony and greed, which are mostly not realized by people. This is quite normal. When we think of a criminal (like terrorist), who has certain views and fixed ideology, he is totally sure in his “right” and power to “spread justice”. He sees the reality in opposite way of social values. He does not believe in social justice (for that he has his own reason). Gluttony is not realized as such, due to the fact that is not appearing in the surface, but it` s in the roots – where most of the negative feelings occur. Moreover the base of greed and gluttony are unified, approved and spread social values, behavior and interests. They are accepted as “right”, good and “justified”. This acceptance makes the appearing of such negative stems of greed very easy. It is approved from everyone. (think about eating meat. If you eat meat of human being, this is totally out of any social, spiritual, ethical lows, its labeled “perversion” “abnormal”, “inhuman”, “hard crime”. In the same time biggest percentage of humanity are still consuming “animals meat” from all kinds, regardless if animals have soul, eyes and heart, the same as humans. This is not labeled as “inhuman”, except in some specific groups.) That’s how the manner and values of the majority are ruling and dominant, not the manner of what is “actually true” or right. The same is valid for gluttony and greed. When someone is greedy, he wont be labeled as such, because the outlines of the feelings are blurred. All society can be (and it is in real) based on such feelings, so they are accepted as “normal” and justified. (More on the topic of insatiable society and greed you can read in my text “…”)

The chakra that represents mostly these negative feelings and states of mind is Manipura (Solar Plexus). This is the area of liver, stomach, intestine, it helps in good digestion and health of all body. Here is also center of power, self-control and feeling of happiness from life. The first step to that is: healthy food. To add more, the first step for anyone to spiritual growth is mindful eating habits; Healthy food, this is the main reflection of mind and heart, if humans want to stay away from greed and gluttony. This food is not found in what we call “hypermarkets”. The result of the greed and gluttony as social “base” is obesity syndrome. More and more generations after the explosion of American style kitchen, and semi-finished products, suffer from obesity. It has roots in so many factors like: stress, polluted environment, speed of life style, not enough sleep, not enough rest, imbalances, bad eating habits, eating big portions at once, no prioritizing sport activity or walking, other bad habits –like alcohol and cigarettes. All little things matter for your healthy food. The psychological pattern of greed and gluttony comes from:

-       need of more material goods, need of expansion goods, need to accumulate, grow money, property and material possessions;

-         if they are more than my inner “needs” reflects in obesity

-         fear to lose material goods, home, property, money or job

In the core of need for material goods expansion, stays the “unrealized” need of spiritual expansion.

II.                 Transgression of adultery

    Many times transgression of adultery is related to transgression of lie (mischief), or hiding the truth about your Self. That means most people don’t make transgression “manifesting it” or in open way. They want to hide this action, realizing its socially, morally, spiritually with negative sign. Its not approved and it`s labeled as sin. Adultery means you want to hide actions from others, to whom you commit yourself to be honest. That’s why it` s usually including a lie, mischief. This kind of “crime” although it’s surely a “sin” from spiritual and religious point, it` s still not a “crime” by the social laws. (not every society). While in Europe act of adultery is not punishable by the law, in Arabic and Muslim societies this act is considered as crime, and is punishable with prison; Something more –in Muslim culture and religion, person could even commit another crime, by killing the spouse, who made adultery. This will be justified” and not punished, as it is accepted as “condition of strong fury, anger, shock or disappointment”. In such cases the man could kill his wife, if he found her to be guilty in adultery (even in some cases that cant be really proved). That’s how one crime is followed by another, as way of “justice”. I wont discuss here why this is not a proper low and behavior in any way.

