Love Longing relationships -II

III.                   Unconditional love –what is?

   I would like to ask first another question – does unconditional love exist? The answer (also given from my angels) is yes, it does. But not everyone in his mind-pattern and spiritual level is appointed to reach the unconditional love. What is that feeling? This is the pure cosmic love send to us in form of cleansing divine Light from the Source (god) and encompassing all living things. Moreover, unconditional love is given for free, its easy to achieve (even earth people rarely can achieve it), as it’s the light inside your heart. To give unconditional love for others, first you need to have it by yourself – to love yourself unconditionally, or with pure heart, with open mind-flow. Why unconditional? That means simply without judgment. Judging others by looking from our own perspective and point is easy. Most people fall in trap of judgment, struggle with overbearing ideas or wrong concepts. Not judging is linked to one: let it be! Let things be as they are, no need of external or internal force to them. See them, observe them and love them as they are. Unconditional love means that your divine sparkle light within your Heart connects and feels the divine sparkle of light in heart of another. That’s how you can love everyone, if you reach to this level of mind. This is the pure Christ love. Humanity is not yet ready to pour such love in his heart. Unconditional means above all judgments, above Ego –mind, above restrictions and limitations. That’s the freedom of divine love. Its so easy to achieve, and yet so hard for us. Why is that so? Mostly because of Ego existing. When we become pure souls –or pure light (close to angels), we will achieve finally the unconditional love. All of us. Now this love will be felt just from some people, who have higher consciousness and spirit. Even so – everyone in his life time experienced unconditional divine love at least once. That could be a moment, seconds or less in time of eternity. But he felt this love. Such pure love is hard to be present or intermingling in our relationships. That’s because we are here in a hard form (clay level) so its not so easy to reach to pure bliss all the time.

    That’s why I want to give more details on how to recognize love-longing relationships and what to do to avid them? These steps will help us achieve higher level of love, coming closer to pure unconditional love.

These are four sure signs that you can look for, if you want to make the right choice for relationship or marriage.

1. Admiration

    Admiration is amazing feeling of respect, approval and warm impression from the person you love. To admire him goes far beyond the physical appearance or simple attraction, that is on body level. Admiration is attraction of the soul to the inner qualities, interests, likes, dislikes, moral values and views of this person. That means you love and approve his mindset, his ideas, his needs, his goals, the things he loves, or the way he deals with people and situations. Admiration is not adoration, but can have some of its qualities – you find qualities, traits, behavior, speech, or anything inner inside your partner attractive and worthy. Your value him and treasure him, you cherish him as a person.

Admiration is the first sign of mutual understanding and connection. If you don’t admire someone for his personal qualities, he cant become so close to you. Then you ll achieve closeness and gentleness in your love-relationship. This is the first trait that love-longing relations don’t possess. Admiration also shouldn’t be just from one side. If you admire your partner, but he doesn’t, something is missing in the puzzle. Ask yourself the question: do I feel admired and loved by him/ her? In what way he admires me and what are my personal qualities that he admires?

How I`m valuable for him and in what ways he shows me that its so?

Do I feel in his eyes that I am source of inspiration for him?

If the answer of any of these questions is “no”, then you need to look again and revise what is hidden for you in your current relationship. What are love pieces that are missing? Is it possible for you to achieve what you want? If you cant love your partner as he is, for what he is now.., then no change will be sustainable. You and him need to be inspired by each other, to share your ideas and admire what each others qualities. Admiration is like and approval on higher level, of the soul. You feel and see him/her as good or perfect in many respect. No need to admire him for all (as everyone has weak points), but admire him for any special thing.

Without admiration your relationship will be dull and without colors, and soon will fade away. Many people sadly maintain empty relationships just for purpose to “not be alone” to not lose something they have. These are false believes, so its much better to quit such love-longing relationship. 

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nina Lea-nour *

@ angel medium 

Love Longing relationships -I

   

    In this article I`ll reveal the differences and relations between “love-longing” and unconditional love. How to understand that your love relationship is not love-longing? What are the basic features of love-longing and how it`s determined? What are the right choices to make to avoid love-longing relationship? What does it mean unconditional love? All these questions I` ll try to answer here.

