Friends and Soul mates -II

  * Please read part I ...

   Please stop here for a while and think or write down, how many people you know, who are soul-mates? Is there anyone?

Now write down when was the last time you enjoyed with your soul-mate together? What was that moment and why was unforgettable? What qualities of your friend you admire and want to have yourself? What qualities you dislike in him?

   More about soul-mates on a higher level. When you have a soul-mate, be sure that he wont leave you in any time stage of your life (except if circumstances not force him). The perfect soul-mate (here some people will say I look too “high in the sky”) –should possess the qualities of Jesus, Buddha, Lao Tzu and of any ascended master. Most important of them are found in another white triad – love –forgiveness – support. These are the divine qualities, and please note – not everyone possess them, or even close to them. What we call “love” encompasses all beautiful qualities of unconditional love. These love means – joy, free heart, acceptance, compassion, empathy, tolerance, seeing inside the heart of another. This is love. The divine aspect of forgiveness is another amazing quality people didn’t develop. They are torn by so many heavy, dark feelings – jealousy, selfishness, egoism, envy…so they are not very able to let space in their hearts for true forgiveness. All is connected in the universe, and this white divine triad is too – you need first to feel unconditional love in order to feel forgiveness to someone. You need to invite acceptance in your mind-heart in order to feel love. When you have love and forgiveness is much easier to you to give your heart for another –support, help, empathy. Its not easy to see and feel the real heart of another. That’s why there are ascended masters who we need to strive to be alike! We always learn, fail, again learn and fail… and process seem to be endless. But we all study here on the earth plane. That’s why we are here. When someone is higher enough in energy plane, he will love, accept and forgive his soul mate; as his heart wont be able to live in darkness. To support others is another so challenging thing for humans. We all think and believe – we are so good souls –we help and want to help others –poor children, old people, orphans, organizations, Red cross, help in world conflicts and tragedies as with Syria. But even so-we cant feel the real human –next door. To see in his heart without contempt, nor overbearing, that we are much higher. To feel his struggle, sadness. ( and many would say there is no need to). We are created to be selfish, to think first of our own interest.

Why in my common prayer to God and angels I finish with words – “thank you for your love, support and care for me…” The God and angels are able of that total support, no matter of your sins, and pitfalls. No matter of all, God is there always with open arms to forgive you! When you feel real repentance – and admit inside of yourself you did wrong. He and only he will forgive you. But you`ll be already in your own “punishment” feelings.

Another important aspect, connected with the above triad of love-forgiveness, is sharing the painful moments. From my own experience I understood well: people do not like to stay with someone, who is in moment of depression, sadness, despair. And exactly then most of people are easily left alone for long time. No one likes to share tears, sadness and cry, everyone loves to share happiness, joy, laughter. That `s quite normal. But if you have a friend, who loves you much and with who you shared many amazing moments of happiness, he laughed when you smile, and he was close to you, when you won in lottery for ex. – will this friend also stand with you during your hard time? When you are depressed and need support? When you need help and good word? When you feel alone? When you are ill? If no –please consider this “friend” not as a soul-mate. Surely he does not love you.

Real soul-mate stands with you in any time – no matter how hard is. He will not always cry when you do – he may even smile and make you smile too. This is the most beautiful of such soul- connection. That`s why not all can be your soul-mates! Even very few –or one. Something more – when he stands with you and sooths your pain, he wouldn’t want something in return, nor he will think “yes, she cries now, I hardly can stand this, but as she also was with me that day before…that’s why..”. Such thoughts are selfish and account –thoughts. Sadly many people do that considering they are good friends. Remember: real soul-mate will be with you just because he loves you unconditionally! All other plans – accounts and chess games will be left behind.

One more statement I want to make in the end: your true love – or the person who you love with all your heart – should be first your soul-mate too. He will possess also some additional qualities, that makes your bound amazing and unique.

For the end of this entry, I want to turn directly to you (and to myself): look yourself in the mirror now. What do you see? Do you think you are good friend for others? Do you feel you had the same qualities that you admire in others? Do you love yourself? Do you forgive yourself first? Do you trust you heart? Are you honest with yourself? All the above qualities I ask now for yourself. Look in the mirror, be free –as no one is there just your angels! Say the truth.

After this exercise and thoughts you`ll know well what you need to work on more. Be sure that: the best friend of all in your life is and will be YOURSELF.

The next best friends–connected with yourself –are God and angels. Everyone else can betray you, disappoint you, leave you, put you down, judge you, not understand you, criticize you, dislike you…but God and your angels never will do. Be happy you are on the win side no matter what, if you have your faith!