What causes adultery is usually very obvious. Here I speak about psychological patterns, not about direct reasons that can be multiple and various. The main center that needs to be healed is the Heart. Adultery means some deeper trauma or problem in heart from childhood which is:

-         desire/ need of being loved by others (not connection with self-love)

-         fear of being left alone from someone important;

-         fear to lose safety, security or something important to you;

-         fear to lose someone who supports you (in any way, not only loves you)

-         Fear of being alone or admit your truth feelings to yourself

-         Need to prove that you are loved, or you are socially accepted; need to prove you are loved with your mistakes and differences

   Have in mind that in all psychological patterns of transgressions there is a positive side, which all people are seeking to find. When the criminal doesn’t find a path to this positive side, he slides down to the “easier” trap of the crime or committing sin. That’s how he can come in a vicious circle” and move again to the same direction many times. We can see its truth, if you commit one crime or sin, it can be easily followed by another from the same kind. If you say lie, it will lead to more lies. If you once jump through the red line and commit any transgression, this will open the door in your mind to do it again.

 People who transgress don’t accept themselves as “criminals”. If you think the one who murders his wife, when she commits adultery, is criminal, what you think about person who lies or hides the truth? Or person who is hypocritical? Or person who is greedy or suffer from gluttony? Are they the same? The confusion comes exactly from that – in societies now all these actions and transgressions are not labeled as “crimes”. Lie is sin from moral, spiritual point of view. But acc to society, and in some religions, there are many cases in which lie can be approved. That’s how things become more complicated. Also lie, as well as “adultery”, gluttony, greed, is not a “crime”. That means it` s not punishable by the law. If this lie is connected with some other kind of prohibitions or social institutions, then it will be punishable. (for example counterfeiting documents, or adultery with under-age individuals).

© nina Lea-nour *

     angel`S medium

     spiritual writer

Psychological patterns of transgression -II (murder, offensive behavior)

     I.                  Transgression of murder ~

     Lets start with one of the hardest crimes, that is prohibited from any religion. Taking the life of another. By universal truth we are all divine sparkles from light of God. We are not just one family –that of earth and humanity, but we are One. That one doesn’t mean we have “one soul”, but it means collective consciousness in different spices (also animals) exists. That’s why the first thing to note is, by killing anyone, person in reality kills his own Self. I wont discuss here what kind of karma he gathers then, but obviously he creates karmic experience. This act of strong transgression not always comes with full awareness – even on the surface or hidden motives. Many times the person who commits murder, doesn’t understand well what he is doing (going to do). Many times he looks like understanding, but he is in “escape state of mind”. That means he is living in another Self-reality, where he looks the world around in very different way from others. This self-reality is valid though for every human, but in case of transgression, the Self-reality become strongly divided, wide, and absorbs all kind of feelings. That means for the moment of transgression the person makes “frozen” his own mind and his reality, in order to succeed in his crime. The freezing makes him see things in way of dream or “movie”. Not all kind of transgression has this effect, but this is happening really in mind and sub-conscious levels in criminal. Transgression of murder is result from gradual and constant regression and negative state of Heart (with Third eye –mind). The person is in:

1.   need of “loving others” or knowing, experiencing love feeling to others;

2.     He has wounded or closed Heart in childhood, he was deprived from love in his childhood, or he lost someone he loved when he was little or young

3.     He fears others: fear of understanding, accepting others, accepting and tolerating differences in others (all humans), fear that someone will take away what belongs to him;

                                                                                                

The need of “loving others”, or to return the existing (but now death) Love within his heart and conscious life, comes in strong conflict with the wounded childhood and with fear from accepting or loving others. This conflict crystallizes in gradual heart and spiritual regression, and being able to commit transgression. When connection to Inner child is lost, many things are possible. Killing someone is not always connected with feelings of aggression, rage, but always is linked with wounded Heart. In reality people who commit such crime, can be very sensitive souls, who just need to open their heart. The problem in this state of “mind escape” is, no one from outside could help the closed heart of criminal. He should do that by himself, from inside. That’s why you cant “awake” the criminal, who is already with the blinded mind and idea of killing (or terrorist attacks). He is like ticking bomb himself, and he is in state of “escape” from reality. His heart in this moment is closed and escaped from any positive feelings, that may occur accidentally. He lost connection with him Self, if you gave him mirror in this moment, he wouldn’t recognize himself.

