Monogamy and Synchronizing in partnership -III

      So the socially approved monogamous model of stable, life-long relationship is not suitable or even has unhealthy aspects, due to deeper need of the soul for expansion and spiritual development – which comes from multiple relationships. Even so, the person will have again special lessons to learn and to develop to some point, but it wont bring the inner change, or inner spiritual power, if it stays in a life-long relationship. This is the same as all kind of changes, which people try to RESIST. Another thing I want to say is, resistance of change (or fear of change and from that personal growth), is also the basis of the stable long-term relationship (marriage). Fear of change and feeling insecure and unstable, which is the one of the basic social fear in “modern society”.

That’s how by beings in this modern socially approved stable family core, people start to find ways to “escape” the social matrix (including escape the lows and values) by many ways. That suppressed spiritual or any kind of development and change will appear as :

1. inner conflict, not knowing who you are and what is your mission, obesity, depression, sleep disorder and disorder of Thyroid (throat charka);

2. Conflict with others – being selfish and acting mostly from point of personal ego, relying only on personal power, and imposing your own views on others (believing just your way of life is the “right one”)

3. Conflict with the inner values – that may be visible in adultery, deception, telling lies, hiding the truth, not sharing, being attracted to lust and increased sexual desires (to your partners or others), or opposite feeling of lack of sexual desire. 

     These all are results from monogamous life long relationship, which is in fact a stamp of society on the individual life. This kind of monogamous model of relationship becomes a stereotype, which brings social stability and permanent resistance in the matrix.

By making stable family core people cant easily escape the matrix, because they will be caught in social work, situations and material world issues, which works like spider web around. (that’s how social media – facebook mechanism looks like). This is the productive way to keep the society and average individual ignorant, or to control and manipulate his desires and needs. Also that can control the image and concepts of good and bad, and values.

That’s how all society is sure that being in life-long partnership (marriage) is good and being in multiple relationships is “bad”, which is very far from truth (universal truth).

      The way people synchronize together in the relationships is significant to understand the principle of monogamy and serial monogamy.  People in time of spiritual evolving, value the concept of one-and only partner and relationship, because they feel it`s connected to devotion. They way person is devoted to one partner can be seen in concept of monotheistic religions and oneness of God. Strangely in Islam the monotheistic concept is well working with early polygamy practices (or historical religious polygamy, which is related only to men). Even so contemporary Islamic societies don’t view polygamy as socially approved, but still as approved by religious leaders and Shariah. But this practice shows one very real and row condition that existed. 

     Devotion to one partner can be very mischievous, because how many people don’t actually “commit adultery in their heart?” (as Jesus says…) How many people in reality do not desire another partner, a different partner, don’t feel unstable, threatened, and how many do not stay within the life-long partnership only because they fear change or avoid being alone, financially unstable or fear social judgment, or afraid being alone parents, sacrifice their real desire for what they believe is good for children? Please observe well, try to answer by yourself.

    Or how many partners changed, or have different spiritual vibration, or become a different person. Or how many in a life-long relationship keep the same feeling of love, passion and support? Or how many stay inside relationship, because “there is no better choice”, or because they are used to each others qualities, or because of endless compromises of Self.

Is that the real value of life-long relationship?  No, that’s the social matrix of life-long relationship – spider web.

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Monogamy and Synchronizing in partnership -II

       Reason why polygamy cant exist in our society is easy to understand – it doesn’t meet the values and requirements of society, it has conflicts with personal morality, and it has conflict with the human ego. (Reference - see information on some still living communities with active poligamy practices - some American mormons.) People usually come in “marriage relationship” because they want to have legal and socially approved connections, 2. they want to feel stable in family core, and bring up children, 3. they want to have life long partner, who to share life responsibility with; So in such stable, approved status of relationships, passion and long term love are finally not the most important. (even they are also appreciated well).

The next point in spiritual and psychological perspective is that this kind of relationships strive for qualities stability and permanency, on account of qualities flexibility, passion, and personal development.

       It`s true that such relationships if they are life long, they have very good point of learning with one partner, and focusing on the children education. But also they don’t have much space for personal growth, and they are not flexible. We could say even in multiple cases – maybe even 90% from all such couples, the energy of life long or extended monogamous relationship is stagnant and with rather negative influence on the individuals.

       People are meant and “programmed” to have multiple experiences in relationships with different, multiple partners, in different life stages. That means any soul has many, multiple Soul mates, as well as many Karmic relationships (from past lives), and many other experiences of new choices. This is the spiritual perspective on relationships, which is out of the social lows and norms, and out of “normal” views of humanity. That means relationships from spiritual perspective are opposite of what we can call “approved” , as they are made to bring you different soul lessons, karma cleansing, self-knowledge, growth and achieving higher qualities as forgiveness, compassion, self-love, and unconditional (Christ) love. That`s how the spiritual pattern works. It doesn’t care of social connection or social matrix. It looks from very higher perspective, the one of Soul lessons.

      That’s how such stagnant and stable in itself family core/ relationship wont be very spiritually stimulating; on the contrary – the relationships that brings multiple soul lessons – including the lesson of letting go, releasing old – will be much more appreciated. That’s how most (I don’t say all, as they are so many different cases!) but most advanced souls are actually going through many different relationships, partnerships and lessons in a life time. Or some of them are even just “out of relationships” or need to find the suitable partner, or not in a stable family core. In most cases such souls are more able to have time and focus on spiritual aspects of life in any kind –religion, self-growth, education. While people in stable family core, are usually busy with many real life tasks and obligations of life, they wont have much time to be spiritually devoted. Of course there are different lessons and souls, I speak about the majority.

      Something more –the two people need to be always in alignment with each other within the couple, and never change, or change simultaneously both, in order to remain in one spiritual plane. That is really how the spiritual and advanced partnerships will look like! They can be life-long, monogamous, and spiritually devoted, as two people will be in the same vibrational level. But how many times people do change in a life time? Is it possible for growing soul to stay unchanged and in the same level for all the life? Yes, it is possible the soul to stay in one life long partnership, and to undergo multiple lessons and obstacles, and to not change” still the spiritual level – that means the souls are just not reached to the way of spiritual growth, and they have other ways to learn and expand. That does not mean the souls will be “bad or good” in any way. Just they wont be on the spiritual growth way, and not in the life of accelerating the spiritual potential, path or intuition. As I said that rarely happens , as advanced souls don’t experience smooth way of growth through relationships.

      Another reason is: just one relationship and one partner cant bring to the soul all needed lessons for spiritual growth. Even more – just one partner could bring also energy of stagnancy, block changes in life flow, and not allow life of soul to unfold in its natural way. That is so, because each soul has already several life experiences that create several karmic relationships (people from past lives), and many soul mates. And the soul will be naturally attracted to these soul mates in some stages of life. That attraction can appear as friendship, or temptation (to go out of restriction of relationship), or as suppressed attraction that becomes blocked. In all these points it will remain inactively in subconscious mind. But all things that are inactive there can become “active” or will be unlocked by special circumstances when subconscious mind is “touched”.

So all that relationships of past will be in inactive state and waiting for their “turn” to become part of persons life.

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