Part II ...
Sometimes
what we fear is also connected with hidden desire. In the first aspect
-realizing our fears, for example a man is very afraid of “losing someone”, or
of betrayal. He didn’t clean this aspect from his previous relationships, and
didn’t do shadow work, or from past life experience. That’s how the fear from betrayal stays in his
energy, and will attract now… the person who to reflect exactly this fear. That
means if I focus on that fear of betrayal (which can be also in sub-conscious
way), I will surely attract that fear to me as situation. That’s also valid for
the low of attraction. That’s how is very likely this man to be involved
multiple times in situations with betrayal and loss of someone. Because the
other side, his partner will be attracted to play the same role, in order to
help in growth of the relationship. She will be the missing piece of puzzle –
fear- manifestation – elimination, which is needed. Also from her side she will
have soul motive to do that. So the relationship can be seen as a play” with
certain appointed roles. But what kind of roles you attract and are involved
with, depends on where you are in your personal growth and awakening.
The
second case, of attracting our desires, goals and inspiration. This is one
aspect that all souls want to achieve. They don’t need to focus on certain
person, but rather on their own aim and desire in life, and the spiritual
mission. In this way they will attract similar Soul mates. Imagine a person who
is devoted to be a writer, or a spiritual teacher. He will write and devote his
time to spiritual practices. While he do that his focus wont be to find a
partner, even he can have desire for that. If he is persistent in his writing
work, and do things in order of – thought -intention -action, it`s sure that he
will find on the way person with similar qualities, who can help him in this
mission. That’s how Soul mates “best matches” can be found with devotion to
your life purpose and mission. If the person is musician, or play in a concert
and meets his Soul mate, who plays also another instrument, or he is composer,
the life purpose of both will be related to Music. That’s how souls are
connected in the Light working. And here there is no matter if the person wants
or not. The most important that will happen in the right time and right space
for them. Even so that doesn’t mean that both souls wont reflect also hidden
fears, or desires of Self. They can do, but the common mission and goal will
make their union much stronger.
Some
of the aspects of souls commitment are related to common thoughts (missions),
common feelings (emotional level), and common inner feeling (higher sense). You
can be together, only because you are focused on bringing up
children. Or opposite – you want to be free, or on basis of experiencing poverty together, or on basis of being rich and managing finances
together. The same is valid also for all opposite aspects.
One
example of combination of fear and desire in a relationship. That we speak
about love, sympathy or close friendship. So you meet a person, who loves
travelling. That’s always very good soul aspect. That person may reveal to you special
aspect of your soul, related to desire to travel around different places,
desire to communicate and observe different people, culture diversities, or
desire to travel, meet and connect with people from his own country. The
country of that person wont be “by chance”, and you may feel specially
attracted to it for a reason. (it could be that it was your birth place in your
past life, or that you were in one soul-group with the same person). These are
chain-aspects, they often come together. From desire to travel and connect with
other cultures, will awaken desire to be more open to others. Open your heart.
Secondly,
your higher Self will reveal that you fear exactly that openness, as it makes
you vulnerable (to be in front of others). That prevents you from travelling,
or meeting new people. Behind all that you are afraid of being hurt or
manipulated, which is very common fear. That’s how you are staying in your
shell, and you afraid to take step out, so the person-traveller will come to
make you open or going out of your zone. That’s how it works.
Also
if you have special feelings to that person, like sympathy, sexual desire, then
you may fear to fall in love, and to feel sexual attachment. All of that has
roots in feelings of shame and guilt from previous experiences.
That’s
why if you want to attract positive Light relationship, you need first to
cleanse and remove the sub-conscious fears from your mind. 2. The second is to
be truly willing to communicate and TRUST in another. (trusting another is
equal here to trusting the universe). And 3. To trust yourself (and Higher
self) that this is what is best for you now. These are essential aspects in any
relationship.
I
don’t say here you need to show your weaknesses or to give the keys of power in
hands of your partner, or to not react in manipulation. But be more open,
confident and trust in the process. This person is part of your souls Journey.
And
the forth thing to do is to accept his differences. These are qualities or
emotional expression you feel different from you.
So
being in a relationship is a journey where two souls are involved equally.
There are different types of souls.
Here I want to observe something very important, that is often misunderstood.
About stereotypes and types of behaviour and thoughts in different people. Are
stereotypes related to gender? Or are they related to personality? Both is
true. There are some gender stereotypes for sure. But more commonly, that’s a
wrong perception. Why? For example is it correct to say “ what kind of women
men like? Or what to do if you want to attract a man? That’s very nice advices,
but the problem is they concentrate on only one general stereotype of MEN. Not
of all. Think about that – if you are woman, you are not the same as your girl
friend, she doesn’t react in the same way as you in different situations. She
likes different types of men. You too. In this way you are quite different.
Thank you for tuning in!
This is last part of my article about finding your Soul mate!
Be blessed, and walk on the way of Light!
nina Lea-nour *
Angel`s medium