II.                 Transgression of aggressive behavior, arrogance, offensive behavior

This is transgression that cant be marked as a crime, even so many people feel the negative result of such behavior. The problem in aggressive behavior is that it has many different shades and levels, so it can be felt, but not recognized as such from everyone. Aggressive and offensive behavior can lead to crimes and to gradual regression of the soul of someone. In other cases such behavior in appropriate situation can provoke murder or other crimes (abuse, torture). The wounded core of such behavior is Solar Plexus chakra, in addition to Heart. In deeper level, what provokes such behavior and negative feelings?

1.     The person is in need of gaining power over others. He needs to control others. In the same time –

2.     He fears from others taking control over his life. He can also fear any accident or any change in his life (or mind). He hardly accepts any differences in thinking.

3.     He is afraid to lose his illusionary power/ control over others.

4.     He is afraid to lose his illusionary (or obscure) Self-confidence (what he call self-confidence is something totally different in fact)

5.   Person is afraid of inner change (in level of Heart), to become “awaken” and spiritual.

    All this psychological pattern of person creates conflict, which crystallizes in aggressive behavior. (Remember that any conflict can be removed with positive ways of escape, or with negative escapes – such as crimes or transgressions). This person has destruction of soul and wounded self-trust, reflecting in Solar plexus and digestive system; often such people suffer from obesity or stomach problems. Person with negative escape in “aggression, arrogance, offence” can be very quickly also connected with transgression of “gluttony and greed”. 

© nina Lea-nour *

   angel`S medium 

   spiritual writer

Modern Slavery III

    * In order to prevent the actual slavery to appear and spread on earth, we need to not feel slaves ourselves. We need to be devoted to what we do, and be confident, that we have many good choices, instead of one bad. We need to realize our personal value as humans, our right for freedom and right to be happy. Then we`ll be able together to raise above all greed, restrictions and to stop the slavery.

   Its true that mostly this phenomenon is spread due to wrong “values”, greed for money and power. They are the best friends of human misfortune. The worst of all is slavery of mind and heart, it produces actual slaves, grey figures of every day life.

       Slave is the woman, who send her child to school, where the child was abused, offended and beaten by her classmates (this case is true in my country and its not a single case), and all school institutions, teachers, director, class-mates, friends and mother were SILENT. There is no punishment about the abusers – regardless of their age. They continue to go to school and put violence on little child, who is helpless and alone. This is case of slavery. The child didn’t stop going to school. The mother didn’t prevent him from going and the action repeated daily. Why? As the social stamp is you should go to school, no matter what happens. It is hard to miss one year? I don’t know why. That’s amazing mind for me.

    Another case –woman is in relationship with someone, who daily abuses her –physically and offend her (psychological aggression). The woman is Silent, because she is “afraid” to speak, she is even used to this situation of a toy, why? Maybe because she is afraid to lose her children? or children to lose their father? Because she doesn’t have finances for divorce? Because she can not afford to live alone? So many reasons she can have. But the result is – one day the same person, who abuses her, will do that with her child, and with everyone else. One day she may die, or she has the choice to suicide, or be killed. Whatever is the end, its better than to die little every day. 

This is the life of slave. To die little every day.

    * What I want to state is – we turn our own society into slaves, people who work for the “lost cause” of wealth, money, power, or just “surviving” repressions. We turn our children into slaves on the big machine of social institutions, that are obligatory – school, university –and that are now even not as effective as in the past. We transform and put stamp on our mind and our child`s mind, how the highest priorities are greed, love for wealth, possessions and easy life. We live as if money and wealth are biggest pleasures in world, and nothing else can substitute them.

