Fear and Resistance. What is Resistance? -Part II

 This is part II of the article>

Let's simplify things by distinguishing three stages of fear:

1. Fear as a basic survival instinct in the nature. 2. Fear as intense feeling pointing at a particular danger from outside 3. Obsessive fear from something that is unknown, from inside 4. Obsessive fear that is combined with other negative feelings, creating blocks in Emotional and spiritual bodies, called Panic.  

These stages are very important, as not all “fears” are particularly dangerous or suppressed in sub-conscious.  

The same can be applied to feelings like sadness, melancholia, anxiety, depression: which are different stages of one and the same feeling.  

 

2. ★What is resistance? Why do we resist? ★ 

 

Resistance is feeling of denial and refusing to accept something inside of you, or situation in your life. Other words that can help describe resistance are battle, struggle, refusal, protection, fight. When we resist something, it means we totally don’t like something as part of the situation and want to eliminate it fast. This “fast elimination” is the act of throwing out something in the lake of sub-conscious and leave it there. Without any further thought, or observation. But the rule is, what we resist, persist. So, we will continue to battle the same issue multiple times again. Until we realize it needs other actions, than suppressing.  

 

When we resist something, we evoke sub-consciously feelings like anger, anxiety, being helpless, nervous and unwell. These feelings in fact support the existing fear, and don’t help releasing it! Because the rule is all negative feelings will attract more of them. They combine well together. While all positive feelings attract more of it. When we resist, we invoke more of the same.  

 

What can we do with fear? ✭

 

The answer is simple on the surface: we need to heal it and release it. I will write here particular steps, how to deal with fear (and that is a fear as general concept). 

The emotions are not just a net of “invisible feelings” that we put a string to build a spider web around us. That’s very wrong idea about emotions. They are very active links to our mind and sub-conscious mind. They are powerful, when we focus them.  

The first step is to be aware and realize that you are afraid. Then to observe it and categorize it – what kind of fear it is? Is it fear of something particular or fear of the unknown? Is it fear from the future? 2. You need to clear your mind and write down about this fear, what is the cause of it? When did you start feeling this fear? How many times it was repeated? Did you have special dreams of this fear? Write all down. 3. To accept this fear. Here is the special part of your action – you should accept it as reality, this doesn’t mean you should “like” it, or “dislike” it. Acceptance means to be aware of its existence and not try to fight against or deny it or refuse it. That’s very important for the whole process. I know for ex, I`m afraid of special kind of spiders, so I accept it. But I don’t try to fight against it, because then it will turn to repeated fear, anxiety and panic. Then I`ll surely attract more spiders.  

4. Then I need cleanse and remove this fear from my sub-conscious mind. That’s something not so easy, as what I need to do is to awaken old memories and events from childhood, where this fear was awaken. That will take time alone, meditation and writing some memories. But sometimes they are so deeply hidden that you can't take them out to the surface. What you need to do is to be calm in yourself and say: I accept that I am afraid of … and I release and let it go now from my sub-conscious mind and energy.  

 

Another method you can try (but not useful for everyone) is to re-program your Mind to not only accept the fear, but to start to like spiders, as useful creatures of nature. Of course, that can't be applied to all people, because we have some collective strong fears, where resistance is strong. The way to overcome your fear is to not let it become stronger or be obsessive. Simply say “I accept spiders as useful creatures in natural balance”. Nothing more. Here “spiders” can be substitute by everything else. All dark things in fact create balance.  

Continue to part III >>

Nina Nour Bluebell *

medium, crystal healer

spiritual coach

Oct. 2023 ©

Fear and Resistance. What is Fear? (part I)

 In this article I`ll observe the feeling of fear, and what provokes fear, the main roots of fear and resistance for change.  

Also, I will throw light to some other “negative” emotions like sadness, depression, hatred, anxiety, restlessness.  

In this part we talk about what are negative emotions, what you need to know about subconscious mind and what is fear.

