About Sexual desire -II

II. self-control on emotional level

  Most of the animal groups don’t have the ability for “control” over their emotions. In such way animal is a very simple soul, that expresses freely what is inside him. His emotional body is amplified and visible. When he feels thirsty, he shows that and ask for water in its way. The same for other instincts – when he feels satisfied, pleased, warm, cold, painful, loving, hungry, in sexual need. All that feelings appear on the surface of his emotional body –and then physical. Animals do not hide. Lets think now, who looks very similar to this behavior from human world? Yes, you guess right –these are the babies and very little children. They also have their instincts and primitive desires for love, warmth, thirst, hunger, appearing on the surface. They look very close to animals group in this first stage of life, as they have visible emotional body, and not able to hide or “think” their emotions. In this early stage, humans are far away from developing higher Mind, or making analysis, connections, or understanding surrounding world. They just start to discover all around.

   That’s the beginning. Here is one important clue about that – if the human babies have the same or equal instincts as animals...where is in this picture “sexual desire”?

We can answer easily to that – there is no sexual desire in this stage, as this desire (libido) cant be provoked by anything. (sadly Mr Sigmund Freud failed in some important aspects in his theories). The sexual drive in humans appears much later in life, with slow development of lower Mind, linked with complicated emotions. In this level humans start to build already their own aura field with specific dominant colors. (before 9 years the child does not have own aura, but it takes from the energy field of his parents.). In this way, humans never can have emotional body nor sexual desire, equal or even closer to the one of animals. As the emotional body (and building of protection auric field) is long and complicated process, connected with development of lower mind, experiences and thinking. That made humans highly complicated beings in respect of sexuality and libido, and one of the reason for so many deformations, distortions and perversions in field of sexual instincts. Such deformations don’t exist in nature of animals. One of the reason lies exactly in the psychology of humans and way they are able to hide” information from themselves. The sexual instincts start to form in different age, but mostly around 15 with the entering of individual in the “puberty”, and realization of his sexual organs. Freud failed on the explanation of libido in little aged children, simply because the sub conscious revelations of sexuality in a child, cant be even close to “sexual drive”. The realizing, reaching to the lower mind of individual is the moment when sexuality appears. Not before that.

Discovering the sexual organs is the first stage of entering in the period of low mind development. This is the explosive early age of realized instincts and burst of sexual energy. In that period sexuality is hard to be hold or controlled, that’s why this age is one of the hardest for parents who need control over the children. The age from realizing the need for sexual intercourse, attraction to another person, is accompanied by the growing of inner self. In this period of life (between 15 – 21) person is building big part of his personal values, character, treats, equally on physical level (voice and face transformation, body shape), and on emotional level (individuality, aura structure). In this time the first basic outlines of energy are stamped in the aura.

    The developing individual in puberty (he remove himself from the label “child”), realizes his new Self with highlighted importance together with discovering of sexual needs. These are absolutely not equal “animal instincts”, but the needs are connected more with approving of Self between others. In this stage of life, the person (like awakening butterfly from a cocoon) begins to feel free in the world, able and powerful to do anything what he desires. 

That’s why he hates any rules, restrictions and social norms. Still his mind is in lower levels of “need”, desire, curiosity to the outer world. In this time he hardly can understand himself, nor realize his abilities for self-development. That’s why in the age of puberty, the curiosity about sexual matters have form not so much of “instincts”, but more in shape of “game” (even game approved by social norms as part of development).

III. Self control on mind level

This game of sexuality does not contain any links with higher mind or self-control ability. It covers the understanding and even bragging of Self. This is time of revealing the uniqueness of individual.

I move on to the later development of Self, and the time when the need for self-control appears. This will be the time of higher mind, which comes in several different stages, after 21 -22 years. Mostly the revealing of existence of self-control appears with realizing the restrictions, obligations and limited freedom of individual. That’s the time when we feel lost, betrayed or failed in life, or alone, isolated and unsupported. This is the time of “lost freedom” and broken Self, and time of strongly increased spiritual development. That is not a single act, but a process, that anyone should go through. It starts around age of 21 and continues until age of 31 -32. Then the human is thought to be in his age of “wisdom” and understanding in deeper level the consequences of his actions. Of course the lessons never stop at any age, until they are learnt, that’s why these age-limits are fictional and general outlines.