    * Poor woman gives her little daughter – 10 years old –to marry an old man (73) only because of money and poverty. It`s even honor and privilege for the little girl (who still plays with her toys) to be “bride” and “mother”. Horrible thinking. Little child (14) is forced to leave school and work as a driver of little car in Egypt (so called tok-tok), because he is without father, his mother don’t work and he has to survive. These are the “willing” slaves of society. See them well. An old woman (above 70) is forced “willingly” to work as cleaner in office building, café or restaurant…only because she does not have choice, she is not given money from government, she doesn’t have relatives or children. The miners that work underground in very hard, dangerous conditions, for extremely little salaries…are such not “by force”. They willingly want to risk their life every day, just to give food and money to their families. They are slaves of society. They are dying slowly, full of dust, illnesses and harmed body. Yes, maybe its their love and mission to work many hours under ground. Ask them in interview how many of them want to do that, and how many do this job, because there is “no other chance”?

      There is nothing negative in the picture I draw here. It’s the absolute clear truth. I remember, I watched few weeks ago on TV reportage about the miners. Strangely for me –they were exploited to the end point – and not given any monthly payment. They had a protest, and made a little rebellion. How they made it? Not by burning cars of people who are owners. Not by fight, shouting, or leaving work places. They protested in amazing way, just by staying under ground. They prefer to stay there, in the places of slavery, than to lose their work and receive freedom.

    Examples of distorted social models are everywhere.

    The so called “ISIS” movement or any other fanatic movement, if it has to do with Islam or not – they are slaves. They are first slaves of the demonic entities without a doubt. They are slaves of the implanted” in their minds dangerous model of how perfect world should look like. How perfect “paradise” should look like? They are slaves of their owners – wealthy sheikhs who want to gain – power and money. The two best world treasures. These people harm, kill, abuse and do human atrocities in the name of the evil, power, greed. Mostly in the name of a wrong “value”, they have lack of any personal qualities. These people are failures in one society, so they make another. They raise other models of good and bad with reversed sign. No need even to speak about them, as they cant realize their emptiness and blackness of mind. They are used, exploited, machines for killing in hands of higher position people (of power). They are manipulated toys, but they surely are “willingly” enslaved. Their minds are transformed into empty boxes, filled with evil and dirtiness. They are erased as humans, now they are possessed by demons.

The same thinking is valid for all racist groups and historical conflicts, that include worst atrocities, humiliation and abuse on human nature. Such as Nazis in Germany, communists in Russia. All these movements are perfect example of slavery of mind and opposite ideology, transformed in actual evil. Slavery makes rivers of blood.

   * Until when the slavery will continue on our planet?

   Until we stop being slaves of wrong social values of money, wealth, comfortable life. Money give us all we need, but they are not value. We need to have free mind to acknowledge our higher position as humans, to claim our freedom, our need for love and happiness. We should first say, we don’t want to be “slaves”, or under any social conception. We want freedom. Then we ll be free.

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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Love mates -insects - III

[ Discover your psychological type and smile! - snail, butterfly, dragonfly ] 

