About Sexual desire - III

    [ continues from part I and part II ...] 

   Now I concentrate on “self-control” discussion. After age of 31 is the time for humans when their aura field is build and more protected, they have understanding of freedom and limitations of Self, and they have first time the ability of “self-control”. This amazing ability makes human unique from other creatures, it can be found in many aspects of life. Unlike animal, who wants its needs to be quickly satisfied, humans start to accept and live in the chain of social rules and lows. Since early age even babies are taught to pee in toilet and remove their pampers. That simple thing is clear sign of need of self-control, that is learnt and not possessed by “nature”. The baby would love to have free satisfaction of his needs and instincts – like using toilet – but it understands gradually there are rules. These rules come from society, country, groups, family, and parents –who finally have direct obligation to teach the children.

Little children also become aware of times of the day, time for eating, time for play, time for work, for sleep.

Similarly to them, the parents also become aware of their own restricted freedom and different times in the cycle of obligations. That’s how the need of control and self-control appears.

     Without understanding the need of self-control in aspects namely of most urgent “human instincts” (hunger, thirst, sexual need), the human civilization wouldn’t be born at all. It would look like spread groups of tribes fighting together. The conflicts and problems in humanity come exactly from the different spiritual levels, which reveal existence of very low level groups of people with close to “animal instincts” for survival. For these groups world is challenging place for daily fight to survive, and the power is on the side of “stronger” physically individual.

   In such groups of lower level people, the sexual desire is clearly expressed, as all other needs, in manner of drive for satisfaction. This is how the primitive mind works. But mind of human is not designed to exist longer in this level. If that happens, these individuals would not understand the importance of rules, lows, restrictions and limitations of self, from where deformations and violent behavior will occur. That’s how acts of rape exist. And this is very clear example of human complicated psychology difference – rape is case of violent action of enforcing Self, where the right is in hands of stronger physically individual. This is act of domination and force over the weaker – appearing from inability of self-control.

When human being is in life challenging situation, he will survive with the good control of his own Self. Control of mind, emotions, feelings –leads to good control on physical body. That’s the way of expansion. If person is in the desert and struggles without water or food, he can survive because of his ability of control on mind. He will use his knowledge to try to go in right direction. The need for self-control is seen as basic aspect for spiritual development and growth. If we suffer from illness that requires to eat special kind of food or to be on diet, we restrict the food with help of our will –power. Self-control is element of that will power. So we realize we need to achieve it. The same is required in order to overcome bad habits –smoking, drinking alcohol, sexual addiction – willpower and self-control.

     From all observations we can see the bigger picture of human “sexual drive” and agree that its not a simple “animal instinct” and not instinct at all. Instincts in humans appear only in the first stage of baby – it cries from need of food, milk, water, heat, cold. Nothing more can be labeled “instinct” for humans.

The sexual drive is complicated feeling of combined emotional and psychological personal aspects and need of Self expression in puberty. It has dominant influence between ages 15 – 21. Then the individual starts to develop higher mind, together with his aura protections, realizing the ability of Self-control. In this way he becomes more powerful against the obstacles and social limitations.

    One thing I didn’t discuss here, was the importance of connection between love and "sexual desire”. We are spiritual creatures, our essence can`t be diminished only with physical existence. For that reason we need most of all to give and receive love, and our mission is not limited to increasing generations. Even in this action, we are special, as we spread love to our children, teach them our values. The sexual need in human society is not an instinct or emergency call, it is part of the long process of growing by acquiring Self-love and love to others.

For some primitive mind people, who will say “sex is like food for the human, and we cant survive without it” –I wont answer anything. Of course they wouldn’t be able to understand as they lack higher mind. But for others I would say – not at all. The useful rule to remember is – “the more you have, the bigger is your need” – the more you want. That works for all aspects of life – when you eat more and bigger portions, the more your hunger will increase. (and opposite if you eat less). The more richness and material goods you have”, the more you will want (greed). The more you indulge in sex and sensual games, the more you will desire to continue. That feeling will increase more and more – as it reaches “insatiability” or place of mind that this hunger cant be satisfied. That’s the nature of human with deformations of visible world. That’s the creating of darkness. Only in humans exist the sacred link between soul-spirit –body and the feeling of love within the sexual intercourse. In this only way the divine spark will spread and evolve in the humans, and make his act “mystical” or connected with higher levels. Such acts of course are not rule, even rarely to find in the human existence on this mind level (of majority groups). But this will change in the far future of earth.

In the end I want to conclude – people don’t have sexual instincts, but complicated evolving realization of sexual desire in different ages. Their sub-conscious aim (as socially accepted) is not to assure and produce the newer “generations” or humanity bloodline, existence of their offspring. They don’t have such desire inside their genetic codes. The aim of humans is to accomplish their missions of spreading love and care for others (including their children and parents), and their own spiritual development.

Thank you for reading this important article, written with help of my angels (and arch. Charmeine) in month [ Rose quartz ]

- Reference – read the article “Feelings –actions –thoughts” for more on self-control importance. 

~ Hope you have enjoyed my essay on "sexual desire", feel free to post your comments on the topic below! Thank you. 

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