With the experience of more challenges, obstacles, failures of self, broken freedom, limitations, social rules, love and karmic lessons…people gradually acquire state of “higher mind”. That should happen with most people, but we need to underline, humans are already by birth not in equal spiritual and mind levels, as they have had different past life experiences. 

About Sexual desire - I

   I want to write important outlines on the topic of sexual desire, or as some psychologists determine it – libido. I`ll ask some basic questions – is the sexual desire in humans the same libido, drive, as in animal world? What is the difference between them and what are specific treats of human sexual desire? What are the levels of control and how this control can be implemented in reality? What is the social view on this issue?

   I ll start my short observations with the last question – the social paradigm on sexual desire, and what is sexual desire first of all? Under this term (or so called libido) humans define from one side the natural sexual attraction to another individual (from opposite or the same sex), and in another side the need for increasing generations. The first one is conscious, the second is sub-conscious, or appears in hidden way. While no one doubt about the psychological and physiological sides of sexual desire in the case of attraction, pull to another individual, we didn’t view the phenomena of the last claim – about sustaining next generations in general. Sexual desire is presented in all aspects as very close or totally equal to the animals sexual instincts for survival. Is that truth?

   Social mind of masses accept sexual drive as “libido” having nature of instinct for survival, and this is very logical point. We observe animals and see their behavior, instincts and libido. As animals have soul of oneness of the primitive group, their instincts are in very high priority levels. That means they follow exactly what their primitive oneness of group consciousness keeps inside. In this way the most important instincts in them are with labels of emergency – feeling of hunger, thirst, pain, loss of baby, desire for mating. How humans relate to animals instincts? Strangely society determines the libido in humans as “sexual desire”, and not for animals. The word desire may sound little sophisticated, but in this case it can be easily substituted by “instinct” or drive. This word makes equation between the human and animals feeling of urgent need that should be satisfied, in order the group to survive. If there is logic and truth about this theory, it is too little and not enough.

Why? We need to think on what makes human beings unique among the living beings and what are his special treats, that are missing in animal groups. Then we ll find out, that the nervous system, emotions, Mind connections, and links in all feelings of body are much more complicated in human nature. Humans have mind and consciousness of higher level, so his all world, feelings and ability to think on the real world, would be in totally different level than animals. Animals in any group have the basic feelings, entangled together with primitive instincts, because they only will ensure the survival of its kind. Animals cant solve a problem on their survival, except in very simple way. Further, most animals (with some exceptions in special kinds), don’t have feeling of love inside complicated psychological pattern, which is the case with humans. Of course they can feel attachment, strong bound and “love” to their family and partners. That’s how it was very easy for people to make sign of equality between sexual instincts in animals and humans.

The primitive basis of sexual drive (desire) in human nature are truth only for humans in lower levels of mind. It`s spread in human society and accepted without doubt, that humans are part of the “animal groups”, because they have the same instructs for survival –hunger, thirst, sexual drive, care for generation. This statement would be true, if humans didn’t have divine Soul that is eternal and living after physical death. This would be true, if they didn’t have higher mind, connection with past lives, higher self, and records in aura. Divine eternal soul and need for expansion of Mind is one of the basic difference between animals and human.

Here I come to another point, connected with this difference and higher mind. Humans established civilizations, achieved many scientific researches and discoveries, devote to art, music and activities, that are implemented in their Soul. Animals have feelings, attachments, instincts on the first primitive levels, they are not expected to have spiritual missions, but only to survive and spread as kind. Human beings are expected much more than “survival”. That’s how they also have codes of instincts like hunger, thirst, sexual desire, need for sleep. But in their nature these codes are under rules from higher psychological and emotional codes, which come from inner values and principles, spiritual ideas. In other words, what is the basic difference between the lower level mind (animals) and humans is the acquiring of Knowledge, ability to use it in life, and ability of constant self improvement.

The main point why that libido” or sexual drive is not the same shaped “instinct for survival” lies in word “self control”, social values, rules. All of that factors, which make human society part of “civilization” and not part of “primitive herd” (or tribes), are exactly the feeling of belonging to divine energy of Cosmos, believes, and creating Taboo. Even tribes of people spread in some places on earth, have special believes of cosmic forces (expressed in their mythology) and always have Taboos (values and rules of behavior inside the group). These taboos are not valid for most animals (even some specialists could argue, because even with them we see natural lows and borders).