Snail ~

   A snail is amazing animal – its not insect. People-snails possess many qualities , that make them near to water element. Snails personalities are usually introverts in life, they think deeply and have slow nature. All things in their lives are accomplishing very slowly. Snails have sharp mind and their thinking is different from thinking of others. Due to their slow movement they see things from higher point, not visible to others –who are in rush. One of the wisest people – they can have professions like –writers, scientists, work in library, teachers and more. Snails are creative souls; as lovers they are quite lonesome; even they like their solitude which is source of happiness and creativity for them. Relationships of the snails will be mostly hard and painful in love plan. They learn many things with experience –as they rarely take advises; and don’t accept criticism. They live like –out of the planet –in their own closed world. Snails are home-lovers and they spend extremely long time in their home space. They love decoration and doing any home activity – as its not involving moving in the unknown out world. Snails are good in planning, but their steps are more insecure and doubtful, due to lack of confidence. They are not sure which is the right direction to go, and always ask questions to themselves. They are afraid of making mistakes, that`s why they make many. Avoiding others, and living more as hermits, they let only very close people to them. But once you won their heart –you `ll be very pleased with all amazing things of love-life. Snails –people are one of the most romantic, loving, sweet and sacrificing people for their partner. They are not always faithful – due to not enough trust and confidence in themselves. But they love making all atmosphere around their partners full of romance and love; and music. They will give you precious moments, and if you stand together, these people will make you gift of increasing friendship, love and gratitude. They are also striving for perfections and can live with little and simple things – not strive for luxury like scorpion. They are very compassionate, empathetic, sincere and like to put happiness of others first. They are also forgiving -which is rarely found in other insects and spices. Snails will let anyone be content to share one home with them. Negative treats are: sometimes lazy, slow thinking, unwilling to help, self-centered, forgetting the outer world, melancholic, sad, isolated socially.

Butterfly ~

   Butterfly is one of the most beautiful insects…but personalities butterfly are complicated. They have positive qualities, but there are also –dark butterflies; people-butterflies belong to air element – but they are attracted by fire. Butterflies are mostly with gentle nature, love elegance and nice perfumes; they are delicate, lovable, little shy, but…mostly they are very good actors! They like to put different social masks –the more places and people they know, the more different masks they ll put on. Butterflies are not suitable for long-relationships.  They are not faithful, many times people of the surface, don’t have ability to analyze things around, they have nature to “enjoy the moment” –which is good quality – but without lessons learnt. Butterflies come in someone life rapidly, and they also go away rapidly. Before you realize what happens with you –the butterfly is gone. Their love-life is like dream –short and intense, full of fantasies. People butterflies give many promises and say many sweet words to others; they love seducing others, love attention and feel flattered by compliments and admiration of others. But they are not real friends or lovers. They love to show off their beauty; in real most butterflies live lonely life, hidden from others. But they don’t enjoy the loneliness. These creatures need much space, need to be loved by others, in order to bloom. They have intense life, social carrier – many times connected with art –music, singing, dance performance, cinema, theatre... they like stage and want to be adored by others. Their best moments are of acting and being admired. Butterflies have light and gentle character, cheerful, gossamer, smiling and laughing in social circles. They love to attract attention of all other people. Their life is many times not stable –as they cant choose to be in one place, they often move and travel around, live in different places. Most of their promises will be fake to others, but that does not bother them –as their mind is more on surface.

You cant trust butterfly lovers, except for short time pleasures. They don’t possess depth of feelings.

Dragonfly ~

These are the one of the most inspiring and mysterious types of people. They are air –water element. Dragonflies are very sentimental, dreamy persons, who are mostly idealist. They like to be peaceful and love all people. They are also careful with their friendships and don’t let everyone so close. They have around them atmosphere of mystery, secrets and miracles. They are very strong believers and usually love religions and researching different believes. Dragonflies are faithful, but very capricious and not compromising in love-life. they feel hard to find suitable partner and if he didn’t meet their high criteria they prefer to be alone. But not lonely –dragonflies make many social connections, in careful and distant way. They don’t have ability to flirt, and flutter” like butterflies, but they love communication in friendly and open way. They wont promise you at all love” if they cant give to you. Dragonflies are dreamers and they are highly spiritual. Their nature will lead them to discover many strange places, they are able also to connect with higher realms, and see things unseen for others. Sadly dragonflies cant make stable relationships with any other insect than the same kind –dragonfly.

But if they find their soul-mate –they ll have amazing fairy connection full of inspiration, bliss and sharing. Dragonflies create miracle worlds around others, they are travelers and love writing about their travel experiences. They travel also by spirit to many places. They have most open mind, and pure heart; their negative traits: sometimes self-doubt, creating illusions, living in illusion life, naïve, too much trusting, disappointed and hurt from others. Dragonflies are also great philosophers, artists and photographers, as they have unique view of the world.

