Meaning of Responsibilities -III

Part III 

Is the question correct: Are we responsible for other people feelings?

       The question is not correctly put, as there can be several different sides to it. First of all is important to state here: what we understand in being “responsible”? Who are other people? What are feelings? So there are different aspects of that question, in that way we can be quite confused if we try to answer it in that unclear way. Because both answers Yes, no would be wrong. So how we can ask that question, in order to reach the truth?

First we could ask question: Are we responsible for my own feelings? Then you really start to realise where is the emphasise: Feelings – responsible. When we look at the main responsibilities for the human Soul development, we see obligation to our body (physical), Soul (heart, feelings), Spirit (mindfulness, vision, ideas), Creative Self (talents, missions, callings). So we are surely responsible for our feelings, the same as we are responsible for nature, eco-system, forests, our soul mates, relationships, family members. But is that actually so? No, most people don’t feel good in their obligations – as they don’t implement their free will in them. Also because they don’t have higher consciousness about certain aspects. The truth is in order to choose free your responsibilities you need to have certain level of mindfulness and awareness. On the other side, who are “others”? That is very general word, and anyone can be in this category  - family, relatives, friends, neighbours, strangers…Can we be responsible in fact for anyone`s feelings (emotions)? No, that is irrelevant, as we are not living inside this person`s mind, heart, in order to be “responsible”. That’s is the same like to say – I`m responsible for the cleanness of someone`s house? I m responsible for the bad relationship that my friend has with his partner? I m responsible for the crime in my city? Here is the clue – I as individual (mind-heart-body) can not be responsible with my free Will for any of these aspects. But we as a whole, one organism, society, group, family – can be responsible about each other. In this way we are responsible (together) for each others feelings, exactly because all things from one element (in the whole) affects all other elements. That is called state of interconnectedness. That’s how humanity, societies, cultures, family works as a whole organism, it has separate elements (individuals), but is has also Oneness. In this way we need to grow understanding for our Oneness and consciousness how our actions, thoughts and feelings are related to others. All affects all.

Furthermore in this question – there is a direct relation between obligations to ourselves and obligations to others. Or consciousness about these obligations. For ex. People who are unaware or neglect their health (physical body) by smoking or drinking excessive alcohol, or any other way, or by sexual addiction, they cant be expected to be totally aware also of their own state of Soul (feelings) and Mind (spirit); How they can be responsible now for someone`s else feelings or thinking (spirit) or physical health? That is good question, so answer it.

      Also people who are totally not responsible (neglect, ignore) for nature, animals, trees, environment, how to be expected to implement their free will to obligations in their home space? People who cant feel responsible (or neglect) others desires, feelings, how to be responsible (care for) their own state of emotions, feelings, desires? As you see all questions here are interconnected in perfect way.

That’s why spiritual teachers (and archangels) give us always clue to look first to ourselves deeper, to understand ourselves, in order to be able to feel and understand Others. (I would say significant others, because we meet people who are related to our spiritual lessons and journey). These significant others feelings, desires, role, and mind really matter to us. We are responsible for them – but this responsibility includes only things related to our connection and to the extend our influence reaches. In this sense we cant be totally responsible for: bad mood of someone, negative thoughts, excessive desires, jealousy, envy, or others…

So we are separated element as individuals, but this element is included in the bigger mechanism of family, groups, children, relationships, society, country, world. Each of these bigger structures has specific aspects, values, norms and lows. That’s how all is connected – in levels of mind and heart.

We need to reach to certain level, where we`ll implement our free will and desire in all our actions, and responsibilities. We need to be open to growth, and don’t afraid of change.

In this point responsibility will start working.

Thank you for tuning in! Follow the way of divine Light and Abundance!

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