Wednesday, November 28, 2018

Monogamy and Synchronizing in partnership -III


      So the socially approved monogamous model of stable, life-long relationship is not suitable or even has unhealthy aspects, due to deeper need of the soul for expansion and spiritual development – which comes from multiple relationships. Even so, the person will have again special lessons to learn and to develop to some point, but it wont bring the inner change, or inner spiritual power, if it stays in a life-long relationship. This is the same as all kind of changes, which people try to RESIST. Another thing I want to say is, resistance of change (or fear of change and from that personal growth), is also the basis of the stable long-term relationship (marriage). Fear of change and feeling insecure and unstable, which is the one of the basic social fear in “modern society”.
That’s how by beings in this modern socially approved stable family core, people start to find ways to “escape” the social matrix (including escape the lows and values) by many ways. That suppressed spiritual or any kind of development and change will appear as :

1. inner conflict, not knowing who you are and what is your mission, obesity, depression, sleep disorder and disorder of Thyroid (throat charka);
2. Conflict with others – being selfish and acting mostly from point of personal ego, relying only on personal power, and imposing your own views on others (believing just your way of life is the “right one”)
3. Conflict with the inner values – that may be visible in adultery, deception, telling lies, hiding the truth, not sharing, being attracted to lust and increased sexual desires (to your partners or others), or opposite feeling of lack of sexual desire. 



     These all are results from monogamous life long relationship, which is in fact a stamp of society on the individual life. This kind of monogamous model of relationship becomes a stereotype, which brings social stability and permanent resistance in the matrix.
By making stable family core people cant easily escape the matrix, because they will be caught in social work, situations and material world issues, which works like spider web around. (that’s how social media – facebook mechanism looks like). This is the productive way to keep the society and average individual ignorant, or to control and manipulate his desires and needs. Also that can control the image and concepts of good and bad, and values.
That’s how all society is sure that being in life-long partnership (marriage) is good and being in multiple relationships is “bad”, which is very far from truth (universal truth).

      The way people synchronize together in the relationships is significant to understand the principle of monogamy and serial monogamy.  People in time of spiritual evolving, value the concept of one-and only partner and relationship, because they feel it`s connected to devotion. They way person is devoted to one partner can be seen in concept of monotheistic religions and oneness of God. Strangely in Islam the monotheistic concept is well working with early polygamy practices (or historical religious polygamy, which is related only to men). Even so contemporary Islamic societies don’t view polygamy as socially approved, but still as approved by religious leaders and Shariah. But this practice shows one very real and row condition that existed. 

     Devotion to one partner can be very mischievous, because how many people don’t actually “commit adultery in their heart?” (as Jesus says…) How many people in reality do not desire another partner, a different partner, don’t feel unstable, threatened, and how many do not stay within the life-long partnership only because they fear change or avoid being alone, financially unstable or fear social judgment, or afraid being alone parents, sacrifice their real desire for what they believe is good for children? Please observe well, try to answer by yourself.

    Or how many partners changed, or have different spiritual vibration, or become a different person. Or how many in a life-long relationship keep the same feeling of love, passion and support? Or how many stay inside relationship, because “there is no better choice”, or because they are used to each others qualities, or because of endless compromises of Self.
Is that the real value of life-long relationship?  No, that’s the social matrix of life-long relationship – spider web.

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Stay blessed and filled with divine Light!

nina Lea-nour *
m E d i u m 


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