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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~ photo by me ~ fountain in Sofia garden 

Love mates -insects - II

Mosquito ~

   People –mosquitoes are well spread around us. They are not visible, type of insomniac people, hardly have rest; very fast thinking, have busy mind, and busy schedule. They are always in a hurry to accomplish something in life. Even so they are not so fluent or successful as Spiders. Mosquitoes study during a large part of their life; they have strong survival instinct; as love-mates are very gentle, give others much time and energy, but feel easily bored and leave relationship. They are mutable, unstable, lose interest easily in others. When their goal is achieved – and they have the partner they wanted to – they just go away. Their nature is of air, flexibility and change. They like to move, to see different places and people; with cosmopolite views, mosquitoes are not bored to discover the world. They often travel and have passion for other civilizations. Often they are scientists; some of them though have hardship in physical levels of surviving, can have challenges in money matters and properties, and even fall in trap of addictions like alcohol. In their love life mos. are strange lovers, they need multiple partners and their curiosity cant be satisfied with only one partner. Often they have crazy life as young, indulge in different pleasure, while their old ages are totally opposite – live alone, and closed. Some of these type people don’t live much long. The best treat of them is their need for discovery, travel and adventure. They`ll meet so many different people and make many friends, that everyone will remember them. Social type. They are also prone to take what they need from the partner and “fly” away, without explanation. This type is close to psychological type of sanguine, always busy, communicating, rushing. They are not deep thinkers, and are attracted more by butterflies.

Honey bee ~

   One of the very special insects in the nature – the golden Queen honey; these people can be many different type – mostly they have fire (and air) element. They are the best planning people, developing amazing sense of discipline and schedule work. They are busy with accomplishing tasks, but not without plant –like mosquitoes. Honey bees are amazingly good friends – as persons; they possess all qualities of friendship – honesty, trustfulness, sharing. You can share totally all with them and be sure they will keep your secrets. The negative quality of them is their selfishness; they don’t really care so much for another –and they love mostly their family –specially the children, who take all their time. Bees are social, but they are very selective, and capricious to people with whom they are closer. They wont be in any society, but prefer people, who have the same qualities as them. Bees have often hard relationships, due to lack of understanding the different point of view. They are not very tolerant to others, but are very faithful. Honey bees also can be multiple types; but mostly they have features of best friends, who you can rely on and trust in any hard situation. They love to help others, that brings relief to their souls. Bees are also very creative and keep their homes in perfect order and clean. For them feng shui energy is principle of the nature, they follow. Bees like to live in houses and gardens and often are very good gardeners. They don’t have time for much social life-out of their circle. Devoted to their duties, many times bees-person is missing the joy from simple things. They have very warm energy, beautiful smiles and lovely eyes. People of honor, integrity and love for order – bees are also not very forgiving or compassionate. They wouldn’t hesitate to leave their dishonest partner, but before that will make deep analysis of the situation and see all good and bad sides. They are usually ready to stay in friendship relationships with their ex-lovers.

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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~ photo by me ~ garden in Sofia 

Love mates - insects -I

    [ See what type you are, and smile! ]

   Here I`ll reveal some interesting cases of people- acting like insects in their love relationships. What is that mean? I`m sure many will be surprised. Human is part of nature –as all animals, birds, insects, plants. I usually like comparing peoples emotions, qualities and most things with plants and trees world. We are all like plants, growing from the earth energy. I`ll use now little different approach, as it comes to love-mates and relationships. Many times in life we can see some peoples faces so similar to some animal – like bear, wolf, dog, cat –that we make association and compare them to the animal. In literature also authors often use some animal characteristics to describe better the person. Insects are one of the most not well understood, but observed from people species. They are amazingly big variety on the planet. But we know better about some, which we have closer contact, due to their habitat and places they are spread. Insects that I choose to describe specific human qualities in relationships are: spider, scorpion, mosquito, honey bee, snail (even not insect), butterfly, dragonfly.

