What really belong to us? II

   With the question of belongings in this life, arises one other very important question –on other pole – that of Losing. What is meaning to lose something or someone?? And what affect that has on our mind. Since the beginning of humanity, our brain and emotions struggle with the very heavy burden of feelings of “lose”, “fear of lose” which actually creates almost all other feelings inside of us. Losing and fear of losing is very often in basis and root of many evil emotions – like – fear of losing your beloved is indicated by jealousy, lack of security, lack of confidence (in yourself or life), possessiveness. Fear of to remain alone may create too – depression, anxiety, living in illusionary world, lying (to yourself and others), dissatisfaction, frustration. Fear of losing material things and money –can lead to greed, insecurity, even aggression and violence. Any kind of strong fear as well as strong emotional imbalance can lead to violence, uncontrolled anger, different kind of perversions. Fear of losing your job, home, security, can make you distrustful, cold, frigid, incapable of love and affection. Fear of failure can make you more insecure, doubtful, lost in illusions, lies, stressed and depressed. Fear of losing any human beings (wife, beloved, child, parent…) can make you too stressed, anxious, upset, emotionless, dull…and much more. Fear of poverty and swallowed emotions, grief and pain can lead to gluttony, and over weight, fear of losing something precious, purity and cleanness leads to lust. Fear of failure too common in our society has imprints for a wide net of emotional imbalances – aggression, depression, hatred, envy, jealousy, anxiety, insecurity. That fears are so connected to each other, that one thread leads to another and so on endlessly. The you find yourself in the trap of the black hole., where you cant see any light (in the final stage of destruction). Don’t have doubt, sadly destroyed souls exist here on earth, they are many and we can call them “sick” as angels do.

  The problem is – any of these states affects on any different individual in unique way! That means there is not one recipe to be prescribed to heal for any illness. So what to do? That`s why I write this article, to help you understand, feel and see the depth of the problem of belongings. 

So in short __ Any thought pattern of belonging creates inevitably pattern of “fear of losing”. It`s like a little snowball, that becomes bigger and bigger by rolling in the snow. But here ball is actually made of fire. Fire of destructive emotions. The fear of losing from its side creates all the negative and heavy emotional statuses I said above. That means where is the root all? And where is the solution for it? 

__ There are thousands and millions of books, reports, articles and texts about how to heal your soul, “how to remain happy in your lifetime”, how to be healthy. All of them are wonderful to read, when you face hard times and challenges in your life path. But where is the book to actual prevent us from going so down, in order to not be “healed after”? That`s what I need to ask. 

   The problem is from the beginning to not create false pattern in our brain, and to realize the truth, even very simple : You don’t belong to anyone or anything, and nothing and no one belongs to you. We should face and feel this with all power , if we like it or not, because already the reality of life will bring us to it. Why? Your child belongs to you? Ok, then can you have full control on him or on his brain? No. Then he doesn’t belong to you. (some people will say, then why he was given to me? Not because of God decisions, but because of something called “lessons” and “sacred responsibilities”. You are responsible to take care of him, and that “special given order for you” we see and count as “belonging” ! But he /she does not belong to you. The same way no any human on earth, nor animal, nor living being, nor object belong to us actually. We create this pattern in our brain, simply to make ourselves “powerful enough” and why we want to be powerful?? Think why? 

Simply because we want to control everything around us, and this feeling of control grows more and more in wrong direction and in enormous dimensions. We should all “let go” of all sticking words “possessions”, belongs”, safe things here. The only permanent thing in life, as many wise people said is “change”. Be ready to love and embrace any change in your life, even which seems to be “bad” and change of losing. Only then you`ll have chance to win yourself”. 

__ Now I want to have attention to one other text of mine, which observes “the 10 sacred obligations” we have on earth. Taking care of our body, our home, things inside, things we use every day (called possessions), taking care with love for our parents, wife, husband, family, all people, people with disabilities, poor, miserable, taking care and keeping clean our environment, nature, animals, trees, flowers, taking care of our physical, mental and emotional body…all these are “Obligations” for us, and of course they are part of the divine plan. We are here to actually take care, of all that –in many different ways. We are gardeners and care takers, healers. If we develop and maintain that pattern, letting go of “attachments”, we`ll much easily overcome (as it will need time of overcoming) any frustration, fear of lose, insecurity, grief of someone died, and all other things, which prevent us from feeling complete and happy. 

__ Now is time to ask the last question for this text: What actually belongs to us? Can you now see the light / truth in the tunnel? You could easily answer now – as we are caretakers of our body, our home, our possessions, our earth, people around, so only thing we can possess is :Soul, Spirit and energy. That we actually possess and 2. we possess the real connection with our angels and spiritual guides. (but as many other things, because of our stupidity and many violations we lost this connection long ago). 3. We possess connection with the endless Light and source of energy : God. That are the 3 things we have in real. What these can benefit and bring to us?

1. Soul, spirit bring us connection to your deep inner self , which is most important for the life –path. When we have connection with our self –we ll not only be more and more emotionally balanced, safe, secure, satisfied, we`ll have feeling of happiness and joy from simple things in life, but also we can reveal the real pearls inside f us – like our truth life purpose – our talents and good qualities? Like gentleness, creativity, fresh mind, scientific approach, deep love for yourself and others, compassion, truthfulness. In order to be real and reveal your inner pearl, you should be not afraid ,leave any fear behind, and be connected with your deep self, with your angels and with God. Then you`ll feel you belong to all the universe, and all other things will appear to you as little, insignificant, dull. What we have here is just “tools to grow” and develop our inner abilities. 