 

1. What are negative feelings

What we call negative feelings are the mirror effects of our deep Soul self- that resides mostly in our Sub-conscious mind. Because it is that deep, we rarely are aware of our Shadow Self, which can trigger in our conscious life situations and feelings, that we don’t understand or don’t see the source. These negative feelings” multiple and has reason to exist, namely, to make us aware of them and become catalyst for change in perception. When something is labels as “negative” it comes as a sign to look within us, and see what is there to be changed? In our thought patterns, in our perception of world, child-memories. That are the signs for inner transformation.  

Be aware too that most negative” feelings come from suppressed emotions from our past (or childhood, past lives), and in major part are related to other people (usually close family members, lovers and people we are in relationship). All that makes the picture quite complicated.  

 

about Sub-conscious mind  

 

The Sub-conscious mind is like a forgotten dark room, but it can be very chaotic inside. We can throw things in this room without order. That’s why it needs to be organized and cleansed in certain times. Sub conscious mind can also hold key to our fears and all suppressed emotions. What we should not do with all the “dark” emotions is to “suppress them”, so they are going to the Sub-conscious mind. Because these suppressed emotions create later ripple effect and the results are felt on the surface. (in conscious mind).  

To understand clearly, imagine the sub-conscious mind as a beautiful vast lake. What you see on the surface of the lake, floating beautiful water lilies, flowers, birds, and stillness. That surface is the mind. Now see how you go deeper in the depths of the lake, where it becomes more and more dark. First you see little fishes, stones, treasures, water plants. Then you will see nothing, as the deeper you go, the darker will become. That is the sub-conscious mind.  

Now imagine you are there, outside of the lake, and someone gives you an object you totally don’t like, or a feeling, or anything dark, that you dislike. You throw it inside the lake and it disappears. It goes deeply to the Sub-conscious. So everything that you like, you take and arrange it on the surface, and all what you dislike or afraid of, you send to the bottom of the lake. Then it will appear, so clear and clean picture, everything will be perfectly set on the outside”. You can invite a friend to stay with you near the lake, and he will be pleased and not notice anything. Until you “remember” something forgotten from the objects that you throw down to the sub-conscious, and that will come back to you.  

 

What is Fear?  

Fear is one of the strongest emotions that many times you suppress and throw to the “bottom of the lake” simply because you can`t stand it. But there is danger in suppressing any emotion, because in this way it will come to you in double way. Then you should deal with it again and again. The solutions to deal with fear, as well as other dark feelings, is the following:

1. to be aware of this fear;

2. to cleanse it from your Sub-conscious

3. to substitute fear with the opposite emotion from the positive range (like love).  

 

The difficulty here is, that you need to consciously work with that feelings. To write down, to be aware and follow your own Show side. To work with your shadow, and be aware of it. Otherwise it will come back to you multiple times. The same way that we work for making the body strong, we need to work on our mind (consciousness) and our subliminal mind (subconscious).  

* To know more about you Shadow self you can read the article here >

 

Fear is a primal feeling that is essential for humans and for animals, and has primal instinctive nature. That means feelings are like colours in the emotional body, they operate with our chakras and affect the whole energy. Fear as other negative feelings are rooted in the collective mind and our individual DNA. One of the reason is to trigger ripple effect, awakening, transformation, change, and finally reach expansion.

If you are staying only on the surface, or in one still position, nothing in your life will change and nothing will move forward. Humans (as program) need challenges and need to have obstacles of the negative shadow self, in order to overcome them and become stronger. In this way fear is emotion that makes you to reach out and achieve other feelings like strength, confidence, love, trust, letting go.  

 

Fear is also essential for survival of individuals as it creates instincts of self-protection. If you are not afraid of fire (or aware that it will burn you), you will not have the instinct for self-preservation and you will be in danger all the time. But what we don’t know is that this fear needs to be “released” and cleansed from our sub-conscious mind. Every time after we felt such fear. 

Here I want to underline, that fear in its first, primal stage is a healthy feeling, that preserves you from dangers. But fear, as all feelings have different stages and can become dramatic and apmlified.

Continue to part II here ....

Nina Nour Bluebell ©

medium, crystal healer

Sept. 2023