(* next entry I`ll explain about the third category – friends-weeds)

Abide in divine light!

[ nina Lea-nura* ]

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Friends and Soul mates - I

   I want to write on a special topic today, it may sound so familiar to you, that even can be slightly boring. About who is your best friend? Who you can consider as your true soul-mate?

I`m sure many people write on that, and its really great, as we`ll have many different opinions in this way.

I want to clarify, what is meaning of friend first and then –what is a soul mate?

And I leave a space for you to write your thoughts before me (…) 

To my story – I personally lost many friends this year (– 9 –) which is finishing a cycle, divine number, preparing for the new beginning. Before that I didn’t have many friends at all, even little of them I can call true friends, and no one soul-mate. Then I was thinking, why is that so?

Here is what I was revealed in meditation from my angels. We cant expect people around us to be all friends, or always “friendly” and good to us. They are here to teach you a lesson, to give you something –in time when your energies are in match, and to take something from you. That is normal for the friends –connections. Most of people around us are actually this first category – connections. That mean people, who come in your life in certain time, when you both need, you share common interests, ideas and like similar things. These connections are more from the outside – such friends are mainly met during your earlier life-span (until 31-36, even with everyone is different). You can share the same views, agree or argue in topics you like, share moments of joy and happiness together. If you are interested for example in –one kind of music, yoga, Arabic dance, languages, black and white movies, photography, classical music, translation, poetry, cinema and so on…you ll meet friends-connections who are definitely interested in the same. But you ll not meet a person who will be exactly like you – and have your exact unique energy pattern, and interested in exact aspects of your likes and dislikes. In this way what you meet are – different people- connections, each of them is prone to one or more of your likes and passions; but each will have others unique likes and passions that not belong to you and don’t match yours. That`s quite normal. With one friend-connection for example you can share language study and be in one language course; with another –go to belly dance, with another start translation and discuss about it, with another write poetry and share ideas about...The world is colorful and changing that`s why, because we all are different – as we have unique aura color patterns, unique understanding, unique passions and likes. Are such people friends? Yes, they can be considered as friends – connections, exactly because one of their interests is matching one of yours in the similar life-span period. In this way they are friends, but…I`ll ask a question here: is everyone from your language course your friend even he has the same interest as you to study language? Is everyone from the yoga group, art class, Arabic dance…your friend? It`s easy to get the answer – no. why is this so? Simply because except outer pattern of passions, likes and dislikes –visible to others, humans have a soul and spiritual side, specific energy patterns, aura, soul connections, past life experiences, stage in a life –path, stage of spiritual growth, practices, feelings, mentality, sensitivity, social influences, family background. All of these things form the unique criteria for each person, so we cant be repeated two times as human beings. We have stamp of energy around us, and we do not let everyone just by outer visible passions, interests match –to be close to us. In this way we need some people to be closer, so we can consider them trustful enough. That people will be exactly the second category – Soul mates.

Soul mates are not easy to be found and they are not always available in all life stages with us. Consider that. I want to clarify what are the basic qualities of the soul-mates which we can look for or recognize them. First of all – sharing. The symbolic triad of the soul-mate is: sharing –trust – honesty. These are most important roots of the friendship tree; they also will grow the tree of Love later; without sharing –any common interest, passion, likes –there wont be basis for any soul connection –or even love. Without sharing also the qualities of honesty and trust are prevented from their bloom on the tree. To be honest means to be comfortable enough and consider other person as trustful enough, so you can admit and share anything. Any fear of judgment, fear to be left, of criticism will just spoil the tree of soul-connection. The soul-mate should be so close to you, that you wont be afraid to say all the truth about yourself; that doesn’t mean just to “not lie” to the person. That means you should be comfortable enough to not put a mask on your face in different situations, knowing that this person is familiar with your inner self.

The first principle of soul-mates – you can be yourself, be free to express yourself freely in any moment without fear of judgment. Here is another dominating triad of the soul-tree: truthfulness - freedom – self-expression. All these are beautiful blossoms of the tree of friendship. When you consider someone close to you, trust him, share with him, its easy for you to feel free. That freedom is important and in the basis of any kind of relationship –even with yourself. Be free to express yourself, to say what you feel and think; be free also from negative emotions like Fear, jealousy, envy, criticism, negative attitude for another. Then you can be sure your friendship is real. With your soul mates you can share what is in your heart, and not by chance its said –you can be even silent, they will feel and understand you. 

(* Continue to part II - ) 

[ nina Lea-nura* ]

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