About how we can have connection to our inner self –I think this question was answered many times in many ways – including all religions and spiritual paths. One of the best way is “ free of our conscious trough meditation” __ 

We have to look more inside our thoughts, and don’t compare your life-path to anyone else. You are unique person and your life will be unique too. But the feeling that we don’t belong to the “down material world” should appear now clear if front of our eyes, we belong to God, Light and universe. 

What really belong to us? I

 I want to ask the immanent question, which is very actual in this post modern times. What we think we possess, and what in reality is what we have in this life time. In my texts “About possessions” I already observed this topic in some details, now I want to continue and determine the core of the problem. 

If we think deeply, the mind that “something or someone belong to us” in the life, gives many times destructive and negative affect on our brain. When we think of that which we “can lose” in the future, which we simply didn’t succeed to have, or which we don’t have in the present, we stumble to very much egoistic (and very trendy for all humans) emotional stigma” of “what I don’t / cant have” makes me fail on my way. That brings to us destructive emotions like : deep disappointment, negative frustration, sadness, depression, feeling of low self-esteem, feeling of failure, even more – brings aggression, bitterness, malice, envy, harm and mischief to our brain. All that feelings affect actually on our body in physical level, from where we invite viruses and illnesses. 

__ Until now I just wanted to point out what thinking of belonging and possessions can bring to us. What we do? In reality we start since birth to think about what is “ours” and start to develop system of wrong thought paradigm about everything what surround us. Later as we grow ,we continue to apply this paradigm on us and our children and so on…until the chain is so thick that cant be easily broken. We came already into the cycle of thinking, which is leading us to real failure and emotional trap and dissatisfaction. 

__ What happens with the child? Since the baby is born, we impose to him all possible possessions. The milk bottle “belongs” to him, the blanket and bed belongs to him, the mother belongs to him, the toys, plush bears and all things, surrounding him belong to “him” in his little world. That` s why when any other child tries to get in touch, grab or play with the toy, or takes any other object, that belongs to the baby owner, it becomes real battle between them. You can often here “this is mine”, leave my toy, leave me this, and so on. What is behind these phrases? One very common and deeply rooted human feeling – egoism. Our ego is bigger than our brain and bigger than our body even. So we not only think and develop the emotion that everything surrounding us –our home environment belong to us, but also think that everyone, who is very close to us, in immanent connection (like parents for the child and opposite) also belongs to us. Then here is the evolution of one and first of the biggest illusions in world. 

  Only because the child sees his mother in front of him, she is “his” , only because he is give to play toys, he is given bed, blanket…so on, there are “for him” and turn to his possession. Any other touch of his possessions will make child feel pain, nervous and malicious and cry out, the same way the feeling that mother belongs only to him (and not to his new born sister or brother) creates feeling of the so familiar “jealousy”. 

__This is about a child`s world, what if we observe the world of the grown individual? What we` ll find? Half and more than half population on earth (around 80%) are driven most of their life by negative feelings, and surrounded by negative feelings like : hatred, malice, envy, jealousy, anger, resentment, depression, aggression, fear of failure, any fear, dissatisfaction, greed, lust, gluttony, anxiety, laziness. All these feelings are obvious imbalances in all levels – energy, mind, emotions, and body. Body finally suffers the worst diseases, which cant be properly healed in this environment. The basic question is __why?

To answer this question, we can follow the pattern of what happens to the childs mind, emotions and reactions. Then see the same patterns repeat many times in disastrous way to the grown person. Child knows that everything what he needs, will be given to him, without he to struggle much, except to cry out. The same way grown individual will avoid to struggle in any way, if he can get something in easy way. This is not by nature, but become a psychological pattern behavior. The answer to the question why is this: because the human has in mind that he has possessions, belongings, material projected objects, as well as people, recognized by him as close”, he will suffer inevitably in the future, past and present. The pattern of the belonging “feeling” creates in our brain “impossible connection” and attachments, which shouldn’t be there. One shouldn’t be very intelligent to make simple observations and statement about result of human behavior and feelings. 

a. what happens when someone takes the favorite toy of the child? He cries.

b. What happens when someone steel your car? You are angry and furious. 

c. What happens when someone steels your golden bracelet? You are angry and sad. 

d. What happens when your home is burnt? You feel desperate__

e. What happens when someone kidnaps your child? 

f. What happens when you lose all your money? 

g. What happens when you lose your beloved? 

h. Whet happens when someone you love dies? 

i. What happens when your wife / husband leave you? 

j. What happens when someone eats something you cant afford? 

  The questions can be endless in this list, and I will leave to your imagination to continue. For me that is enough to give a clear example about the way our brain works in direction of “possessions”. And the final question __ what happens with our “belongings” after we die? May we have the money, car, wife, child, clothes, and all with us in the afterlife? The answer is clear –No. Yes, ancient Egyptians buried the dead rich prominent people with their belongings and food and more things for afterlife…But that was obviously symbolical act, and more like “magic ritual” than any other act. No one expected the dead people to just stay in this place of darkness and eat old food.