  Spiders are some of the most interesting insects – I start with them. Mysterious spiders knit their nets in well chosen and observed areas, usually in corners where they are not disturbed from anyone. Their net is in the air and looks as a gentle lace –hanging house. Spiders love working –but specially for their homes. They are confident and fast, seem to be very friendly in first sight –but then exactly they grab the helpless fly in their nets. What are spiders –love-mates?  Spiders are adventurers, people who love more their homes, but specially when they build it. They are hard working, honest, open, and very creative people. They are little lonesome, as they don’t like social events so much –except with the same spices occasionally. Spiders have very good Third eye sense – they are intuitive and make great traps for others. They may seem friendly and open to others, but always there is something hidden –they don’t share with anyone. Spiders love open air, and nature, but also sometimes can be pilled in work at home. They will be taking care of home space –make amazing decorations, nice atmosphere, and always elegant curtains. They are aesthetic, have good sense of discipline and know how to plan ahead. These qualities make them great in many things, so spiders are often successful in life, make money and have nice property. For them priority is the family and children. Spider negative qualities are: they are not honest always with others. They have rapidly changing moods, selfish, little arrogant, arbitrary, they don’t care much for the feelings of others; not empaths or compassionate. They win by using their nets as a trap for other innocent insects –led by their curiosity. Spiders can caught anyone in the net, if well prepared. In their relationships they are dominant, leaders, and like to seduce another. They are hidden in themselves and rarely expose their feelings to others. Their honesty and integrity is related specially to the close people and family. If you are in relationship with spider, you`ll see how he is knitting his net with devotion and love; but on the first occasion he will make a trap from the same net –which you feel safe to live. Spiders are lovers who can do all for their partner –and like to enjoy nice moments with him. But they are not forgiving, nor social –so you` ll suffer if you betray their trust. These are some of the most confident and well living people, who know how to do things and don’t hesitate. They are advanced in matters of the physical world, but behind with spiritual world –with some exceptions. Many times they are introverts, who seek peace of nature and solitude. They have creative soul, and devote to writing or painting. Spiders can be a type of people, who are attached or obsessed with their partners and don’t want to let him go away. That’s why should be careful about them. Because of their strong memory and not so open heart –spiders lovers will not be able to forgive disappointment from their partner; they are prone to revenge, or let you alone –but all will be with bad consequences for you. so good luck with the spider-lover!

Scorpion ~

Scorpion is one of the very dangerous insects – even there is zodiac sign with his image. Even so we shouldn’t be afraid. Scorpions are very intelligent lovers, with much charm, beautiful, attracting like magnets others. Unlike spiders they are very social, love interacting with others, but rarely reveal much about their own world. They keep themselves in a “mystic shadow”. Scorpions also have high intuition, they can be good detectives –but also criminals. As lovers they are very devoted and passionate. They wont betray their partner, but also don’t wait for forgiveness and mercy from them. The methods of scorpions are well known – poison –by any ways –words, deeds, reactions, revenge; They can be charming, radiating light, harmony, but always there is some thrill more about scorpions. They are in center of intrigues, gossips, rumors, affairs…and romance. They love romantic relationships, and will buy roses for their love-partner. Don’t underestimate their dark side; Scorpions are always ready for defense with their poison- or attack whoever don’t like. Some of them are greedy, suffer from eating disorders, love luxury and good food, don’t develop very healthy eating habits. They are people of life –giving and taking. For them is valid –all or nothing. They wont go with little. Be ready for battle, but if you are type butterfly –better to escape until its not too late. Or you`ll be eaten. 

* note: maybe I should say here - all similarities with real people and events are in your mind? (this text is just a funny expression of psychological types the way i see them. don`t take it too seriously, if you dislike insects.)

[ nina Lea-nura * ]

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~ photo by me ~