   Everyone seem to know what “love” is, but if we are already mature to make a difference between so many kind of “shades” in love feelings? If we can say which component of the love mixture prevails: sympathy, like, dislike, possessiveness, longing, passion, need, desire, longing for touch, missing… There are so many sub conscious levels of what we call “love” that we can hardly reach to all of them, let alone to realize and understand their meaning. I want to determine here some special kind of love relations, that we usually meet in earth life time. How to differentiate them and what are deeper meanings of their existence?

I.                   What is love-longing?

  Love-longing is a term I give for the purpose of differentiating many love-shades in the world. Love-longing is the feeling that grabs you when your heart is longing for another soul, for gentleness of someone, intimacy, touch, passion and romantic feeling in your relationship. Here this names is given to existing relationship (that’s why its not just longing for love). This relationship have stress on the components and feelings: emptiness, lack of devotion, lack of intimacy, lack of romantic, lack of “love” in the way you need, lack of sharing. All these are components of “love-longing” relationship. This is a “wounded” love, that needs to be healed. It simply means pieces of the love puzzle are missing or not matching together, that’s why you need to find the true pieces for you. That’s the love-longing concept. Sadly we have to admit, in today society (even few people would admit that openly) too many people struggle with “love-longing” relationships. We can`t say if that is “real” or not real love, as its already a kind of “love” mixture. What we can say is that such relationships are wounded, they are like growing and wilting flowers, they are not blooming, until the perfect conditions and efforts are provided. We can say firmly that such relationships cant resist on time-flow or closeness, they lose most of their abilities or gradually fall in a trap of hidden desires. Such relationships are not “unconditional love”. In many cases they are based either on sexual impulses, (or sexual attraction), or on pure friendship sympathy. In both cases they wont grow to the beautiful bloom of love-flower – as its meant by the universe for us.

Why love-longing exist?

There are so many reasons for such wounded relationships to exist. In the first place this is the mismatch between the flow of time (periods, years, months) in life and our impatience to fulfill our desires. I ll give an example: imagine you meet a person, who is has very attractive appearance for you, but you don’t know much about him. He comes in exact time of your life, when you need love (love-longing). Then you fall in the trap of your connection, and your own imagination and longing for perfect love adds the things that are actually not existing in your relationship. That’s called “falling from high” or “falling in love”. It means you choice is based on your original desire for love and 2. on sexual attraction. This kind of love-longing could be fruitful in the future though, if you both find the pieces of missing puzzle inside of each others souls. Love is connection of souls, not of appearances, not of eyes, not of bodies, not of characters. That’s why soul has your mind. In the future, after some time you discover how you are unhappy with this person, how he doesn’t provide the love that you need, how he actually doesn’t care of you. Misunderstanding, broken hearts, wounds of love. That are the main traits of love-longing relationships.

There is one more reason for such relationships based on false images, imagination and bursting desires, to exist –namely your own Karmic lessons. About Karmic relationships and love I have article, that you can read (…)

II.                 Karmic love-relationships

Karmic relationships are one of the great lessons we need to study during our appointed life-time. They are here to help us uplift our consciousness and awareness about the world and our Self. This relationships are made of karmic debts that we have to pay back in this life time – if we want or not. That’s why we meet unexpectedly people or are involved in situations, that feel like out of our control. Suddenly you meet someone, who will change all your life, but still he will leave your heart broken. Karmic relationship examples and variations are endless. We can meet someone who is also not attractive for us and “by chance” to become closer to this person, to grow in relationship. Have in mind also that “child`s birth” does not mean one relationship is fruitful. That simply means you are appointed to continue the line of your karmic debts and acquire more karmic points by taking are of children. Children will also pay part of your karmic debt and accumulate karmic lessons for you and your partner. All love lessons in our life are not “by chance”. Everything is meant to be, just you have to open your eyes and see clearly what are the reasons and consequences of your lessons.

    Karmic relationships are usually hard, leave the person with wounded heart, with lack of romantic (or any other lack, intimacy, sharing..) Most people experience such relations as their Soul wants to achieve perfect consciousness and reach level of unconditional love. Soul is in the training field of Earth plane and should struggle with wounded love, paying past karma, in order to ascend and become higher. That’s how we reach to the point of next level: ....

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nina Lea-nour *

@ angel medium